posted February 04, 2007 06:49 PM              

I'm here now just to see if anyone can help me with a couple questions.

I've known my husband about 6 years, we've been married 3 1/2 and he's been in prison almost a 1 1/2 year.s

Our relationship has always been rocky mostly because of the lack of communication plus we were very young when we married.

Lately, things have been wonderful. My 2 questions are
1. Is there anything in his chart to suggest that he has changed and he may not mess up too horribly much more in his life?

2. If our relationship will continue to be good (with the normal "couple" problems and such) and things may just work out well with us?

He was born Feb 22 1980 in Bloomington IL at around 10a- we're not sure cause he was adopted but he has extremely curly, dark hair, a big build, 6ft 2in, dark skin and eyes and a large nose. I think his ascendant is a Taurus from his personality traits but I'm not sure.

I was born Jan 5 1985 in Fort Worth TX at 3:45a

posted February 04, 2007 10:32 PM            

I'd be wondering if this is the first time he's run afoul of the law or if it's a pattern. Of course things are going well between you when he's in prison!! You visit and things are nice and lovely. You go home and there's no fighting, no lack of communication because there's NO communication!! Neither of you have to deal with Life as a couple, with all its attendant challenges and provocations.

Amber please read this thread:
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum1/HTML/012497.html

If you are determined to be blind to the character flaws and legal issues and lack of coping skills your husband has, then neither astrology nor anyone on this forum will be able to help you.

posted February 04, 2007 10:59 PM              

Yes, this is the first time- he got drunk fell asleep driving and killed a man.

The communication is great- we've been honest about so much and made a lot of progress.

I was thinking the same thing that you brought up at first, no actually that's what everyone says so of course it weighs heavy on my mind- since so many inmates are that way.

I'm not looking for a specific answer, I was just looking for any insight if it was there.

posted February 04, 2007 11:14 PM            

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Yes, this is the first time- he got drunk fell asleep driving and killed a man.

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I'll take a look at his chart and see if there are any troublesome issues. But one's natal chart is only half of the equation -- your emotional and spiritual maturity, and the willingness to work on yourself is the other half of the equation.....

Here's one area that could be an issue:

Saturn square Ascendant: Appropriate relationships

End of September 2006 until beginning of July 2007: This influence signifies a time of severe testing in your relationships with others. The demands of your work or the demands of your personal life will force you to reevaluate which relationships in your life are worth keeping and which are not. If you do not face this challenge consciously, the pressure of events will force you to do so, because people who have been with you for a long time will leave against your wishes.

There is often a strong tendency to build a wall between you and others without even realizing it. The only way you will know is that suddenly you will feel alone and out of touch with everybody. You may feel that you have no support from others, even loved ones whom you have counted on in the past for love and support. This may represent a temporary state of affairs or a passing mood. Or it may represent a serious breakdown in your relationships because of misplaced priorities in the past or because of associating with people who were wrong for you in terms of your personal goals and needs.

In the case of misplaced priorities, perhaps you have paid more attention to getting ahead in life than to giving and receiving love. Or perhaps in the past, fear of your own inadequacies or fear that you are unlovable has made you withdraw from others. Now the consequences of these problems are emerging, causing you to feel alone.

In the second case, the problem is that in terms of your direction in life, the people you associate with are a distraction or are actually opposed to your interests. In this case, no matter how much you love them, walls will form between you and them, and you will have to begin a new life without them.

posted February 04, 2007 11:23 PM            

He was released a few months ago and they are trying to re-build a life together...

She says that a big part of relationships is all about what one person is willing to accept from the other person and vice-versa...

She is a very wise, Cap lady, in her mid fifties, holds 2 bachelors degrees, one in nursing and one in psychology and would be the last person that I would expect to stay with someone so long and not to mention many $$ later.

Everyone is entitled to mistakes, but as you grow yourself, you may find what you want and need may change....

Blessings~~~

Terri

posted February 04, 2007 11:26 PM              

The thing is amber, what you want when you are 16 and when you are 22 is very different. If you are asking questions, you are probably in doubt of the security he can provide... which is good... Realistic practicality is good. You need to know whether he can give what you want. Talk to him... astrology cannot tell you if he will be successful or faithful...

In my opinion, youth is on your side, keep your options open... know yourself better.

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Leo Sun, Aquarius Moon, Libra Ascendent.

posted February 05, 2007 04:29 PM              

They would stay together and she would visit him......until he stole my mom's credit card.

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I know you see me looking at you and you already know......I wanna love you, you already know.

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posted February 06, 2007 09:05 AM              

A bit more just to let you all know since most of the conclusions and opinions have been a bit on the down side. The 10 months before my husband got sentenced after his wreck things were well then. Our communication pretty much imporved after that but now that he's in prison it just keeps on improving.

I s'pose because all we do is sit across from eachother and talking had to happen and now it's just normal. We've been honest about everything.

And actually, I was the one that was unfaithful- it may be in his chart but that's just not something that he'd do- the free will and all can mess with charts.

Anywho, the wreck was 2 years ago he's been in for a year and a few months things are great, I have hope they will continue to be. I just wanted to know so I could be sure to stay realistic.

My husband will always be wild and very independant that's what I love about him. But coming out of prison at almost 30 and seeing him now he's changed- he still has it in him but not like he did.

Anywho, I think you both so much and we will continue to work on our relationship.

Jan a special thanks to you- when you take someones hope it gives them no reason to live. And basically woulda given me a ton of reason to divorce my husband if I hadn't known him for 6 years and been married 3 1/2. But just hearing the good things reminded me it can go bad or good it depends on him. Thank you so much and thank everyone else as well.

amber

Oh, and William I'm not sure how you can't see something in our chart. Your statement about how I should find out why I'm even in the relationship. Thank you for the honesty but we are so much alike it's scary, he is my best friend I have shared so many things with him no one will ever know we like the same music and we have just about everything in common except for my dependency issue haha. :/

posted February 07, 2007 05:32 AM              

Me?! A lot of work? I sure hope you mean job work cause I just got my EMT license about 3 weeks ago and have yet to find a job and I'm losing it sitting around the house all day in this state with no friends and nothing to do! And yep, after Matt went to prison I went home to Texas to be with my family for 10 months and last Autumn I moved back to IL to see my husband and went to school for that EMT license I have now.