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sinderlou
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posted January 07, 2007 10:34 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Cancerrg -


thanks for the link, i'm going there are soon i finish typing this .....

Your question to me was: what other signs have you dated ? what is the main diff that you feel among them and him ?

---well, i have been with another fish, a goat and air signs gemini and aquarius. thats it. This crab guy is different because he seems very sensitive (reminds me a little of the fish man) but at the same time he has an air of authority about him that i never experienced with the others. He seem to have to extreme personalities like the gemini i dated as well but even more extreme. I keep reading he should be clingy but i don't see this happening though he does want to get together at least once a week. The other signs i dated seemed like they wanted to automatically start being together all the time, not this one and from what i have read this shouldn't be the case. I listed his chart and mine and maybe the other signs are causing this major contradiction perhaps? The whole mom thing scares me too. Every guy i ever saw loved their mommy this one can't stand her and it is another major contradition to this crab sign. another thing is he never pays for anything regarding me, no dinner, not even an ice cream cone for gawds sake but he wants to be around me. I am just a freind with bene's? ;( I never dated a man that didn't at least pay for a movie or a dinner when they asked me out. Maybe i have been spoiled? i don't don't know. Also, what i like about him is he seems to relate to feminine things easily, i find this charming and comfortable and new and he likes girl stuff, like love movies, cooking etc...the other signs i dated were not like that.

The FLIRT thing........I have not seen him around any women he knows and that is is comfortable with yet to see if he is that way (a player) and just hiding it from me. I know he has an eye for the ladies though.


THe comment about having Sag and Gem in the chart and about being commitment phobic....j

---well, he ran off from his last relationship after 2 years when she wanted to get married, though he says he is dating because he wants to meet a nice girl


YOUR COMMENT:
we needed undivided attention which sometimes the pisces doesn't understand bcos for them everyone is same , they wwill treat everyone with same importance , this might annoy an attention seeking cancerian. logic again..huh!

---this is so true, to me everyone is equal and important I like to be of help to people and make them happy as well.

YOUR COMMENT:

again, i think cancers and scorps are more violent than pisceans . ain't they ?

----I don;t know about the violence of cancers or scorps. my pisces boyfriend never a violent bone in his body and i need to be continually prodded and poked until i lose it, but when i do i am more verbally abusive and can cut someone deeply and emotionally to the core. but like i said, if that happens with me, then that person was intentionally asking for it.


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thedividedsky
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posted January 07, 2007 10:56 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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sinderlou
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posted January 07, 2007 11:15 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
How true divided sky! Its like you havent eaten for days just waiting for your crab to come around...but you know that if you can stick it out you will end up with a gourmet 7 course meal..........that is if you don't starve to death first!!!

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sinderlou
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posted January 07, 2007 12:03 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
oh my gosh! ive written lots of them poems. maybe i will get brave and send one........

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posted January 07, 2007 12:28 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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sinderlou
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posted January 07, 2007 12:39 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
HI natasha

thanks for your input!

the part about him being broke. I don't know about that for sure. he doesn't seem broke. i found out that the last person he was with that he paid for lots of suff for her....what do you think of thatt?

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sinderlou
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posted January 07, 2007 11:54 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
ok --i just went out to eat with my crab, he asked me if we could get together monday and i said couldnt', tues? i said, not good, wed? i have to work i said, but friday is a good day for me. he said i don't know i will have to think about that and get back to you.

now i am wondering what i did? i can't meet when he asked but its not my fault and his happy mood got real quiet and weird now i don't even know if i will hear from him tommorrow.

here we go......desending down on the roller coaster folks......weeeeeeee!!!!!!!

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sinderlou
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posted January 08, 2007 02:15 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks for your thoughts divided sky!

Well he has not responded to me so that means i must have hurt his feelings by not being available when he wanted me to be.

It hurts my feelings when i get pushed away like this. i can't help that i am not available.

I have never met a man like this. The thing is, that when i am with him after these weird absences, it is wonderful.

Does this roller coaster ever stop? If you get engaged will it stop or is this something i would live ewith for the rest of my life....

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sinderlou
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posted January 08, 2007 06:18 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yes..i have been side stepping being direct with him because he seems to get uncomfortable. He is sOOOO moody. I have never dealt with this before.

I will probably see him in a week (he should pop out of his shell by then) and i am not going to be idle. I am going to ask him a few things directly. I am going to definitely do it this time. I always chicken out because i just don't like the uncomfortable vibe i get from him when i have done it in the past, but you are right, these ups and downs and not knowing where i really stand will not make this relationship progress.

i will do it and we will see what happens. I dont' want to scare him off though. I am not asking for a commitment just want to know where i stand in his eyes.

I am so used to other guys really pampering me and taking me out and spending on me and i always thought that meant love. He doesn't do this stuff. He pays for his things and i pay for mine. It feels like freinds with bene's sometimes but i dont' want to think negative. someone on this thread had mentioned that he may he llike that with me because he is testing me. is this common for cancers to test like this? if this is what he is doing he is getting close to losing me.

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I havent read the entire thread (got somewhere in page 2) but had the need to comment to cancerrg, As I most of the time do lol.

I also think that Scorpio women are perfect for Cancer men from what I have seen. I mean I have seen Cancer men go from very dominating to becoming veryyyyyy considerate meek passive and compromising husbands to Scorpio women lol like WOW. It is something in the Pluto power that tames these men. I think that they need a STRONG woman but one that can move with the tides and doesnt have too much pride (Ive noticed Scorpio women will rarely EVER walk away from a relationship, their pride doesnt get in the way most of the time, unlike say Taurus who is another sign who is stubborn as heck and is usually thot to make a good combo with Cancer). The two signs which I see Scorpio women attracting a LOT: Cancer males and Aquarius males. And on that subject I see a lot of Aquarius males with Cancer women; or Aquarius and Cancer males as best friends or advisors. There is something funny going on with all these three signs...

Not to bring you down sinderlou but Ive noticed that generally (completely generally) on a sun sun basis , Pisces is a good friend to cancer in the long run but Scorpio is the best match in the long run because they have the determination to be standing there through thick and thin with the cancer (and a lot of pisces chicks I know will run away in fear). Can you handle tough times? Because this man will take you there (all Cancer scorp couples you can see--watch the woman pull the man out of his bad habits, even if they are as small as throwing your laundry on the floor or as big as doing drugs!). But Pisces does not have this strength to transform others.

From his chart his asc and moon being mutable, I think that would lend itself to him wanting a more mutable personality (like a pisces...) but NEEDING a more strong one (like a scorp...)

No offense!

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Seeing Stars 7.21
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posted January 09, 2007 03:40 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Seeing Stars 7.21     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
.Ok everyone.. its been a while since I have posted on this subject and well in alot of ways Im a typical cancerian guy. so I wanna help Sinder Lou a lil bit more... alright well yes this situation is very confusing. and there is soo much more information that is needed to find out exactly what is going on here but im gunna offer some simple answers to this guy's ways. . .

..well the thing about him not paying for some of the stuff. While I personally dont mind paying lol even when im strapped for cash, to some Cancers money is security so they dont get rid of it easily. and I was going to ask you sinder lou.. how old are you two? and do you ever spend time together outside dinner like wich eachother? maybe hanging out at eachother's houses? any intimate time? cuddling? watching movies? laughing? anything like that? I was going to say if not. maybe you should try something extreme lol.. i mean like sursprise him by bringing him some take out and a movie over at his house /or yours and just spending the night together.. and what about something else besides dinner dates? also you said he seems afraid to committ... maybe he has been hurt in the past and is being cautious... but idk Im with a cancer and we have been seeing eachother for only two and we are in a relationship and we love eachother. So I cant imagine going 7 months... that just bewilders me... are you reassuring him about how much you want this and like him... you need to sound excited and like you really trully want something with him. You need to SHOW him that you really want this.. somehow show him even if its a little extreme cause that is a true test of love. also the little things mean alot.. sending him a cute txt message out of the blue.. maybe sending flowers to him.. yea i know it sounds kind of vice versa what a guy should be doing but it would make him melt..hopefully .. atleast it would me lol.. If none of this is likely maybe he is just not into committment which doesnt make sense to me whatsoever!!!... Idk give us more info SINDER LOU. and i especially will get back..


~Kevin~

SUN- Cancer
MOON- Libra
ASC- Virgo
MC- Gemini
MERCURY- Cancer
VENUS- Gemini
MARS- Aries
JUPITER- Taurus
SATURN- Sagittarius
URANUS- Sagittarius
NEPTUNE- Capricorn
PLUTO- Scorpio

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posted January 09, 2007 10:05 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dulce Luna     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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scorps and cancer betteroff ,there are a lot of reasons for it , including positive as well negatives one !
for instance , we needed undivided attention which sometimes the pisces doesn't understand bcos for them everyone is same , they wwill treat everyone with same importance , this might annoy an attention seeking cancerian. logic again..huh!

Damn, I was about to be like "Where's Cancerrg in all this?" He's an expert on Cancer men And I also agree with that...comsidering I'm with a scorpio. ( I'm a girl so it may a lil different) But he has a pisces moon so I get the best of both worlds Yes, he's a bit of a "head in the clouds" type guy but he's been persistent and consistent as a result of the scorp sun....something that I need.

But back to the topic, he has a gemini venus/asc....very complex with a cancer sun. I think most people with that mix (myself included) tend to be a little calculating and kinda manipulative ....therefore alotta people think we play games. The truth is that yeah, we kinda do want to test you
to see if you really give a damn about us. Even if he does have a sag moon (which tends to be open and honest) the gemini side of him will often come out in situaitons such as this one. Now, him not paying for dinner....hmmmm. That's a bit strange. (Then again, I'm not a guy)

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::: havent read the entire thread (got somewhere in page 2) but had the need to comment to cancerrg, As I most of the time do lol. :::

My pleasure !

How are you Natasha ?

and sin , i'll try to give my inputs when i get the time , infact i want to but just a bit short of time (been working on the system for the last three hours , working on my reports )

stars(any reasons behind this some unusual username ) could you plz elobrate on your exp. with your cancer woman ?
how did all start ? and how long have you been with her?

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posted January 09, 2007 11:01 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
oh again, we are online at the same and at the same thread Dulce!

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sinderlou
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posted January 09, 2007 12:21 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hey Guys...............thanks for all these suggestions. i have read them carefully. i appreciate the advice here and am going to consider some of this when i see him again in a couple days.........


As far as the money thing is concerned, he makes good money, i know this. i know for a fact he spent on his last girlfriend, i asked people that knew them both. He bought her expensive gifts too. why am i so different? someone on this thread suggested that he may be taking me a little more serious.testing me perhaps? Or he was used in a prior relationship and will not give fully of himself until he is satisfied i care and will not hurt him. maybe i should play a little rougher like a scorp female perhaps? I can be demanding and all that but i prefer to be soft and cuddly. if i have to turn into a shark though for the sake of getting what i need, what i am saying is i will.

Someone suggested i buy him gifts, do little things to show i care. I already do this!!!!!! i bought him gifts for no reason, things i either think he needs or would really just enjoy. Not the flower thing though, Stars, but if that makes a difference i would try it. early 30's by the way stars.

We have hug out at each others house, we have been intimate and that is wonderful. very long sessions for sure i think because that makes up for all the days we are apart. We watched a movie once and we do cuddle but i think i am more the cuddler than he is though i tell him often he is the best cuddler i ever had. we do joke around. we have spent the night together a few times and that was really nice its weird though, because he is mainly serious and reserved but when he jokes around it comes out of no where and it is really out there and funny. he is highly intelligent by the way.

I am always telling him i think he is handsome and that i love being with him, what else can i do to reassure him???

i am showing him thru my actions what I WANT in return, why is he not getting this? I thought that cancers were suppose to be pampery and giving. I thought that i hit jackpot when i found out he was cancer but instead i feel jacked


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posted January 09, 2007 08:08 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I just found out that for a fact he left his last girlfriend because she wanted to get married and that he felt like they were still freinds. they were together for a year. he scooted pronto after she hinted of marriage. Maybe that is why he is being so friend-like with me???? I feel like i am walking on egg shells..do i show affection or do i chill? i really see potential in this man.

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sinderlou
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ok....I am thinking about what i will say when i see him in a couple days. I want to say it in person and not on the phone so i can see his face.

I am going to ask...........

AM I YOUR GIRLFREIND?

AM I THE ONLY GIRL YOU ARE INTERESTED IN?

WHY DO YOU DISAPPEAR FOR DAYS??

WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO TAKE ME OUT ON A REAL DATE AN BE A GENTLEMEN AT LEAST ONCE AND COVER THE BILL FOR BOTH OF US.

ANY OTHER SUGGESTIONS WELCOME............

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posted January 09, 2007 08:50 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
This is interesting!!!!!!

If only I knew this before.... maybe me and my cancer would have still been together!

Also I have some quick questions about cancer men....

1-) How do you know if a Cancer man really loves you?

2-) What are some hints, that he loves someone?

3-) What could a woman do to get her cancer man to love her?

4-) And what makes a cancer man feel loved?



Here is my cancers chart info for better accuracy!

Planetary positions

Sun Cancer 13°04'38 in house 3 direct
Moon Aries 8°24'47 in house 12 direct
Mercury Cancer 23°34'26 in house 3 retrograde
Venus Gemini 16°07'43 in house 2 retrograde
Mars Virgo 26°48'57 in house 5 direct
Jupiter Virgo 6°41'11 in house 5 direct
Saturn Virgo 21°45'04 in house 5 direct
Uranus Scorpio 21°46'14 in house 7 retrograde
Neptune Sagittarius 20°42'15 in house 8 retrograde
Pluto Libra 18°58'43 in house 6 direct
True Node Leo 20°47'44 in house 4 direct

*House positions (Placidus)*

Ascendant Taurus 13°57'39
2nd House Gemini 12°44'32
3rd House Cancer 8°28'48
Imum Coeli Leo 4°38'35
5th House Virgo 4°10'47
6th House Libra 8°15'22
Descendant Scorpio 13°57'39
8th House Sagittarius 12°44'32
9th House Capricorn 8°28'48
Medium Coeli Aquarius 4°38'35
11th House Pisces 4°10'47
12th House Aries 8°15'22

*Major aspects*

Sun Square Moon 4°40
Sun Sextile Jupiter 6°23
Sun Square Pluto 5°54
Sun Sextile Ascendant 0°53
Moon Sextile Venus 7°43
Moon Quincunx Jupiter 1°44
Mercury Sextile Mars 3°15
Mercury Sextile Saturn 1°49
Mercury Trine Uranus 1°48
Mercury Quincunx Neptune 2°52
Mercury Square Pluto 4°36
Venus Square Saturn 5°37
Venus Opposition Neptune 4°35
Venus Trine Pluto 2°51
Mars Conjunction Saturn 5°04
Mars Sextile Uranus 5°03
Saturn Sextile Uranus 0°01
Saturn Square Neptune 1°03
Neptune Sextile Pluto 1°44

Thank you sooooo much!!!!!!!!


Katie

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no its not saggi is better

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