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sinderlou
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posted January 05, 2007 12:46 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
i am pisces and first time with another water sign, i am hearing all kinds of stories of how the cancer guys are like being on a roller coaster ride. hot cold up and down on a seconds notice. do they commit to a women? what makes them tick? how do i make myself so irresistable that he wont think about anyone else. any ideas out there?

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lalalinda
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posted January 05, 2007 12:57 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for lalalinda     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hello and Welcome sinderlou

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InLoveWithLife
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posted January 05, 2007 01:31 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
yes they are
confidence is the key to making yourself irresistible to every guy under the sun

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Seeing Stars 7.21
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posted January 05, 2007 01:32 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Seeing Stars 7.21     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hey. this is my first post and it is ironic that this topic caught my eye lol.. I just wanna say that It feels good to talk to people that are just as passionate about astrology as I am. and if you know of any other places or sites i could go to tell me and I would very much appreciate it! okay so about the topic. Well it depends if you do all the right things a Cancer man could be your perfect catch. I myself am a Cancer and well I can tell you all about us haha. just aknowledge you are still paying attention to this subject and I will tell you alot about a relationship with a guy like me. what to do and what not to do. A very typical Cancerian guy. -Kevin

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whalepiscean
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posted January 05, 2007 02:09 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
WELCOME TO LINDALAND!!!

I am a Pisces amd have been with a Cancer for over two years now. I've tried Earth and Fire before that and for me, as a water sign myself, there is no comparison. It's true that Cancers can be very sensitive, moody and clingy sometimes but if you're okay with that then a relationship with them can be very fulfilling. Plus the fact that you are a water sign too will really help you understand eachother and get along. I say go for it, it's great to be loved by a Cancer!
What are your other placements though ( Moon Ascendant etc) because that will also make a difference.
As for how to act: just be yourself; be a pisces. That's all he needs.
Best of luck!

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kindjali
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posted January 05, 2007 02:50 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for kindjali     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Cancer? OMG...strong woman need weak men

I will recommend you Cappy or Taurus male

K.

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sinderlou
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posted January 05, 2007 09:30 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Seeing Stars, heya!! you are the perfect person to answer my request. please tell me tell me tell me ........

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posted January 05, 2007 10:53 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for hippichick     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It really depends on the other factors in the chart, textbook you think Cancers and Pisces would be a match made in heaven, this Pisces sun chick with a Cancer male was a match made in hell!!!!!

Cancers are good if you like alot of cuddling, nurturing, posessiveness, insecurity, always togetherness, and do not need alot of autonomy and independence. The attach themselves like the crabs they are and never let go or stop loving.

A very wise woman once told me that if you want to know how a man will behave in a relationship break up with them first....

This would be good advice for the Pisces woman and Cancer man...

My relationship failed because of his stellium of Mars, Sun and Venus in the 8th and Cancer, and my Pisces sun is in the 4th--which helped with the general likeability of one another, but my stellium of Mars, Merc and Jup in Aqua opposed to Uranus just made me WAY too independent for the clingy, obsessive crab to handle.

So, look at all factors. Sun sign compatablity is great, but it is far less than the totality of the picture!!

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sinderlou
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posted January 05, 2007 11:49 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
HI hippychick

it seems you know alot about sign placement. i am green. i just pulled our charts. can you give me any insight?

SUN- Cancer
MOON-Sagitarius
RISING- Gemini
MERCURY-Cancer
VENUS-GEmini
MARS-Leo
JUPITER-Pisces
SATURN- Cancer
URANUS- Libra
NEPTUNE- Saggitarius
PLUTO- Libra


Here is mine........

SUN- Pisces
MOON-Pisces
RISING-Cancer
MERCURY-Pisces
VENUS- Taurus
MARS-Pisces
JUPITER-Aries
SATURN- Aquarius
URANUS- Virgo
NEPTUNE- Scorpio
PLUTO- Virgo

thank you so much

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hippichick
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posted January 05, 2007 12:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hippichick     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
At at work now,--a bit busy, and there are others here more qualified than me!

At glance, the Moons will be a issue/challenge---

Good luck!!

Terri

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sinderlou
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posted January 05, 2007 01:19 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
thanks terri

anybody know if this a good combo and i am going to be having issues.

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posted January 05, 2007 01:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dulce Luna     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Actually with moon is sag and venus/asc in gem this cancer could be more of the freedom loving type...and not so much "clingy".

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sinderlou
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posted January 05, 2007 01:58 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
he doesn't seem clingy to me. i read that crabs cling though. maybe your are right about the sag and gem he has. he is very romantic though. he writes and reads me poetry cooks me dinner and feeds me dessert makes love all night and makes me breakfast in bed in the morning. its the most intense stuff i have ever experienced. but we only see each other one or two times a week and sometimes he doesn't call me for a few days and it just seems so extreme because here i am all happy stuff with all this attention then slam! its gone, just a little on eor two line email here and there. we just started being intimate and i have known him for 6 months.

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Seeing Stars 7.21
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posted January 05, 2007 02:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Seeing Stars 7.21     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ok sindy lou... yes that is very typical of your cancerian guy cooking and well being romantic and stuff I dont really do poetry though. (I do songs and just expressing myself through my own words) but yea Im thinking theres only one reason why hes going on little streaks where he doesnt get back to you or give you attention. This is because you must not be acknowledging him enough and giving him enough credit. If you think you need attention he needs it 10 times more. Once you give him your constant adoration and express how much you love him and want him and need him and really show it, then is when he will cling to you. Just let him know give him some reassurance that he needs.. kind of like the sign that he should keep going, but also match it with your own showing of love. May I ask what you have done for him so far? Yes we get alot of pleasure out of giving love but if it isnt mutual then we start to feel inadequate and that maybe it wont work out.

-Kevin

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posted January 05, 2007 03:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Belage     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I believe every sign can be a great catch for somebody. It's all relative.

First of all, people are more than their sun signs. As astrologers, we must dig deeper than the usual newspaper sun sign prediction column on astrology.

Secondly, even if we stick to sun signs generalizations, while some women complain that cancer men are too sensitive, there are women whose charts would work best with a very sensitive man.

For me for instance, a Gemini man is NOT a great catch, but there are others women who might have Venus in air or fire signs favorably aspecting a man Gemini sun who would find him a great catch. It's all relative.

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sinderlou
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posted January 05, 2007 04:06 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am so glad you got back to me cancer man! your honesty is most appreciated.

you asked me: May I ask what you have done for him so far?

well, he has done wonderful things for me like i mentioned and i think i have too. for instance, i bought him some cookery stuff since i know he likes to cook and i write poems to him too. (romantic ones sometimes) anytime he asked me to me him to go out to eat or whatever, i am there. I always wear sexy undergarments i always compliment him on things i think he does well and when he is thoughtful and considerate of me. i kiss him alot and i tell him i want to cuddle him all the time. is there more i should do or know? i must be missing something because these absences are weird when they happen.

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Focused Chi
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posted January 05, 2007 04:07 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi Sinderlou,

I am a Cancer Sun, Sag Moon, and Gem asc.

Although I consider myself very warm and affectionate, I am far from the stereotypical "clingy" "possesive" "I want my mommy" stuff they say about cancers.

He probably has a stong personality, independant and free thinking. If you were to need space Im sure he would grant it with a smile.

He probably has a very complex personality to understand. It may take you a while to figure him out.
But if he is anything like me you should be very happy knowing him.

RE: His inconsistant attention, ask him about it.
He may not even know he is doing it. He may not want to appear to be comming on too strong. Or if he is like me he as a very distorted sense of time and a few days can go by without him realizing it because of other things drawing his attention.

Be yourself and don't be afraid to ask him.
I would think he would appreciate you opening up your self to him to understand and develop the relationship.

Good Luck!!!

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sinderlou
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posted January 05, 2007 04:17 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
focus chi

when you said about the complex personality it really struck me. He keeps telling me he is complex and has many levels of thinking and that he may be hard to understand. He says i ask him alot of questions. I am pisces so i like to go deep. so your chart type is a keeper then, commitment material down the road....maybe

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Focused Chi
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posted January 05, 2007 04:21 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
If he is mature absolutely!

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Seeing Stars 7.21
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posted January 05, 2007 05:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Seeing Stars 7.21     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ok sinderlou. Im understanding more about your relationship with this crab. but I have just one more thought for you about his absence. Him not getting back to you and such could actually be him testing YOU yes he might be testing you. You see he is just exercising his briar-rose complex (quoting steph hyde in "Darkside Zodiac" read it!) he just wants to see that if he "runs away" (in a sense) that you would chase him down and hack through his barrier that he is putting up. Cause to him your persistent action and going after him shows him that you reallly care and love him. whatever you do dont just sit around during these absences. let him know that your worried better yet start asking him out constantly and let him know your sad not spending time with him everyday and such.. idk be creative. but yea if that is not the case with this crab then well idk what is lol.. well im pretty sure I could figure out whats going on if thats not the case.. ill just need more info about the situation.

-Kevin

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sinderlou
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posted January 05, 2007 06:02 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
focused chi-

thank you for your comments. he's in his 30s so age wise that is mature. so with all the simularities in your chart. what do you look for or find appealing in a woman?

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sinderlou
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posted January 05, 2007 06:11 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
hi seeing stars, glad to hear back from you!

You might be on to something there. You see, when he does that absence thing, I let it ride, even though i want to call him really bad, I don't because, you know, its like i don't want to seem overbearing or to make him feel smothered. here i am thinking he needs his space and i am being considerate giving it to him though it feels all wrong to me, it feels like there shouldn;t be these big gaps and distance between. (I've written some lovely poems though, that have been inspired by these absences ) So you are saying to do the opposite. when he squirms away, squirm on over and get em! Is there any other things i should anticipate as far as unique crab-etiquet is concerned? This is very insightful.

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Seeing Stars 7.21
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posted January 05, 2007 06:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Seeing Stars 7.21     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Sinderlou. alright well its good that were seeing the possible problem but yea im definetley telling you to do the opposite. I can honestly say that when a girl seems overbearing to me and she is persistent when going after me, it is a big turn on and it shows I'm loved. so yes I would recommend trying that and seeing if it works. theres one thing I also didnt take into account which was that you said he was in his 30's ..hmm well I dont know if things are different at that age because well Im only 18 lol... but yea. theres what I have to say. I'll keep in touch.

-Kevin

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sinderlou
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posted January 05, 2007 07:06 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
kevin

it doesn't matter to me that you are 18. i think you are right about the affection thing and i am going to try it. Hes older than me and i don't think that makes a difference. I will keep you updated to see how he reacts to my newfound affection attention. i'll be gradual about and test it out first........

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Focused Chi
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posted January 05, 2007 07:45 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Sinderlou,

Take this as advise from someone with simmilar "potentials" as your friend. He and I may have different tastes. By our 30s life paths have given much to our personality.

Im a sucker for being needed.
And as Seeing Stars Said, being pursued is a big turn on.

I also am attracted to intelligence, there is nothing worse than having to dumb down a conversation to get my point understood.

I am also greatly attracted to comfort. I mean that as in interpersonal interactions.
I love it when I am with a woman who is comfortable and not afraid to share her thoughts with me. When a woman is nervous or fake with me it's like a blareing siren in my ear.

And knowing she desires to have a family is a huge turn on. Be subtle with that one, you don't want to freak him out.

My most important piece of advise is.... Be yourself. The good, the bad, the all of it.

Let him know the real you, and hopefuly he will do the same. Then you can see if the two of you should be. ; )

Good luck and have fun!

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