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sinderlou
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posted January 13, 2007 10:31 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Focused Chi-

I realized that after i wrote the "pampering" part of my reply it was not really a relavent question (Working until 3:30 in the morning sometimes does that to me)

I am beginning to think that there is truly something to this whole astrology thing. The simularities are amazing.

I am sure that if I ask more questions, there would probably be more simularities. You two have much in common.

Thanks again for your input, I will give an update when I meet again to see if all this good advice helps me out.

Honestly, I was on the verge of walking away due to the fact that I was not used to this personality type, but SOMETHING kept me around. I feel that there is so much more underneath. But i feel like i need a little insight to "crack the code" so to speak, to get to it

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Focused Chi
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posted January 13, 2007 12:17 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
sinderlou,

This thread has been insightful for me. Thank you for sharing.

I will now share my biggest secret with you.

I do not do well being alone, I suffer greatly at times from it. At times an enormous amount of effort is required for me to keep myself together.
In my search for she who is "the right fit" I am continuously tempted to satisfy my needs and aspirations with the "right now woman."

It takes great effort for me to not settle.

My point being, he ended a relationship because she was not good enough to commit to. Yet he was with her until she asked.
You and he appear to have a wonderful relationship when you are together. When apart, he is gone.

One must ask, Does this guy need the "right now woman"

You have known him over 6 months correct?

Ask him what he sees his life being like in 5 years. Ask him what he desires.

Again, be yourself and have fun.

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"Your life is what your thoughts make it."
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sinderlou
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posted January 13, 2007 01:18 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Focus chi

I appreciate your honesty more than words....

I will follow up and I will specifically ask those questions in casual conversation.

He is rather conservative when it comes to himself. (i am that way in the beginning as well and would prefer a slow start as to a fast one any day) This is fine, I think it is more intelligent anyway.

He has stated that he really didn't date while working towards his career. It has only been in recent years that he has decided to do so. He said he did go out on several one-daters and found that that was not his thing. He had admired me from afar for a long time before he let his attraction to me be known. I am used to someone being interested in me and the feelings intensifying and not waning in the least. I am used to increased desires to spend time together etc...This whole approach and retreat thing has misconstrued my whole thinking process of what courtship should typically be like in my world I am trying to understand though if this is the way a cancer man means love. Being a pisces sun, moon and mercury, I am understanding. I just need to UNDERSTAND first.

I am considered an attractive person and honestly am used to having people approaching me though I am EXTREMELY particuliar as to who I would take seriously.

I thrive on love and romance, and even though I have not dated much, they have been long one on one relationships and I have learned from each one and tried to remain friends with these people. It would be quite easy for me to get caught up and settle as well though my logic tells me otherwise.

I am not very curious as the feelings of aloneness. That is my biggest fear as well though I act aloof about it. He acts aloof and may be hiding it under that incredibly independent egotistical facade that is so dominate in his personality.

another trivial question.........

Do you enjoy photography?

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Focused Chi
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posted January 13, 2007 03:46 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
* incredibly independent egotistical facade that is so dominant in his personality*

I laughed hard at that. You poor thing.

I would bet anything it is not a facade though. Notice he doesn't say what he does to impress you or any others listening.

As for photography I am not known for my skill behind a camera. In fact my photo taking has been the source of laughter.

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"Your life is what your thoughts make it."
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sinderlou
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posted January 13, 2007 04:00 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well the photography is a little offthe mark, but i think that is minute.

OMG........the facade thing..its NOT and act...NOW I am worried

I'll get back as soon as I aproach this egotistical sob (that is doing a mighty fine job of luring me in his aloof sort of way) with some more probing questions

Thanks Unfocused Chi (so sorry, I couldn't resist..you know..the photography thing.....)

Have a great weekend!

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sinderlou
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posted January 15, 2007 12:55 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well,,,,,,,,just as i thought everything might be going forward it ends up going backwards....

We were seeing each other at least 2 or 3 times a week now its down to 1.

How can a relationship survive on being around the person a few hours a week? I can't help but wonder if cancerians do this on purpose.

How can one be so affectionate when you are together yet actually be together so infrequently. This doesn't seem normal to me?

I am trying so hard to understand this man but my patience is wearing thin. I have been asked out on three dates and i wonder if i should go. If i do, it will certainly break the bond I THOUGHT i had with this person. This is truely breaking my heart.

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thedividedsky
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posted January 15, 2007 06:07 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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jani_jean
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posted January 15, 2007 08:06 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
sinderlou,

Not meeting freuqnetly i shdu say is normal for otehr isgns but defiantely not for a cancer sun ... my acncern man used to suffocate me insiisting we meet all teh time even if it was late in teh night he wud drive all teh way , just spend an hr and drive back home..every day , every single holdiay i cud never escape from meeting him ...

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