posted February 02, 2007 05:31 PM            

Thats cause he's not right..

posted February 02, 2007 08:13 PM            

I might look to Pluto issues or 8th house influences. Negative, Scorpio influences tend to give one control and suspicion issues, no? I have an 8th house sun square Pluto, and I can be very suspicious and distrustful. I tend to squash those feeling pretty quickly (before they can come out of my mouth), but they are there, under the surface during a lot of my interactions. I know this guy probably isn’t on your “Favorite person” list right now, but I hope you won’t mind if I offer some suggestions on ways you might have alleviate his concerns before they could even form.

1. You could have told him way ahead of time and asked if he minded you meeting this guy. Explained the whole thing and the complete lack of interest on your part.
2. You could have invited him to join you. Even if he wasn’t able to come the fact that you didn’t want to go alone would have let him know there was nothing to worry about.
3. Assuming he didn’t go with you, you should call your guy on your way home. Give him all the details of your night. This is a subtle way of reassuring him that you are being honest with him, and of course that you aren’t going home with this guy.

The best way to combat this kind of fear is to over communicate on EVERYTHING and try to include your man whenever you can. I know you may not like the idea of answering to someone, but it will help you avoid drama like what you are going through now. Which is SO worth it.

You guys are still fairly new in this relationship and he hasn’t had enough time to be secure in your love. If you are truly special and important to him, he will be dreadfully afraid of loosing you and that might make him act silly at times. If you simply keep in mind the fact that he IS afraid of loosing you, it might help you to deal with the annoyance of having to over communicate all the time.

posted February 02, 2007 08:20 PM            

I just re-read your last post and I wanted to add this…

You are NOT stupid or careless!! *HUGE hugs* No more so than the rest of us at least. Learning a relationship is like learning to dance. You don’t come out of the door knowing how to dance perfectly with your partner. You have to step on each other’s toes a few times before you learn the steps.

I know from what you said that you are crazy about this guy. You wouldn’t be hurting so much if you weren’t. But he’d be a fool to let something this small ruin his love for you. This isn’t the end. He just needs some time to think, and maybe a little reassurance. I wouldn’t go crazy apologizing because frankly I don’t think you did anything wrong. You might not have communicated as much or as soon as he needed, but you DID communicate. Just call him up and tell him you are crazy about him, you are sorry for hurting him, and you want to learn how to work with him better. You both have needs and you need to learn to communicate them in a way that is not destructive to your relationship. He just needs to know you care, I’m sure. He needs to know you don’t want to give up. Now get on the phone and call him!

Sending lots of love and care your way….

posted February 03, 2007 01:19 PM              

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I called and left another message telling him he was a great thing in my life and I would trade my world for his any day. Also I said I was crazy about him and not to shut me out, to talk to me.

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Natasha - If he did not immediately call you back after this message and apologize for his behavior, then he's just plain manipulating you. Sorry, but it's the truth.

Whatever this guy's problem, it's not coming from you. It's him. That's overtly clear. He's likely this way with ALL women, probably even his mother. Stop blaming yourself. And stop giving him free passes for bad, selfish behavior that obviously hurts your feelings!!!! That includes looking to astrology.

You need to get tough. Tell him either he believes you or he doesn't, and if he doesn't, you don't need to drama.

And if he's not willing to drop the drama and give more respect to you and feelings, dump his fishy a$$.

Seriously, why are we even discussing this?