posted January 20, 2007 12:12 PM              

so the deal is this guy is going to CALL ME in like one hr....i hv been procrastinating....putting him off...based on my gut feeling....i hv nothing concrete against him...may be i am just freaking out.

cud u tell me if my fears r real or just an excuse so tht i dont hv to talk to him?

posted January 20, 2007 12:32 PM            

If you don't want to talk to him, don't talk to him. It wasn't meant to be then. You don't need astrology to tell you if you're interested in someone.

There are some really nice aspects there and some difficult ones. The decision is yours!

Good luck!

Postscript - I just noticed he has Chiron opposed your Vertex/North Node, plus, with all those connections to the Moon, this might be an important relationship for you. The potential is there. Also, the degrees 7 & 8 are a recurring theme in both your charts. This means lots of interaspects.

Sometimes we sense when an important relationship is coming into our lives and it's scary. We feel a sense of trepidation, because we have some big lessons ahead of us. I felt this with someone who became a good friend last year. I could't figure out why I liked him so much, yet I almost didn't call him that first time. I didn't want to. We don't really have anything much amazing going on in synastry, but I have planets on his vertex.

posted January 20, 2007 01:08 PM              

we dont share any sun-moon aspects....on top of tht thr's a moon sq saturn....plus he has saturn on 7th...

posted January 20, 2007 01:37 PM            

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posted January 20, 2007 02:02 PM              

he is pressurizing me to talk to him...kinda...altho he keeps saying i need not do it if i am not comfortable. i wanted to chat first....and only if i felt tht a certain basic chemistry was thr, talk on the phone and meet up. but he is pretty eager to talk from the beginning.

i dont know why i dont feel comfortable talking directly to a person on the phone, without having interacted with them in other ways before. we have exchanged a few mails, but nothing tht wud make my heart skip a beat, or really make me want to know him better. he is 'ok', i guess. and i think i don't want to settle for 'ok'.

i like to take things naturally i suppose. his insistence on talking is putting me off. i feel tht it shud come from within....the desire to want to talk to him. but then again, i hv phone-phobia too....i avoid making phone calls as much as poss....except whn it is to catch up with friends.

by online matrimony- it means tht i registered at a 'matrimonial' website....people who find my profile interesting, contact me. its like dating, only with the understanding tht both the parties are serious abt a commitment, and not just looking for a fling.

my problem is, i don't find many people interesting. its rare for me to fall for a guy, but whn i do, its complete surrender. u cud say tht my strike rate is really low. at this rate, i thought it was very unlikely tht i might meet someone new whom i wud like interesting....hence the online thing....

i feel like if i stop the contact right now (i can do tht anytime) it wud be on a flimsy basis. just my gut feeling. on the other hand, i hv no strong motivation to continue talking with him either....its not like he has enthralled me. but then in the recent past, i used to hate the guy i feel reeeally hard for, before i fell for him. i used to consider him a non-entity...someone totally not my type. and it was only months later tht we suddenly saw a different side to each other.....he changed all my preconceived notions of who is 'my type'.

so tht's my dilemma....my heart says no....he is not 'the one'....but my mind says...do i even know wht 'the one' is suppposed to be like?

heck...wht hv i got to lose? nothing i guess....except tht i fear i'd be bored to death or tht the guy might want to call again, and i hv a reeeally hard time saying no to ppl...so its kinda a bit easier now.

Venus- i agree with wht u said thr....but i think tht it is not that kind of trepidation. its interesting wht you said -that sometimes we r able to sense whn an imp relationship is going to come into our lives....and i hv had tht gut feeling before. this time, thr is nothing. i feel like i am wasting my time. thts the feeling thts stopping me.

*edit* Ok, i examined my feelings...i *think* it seems to me tht i hv this overwhelming feeling that i am wasting my time. i just dont feel tht mental chemistry with him. its a very weird thing, i am unable to crystallize my feelings sometimes without talking to someone. in the process of explaining and detailing, i suddenly find the right words to make myself understand exactly wht it is that i am feeling. i just emailed him tht i wud not like to continue further....and its a RELIEF!! i dont feel any remorse. so i think i did the right thing.

posted January 20, 2007 02:33 PM              

Your moon squsring his Sag moon, which falls in your 7H? Hello? Hello? This will be an irritating, confusing and moody contact AT BEST. It'll feel like it *should* work, if *you* just try hard enough, but it won't. And then he'll end you resenting you for all your effort.

And then, your moon falls in his 1st, but because your moons are squaring in mutable signs, that's not so hot either - his mood and openness toward you will be very inconsistant. One day he likes you, next day he sees you as a threat. He'll like you for a quickie ego boost, and then turn around and say you're inhibiting him, that he can never relax around you (heh, and you won't be able to relax around him either).

And with his Saturn sq your moon, AND his Merc sq your Mars, he's going too easily threatened by you and then turn around and bash you for his own insecurities. That Sag Moon-Cancer Merc tongue of his will give you his disapproval of you hard and perhaps with no small amount of defensive sarcasm.

posted January 20, 2007 02:52 PM            

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i am unable to crystallize my feelings sometimes without talking to someone. in the process of explaining and detailing, i suddenly find the right words to make myself understand exactly wht it is that i am feeling.

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posted January 20, 2007 03:30 PM              

i do feel a lack of mental chemistry...i feel like he is putting subtle pressure on me. it might just be my feeling....but then it is precisely such uncomfortable feelings tht can sometimes ruin relationships.

i feel like he didnt make much effort to know me as a person. probably mental chemistry is not all that imp to him.

i don't see wht we can achieve by talking tht we cannot do thru emails. anyways if i hardly know him, i wud find it difficult to talk to him. then the whole purpose of 'talking' on the phone is defeated.

GN, i didnt understand the moons part. my moon is in gemini, so it opposes his, right? and mine falls in his 4th, his in my 5th house.

whenever i think of him, i get this weird feeling of nervous energy....usually i am quite relaxed....but i immediately become stressed thinking of him. i get the feeling tht he is a very on-the-edge kind of person....a kind of restless, nervous aggressiveness.

ILWL

posted January 20, 2007 03:42 PM              

Anyhow, mutable moon signs in hard aspects isn't a very easy combo. Even an opposition with create a lot of nervous-wracking tension that frazzles your mutable moon. I'm intimately familiar with this - my mom's moon opposes mine, and she's been making me a nervous wreck all my life.

At anyr ate, if he's putting pressure on you and that makes you uncomfortable that's reason enough to blow him off anyhow. You don't even need astrology to tell you that. I think you did the right thing, for what it's worth.

posted January 20, 2007 09:43 PM            

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with venus opposed to saturn and square uranus and mercury opposed to pluto in the composite chart,this does not look truthful or stable.with chiron on the ascendant,there is the possibilty of many issues between you two.

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Oh God this is sooo unlike me because i hate to say things like that so i appologize a gazillion times in advance and one case doesnt make many sooo please dont hate me but my current bf (the Gemini Capricorn rising Aqua) his moon is 1 degree so its cuspy to Saggi. His ex before me is a Capricorn Saggi rising Gemini who's sun is on her DC and her venus in Scorpio (his is trine in Cancer) and that relationship ended rather badly and she felt betrayed and everything and he wasnt that good to her either. I mean i know its one case and doesnt mean anything, and you can definately talk to that guy and stuff but avoid investing yourself emotionally too much, you're so wonderful and I just dont want to see you get hurt. Im sorry im usually not big on advising people against things but if you have a bad feeling id go with your gut. Sowwy again
Here is their synastry
and their composite

posted January 20, 2007 10:37 PM              

BUD, don't worry darling i had not emotionally invested myself at all. i hadn't even mentally invested myself. tht was the whole problem in fact. i just didn't feel any sort of attraction. so it was all in good time.

and u never need to worry abt saying such things. i asked for it, didn't i? and dont worry abt it prejudicing me.....i wudn't base my opinion on wht someone else has to say... but if i already feel tht way and someone comes along and concurs with me, i think that just means sth.