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Topic: CANCER GIVING SILEENT TREATMENT
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sinderlou
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posted January 16, 2007 07:01 PM
 
I was so sad over a bunch of things that i got so sad last night....(there are people i am close to that are dying etc...) anyway, i wrote a poem to the cancer guy i am dating that was saying that i felt bad about lots of things that maybe we should be friends and i that i was upset over finding out some personal stuff about past girlfriends etc...
'Now he wont talk to me. he wont answer his phones, text, email. he blocked me from his website. i am so sad, i don't know what to do. any help please give it. i shouldn;t have sent a sad depressing poem but i was reaching out and now things are worse. IP: Logged |
thedividedsky
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posted January 16, 2007 07:14 PM
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lotusheartone
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posted January 16, 2007 07:17 PM
your key words were...maybe we should just be friends...
I don't know, but if someone I was dating said that..I'd say o yeh, okey-dokey, lol
can you send an email apolgizing for saying that? LOts of LOve. ... IP: Logged |
sinderlou
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posted January 16, 2007 07:21 PM
i know i was wrong to have written that when i was so sad. i regretted it as soon as i hit send. i am just so tired of not knowing what this relationship is. are we freinds or are we dating? we just started being intimate. I have known him over 7 months. i don't make love unless i feel love. he didnt't say he loves me. i just broke down. now i made it worse. i want to send an email but keep deleting it because i dont' know what to say that will be most appropriate. IP: Logged |
lotusheartone
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posted January 16, 2007 07:24 PM
how about what you just wrote here..the Truth is a marvelous thing!  now go do it! lol IP: Logged |
sinderlou
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posted January 16, 2007 07:26 PM
Your right lotusi can start with this that i have written already. i just hope he didn't block me on his email. IP: Logged |
sinderlou
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posted January 16, 2007 07:27 PM
Your right lotusi can start with this that i have written already. i just hope he didn't block me on his email. IP: Logged |
lotusheartone
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posted January 16, 2007 07:30 PM
I'm pretty sure you'll get through..if not..wait..he will contact you..it's all
going to be fine, you two will work it out!IP: Logged |
Dulce Luna
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posted January 16, 2007 07:40 PM
Uhhh, you probably shouldn't have told him "Lets Just be friends"....especially if that's not what you really wanted. I mean if someone told me that, I wouldn't be itching to contact them afterwards. You should probably apologize and retract that statement. Like, tell him the truth.IP: Logged |
Focused Chi
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posted January 16, 2007 07:42 PM
sinderlou,Im sorry you are feeling pain right now.
You reach out to him and this happens. I agree with Lotus. Send him an email and if he doesnt respond be patient a few days. ------------------
"Your life is what your thoughts make it."
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thedividedsky
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posted January 16, 2007 07:44 PM
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jani_jean
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posted January 16, 2007 07:53 PM
sidner, nothing worng in wat u did ...i mean waiting for so long and doing such nice thinsg to him, naturally any human will expect soemthing in return and not just disappearing like ur crab seems to be doing or just be tightlipped abt the whole heart issue ...Its but naturally and humane to get fedup.... Top it all hearing some death news make su more vulnerable ... He needs to udnerstand ur state and feelings as well sidner ..Assuming even if he is just a freind ..he has to do that . Just sharing all ur happy moments and enjoy being petted and leaving u in lurch when u need support is not gentlemanly . I think u are a picean and dear fish please thinkover if u can make sense of my point of view
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sinderlou
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posted January 16, 2007 08:13 PM
thank you all for your support in this.
never mix wine and words together, that is my advice!i am writing an email now and i hope he understands. i am considering your points of view as i understand it is important to stand outside of yourself especially being emotionally distressed as i am of lots of things at the moment. i consider you friends. IP: Logged |
lotusheartone
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posted January 16, 2007 08:17 PM
sinderlou..everything happens for a reason..and now..he will have to face his feelings for you..and you will face yours for him..Communication is so important..and after 7 months..you both should know where you stand...LOve LOve LOve to you, and ALL. ... IP: Logged |
sinderlou
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posted January 16, 2007 08:32 PM
well that has given me some reassurance lotus, i just sent off an email that i contemplated over for the past 5 hours. i just blatantly asked a series of questions: are we like best freinds? are we more like boyfreind and girlfriend? are we like friends with bene's? has this been a big long one night stand? he says he doesn't care if i go out with other people, what does that mean?? yet when a male friend of mine from work calls, (that has a thing for me) he seems to get upset, etc etc... i am just so confused, i feel like i am going to pop and then with my best friend and sibling both dying from cancer at 40 years old i am just too stressed out to not know where i stand and how to address this person. i drank the wine and i think all my feelings of sad and mad and helplessness and love and everything just came pouring out into words without regard and now i am even more shut out. i just hope that he responds to the email, it is direct and to the point, just asking for clarity. i deserve clarity. i have been so accepting of crab-like behavior and the secrets and the way they don't like to be direct but my sanity is at stake here and i just need the directness. i wonder if fish and crabs are still good for each other under stress?....idk IP: Logged |
lotusheartone
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posted January 16, 2007 08:38 PM
Oh dear, Sinderlou, honestly, what is wrong with these stupid men, lol...if they don't know what they feel, or are not interested they should just come plain out and say so..Honest, you know...
No Games! Right now, you need to just focus on you and the One's that need you..you are going through such a difficult time, and deserve Love and Understanding..like we all do... I am going to light a candle for you and yours..and Send Love and Healing. ... IP: Logged |
sinderlou
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posted January 16, 2007 08:48 PM
he responded. i am shocked. i didn't expect that so soon. he says i give mixed signals......... well he wants to talk to me in person????? i am amazed by this. someone said i needed to shake it up and things happen for a reason, i guess i was suppose to drink the wine......well it helped me to spill my guts out anyway. thank you all for being here when i was stressing out. i appreciate it so much  IP: Logged |
lotusheartone
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posted January 16, 2007 08:52 PM
hehe, he's just as insecure as you are about the relationship..He Loves you, neener neener!IP: Logged |
sinderlou
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posted January 16, 2007 09:14 PM
lotus--we need all the candles we can get!!! IP: Logged |
lotusheartone
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posted January 16, 2007 09:20 PM
I have three going right now...I'll add three more...6 = LOve and send even more LOve and Light and Healing. ...
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sinderlou
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posted January 16, 2007 09:34 PM
that is precious to me! thank you so much lotus!IP: Logged |
lotusheartone
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posted January 16, 2007 09:47 PM
You're welcome Big Hug of LOve to you...IP: Logged |
sinderlou
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posted January 16, 2007 10:02 PM
ditto lotus  IP: Logged |
sVirgo
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posted January 16, 2007 10:49 PM
it's great, lotusheartone!!
I admire you and I myself is thankful to you to give me motivation lot of times when I felt like disappointed and frustrated.
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sinderlou
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posted January 16, 2007 11:01 PM
lotusThis is going to sound like a bizarre question........out of curiousity, were the candles you lit scented ones? IP: Logged |
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