posted February 14, 2007 01:27 PM              

(i'm saying that very sarcastically)

It's almost like a support group really, and I for one, NEED SUPPORT.

posted February 14, 2007 02:32 PM              

However, I have to agree with the girls that are knee-deep in crab crap. Unless you are involved in this type of relationship very deeply, its hard to understand what it is like. At least relating to someone in the moment who is experiencing your anguish helps to feel like you are not alone and not crazy or stupid for not understanding the relationships highs and lows.

The highs are so high that you don't want to come down but when you do go down its so nice to have somebody there in the moment with you.

And yes, it may seem like the same old crap but it is a new experience for each of us.

Cancer men are a breed all their own and it definitely shows with all these postings, Perhaps it needs a forum all its own?

Personally, I think forums are to discuss what is in your mind and heart in the moment and not worrying about if someone else wrote about it last month.

Its not like you have to run to that post to get to the next, simply pass it up

posted February 14, 2007 06:36 PM              

JMO of course.

If you are not happy with what you have get out, can you change a guy, no! can you mold a guy....yes!

And if she wants to post severa times to help her find herself, (I do this too in different ways, I write) then do it.To the people that don't want to read the posts, just don't.

posted February 14, 2007 10:36 PM              

can you also tell me what are your placements so I can compare to mine and I can start learning? please? please? please? it seems all the informaton is so overwelming that I need to find a starting point, what better than having a guinea pig please? please? please? or i can be your guinea pig if that sounds better

posted February 14, 2007 10:48 PM              

I know I sound simple, but I'm serious.

All those emotions, insecurities, etc. in a MAN is not natural.

I think they are really hard to deal with because *THEY* don't even know (or like) what's going on with themselves. So they naturally give mixed messages, push and pull people, play games, manipulate, etc. They always feel at a disadvantage because they're aware that their emotions run higher than the average male, but still probably lower than the average female so they disregard(they still have a man's level of feelings) or disrespect(they feel that their feelings are more powerful and thus more important) the woman's feelings.

A Cancer woman is probably more at ease with herself and might not feel the need to play the same games.

posted February 15, 2007 05:55 AM              

My Cancer astrologer friend says that Cancer is a very difficult sign for a man to be born with for the very reasons that you mention...the emotions do not sit well with the male makeup.

And yes I am becoming a little tired of the same old questions...

Wouldnt it be easier to do a search, before filling the board up with repetitions....you may find your answers ladies without posting new threads?

posted February 15, 2007 09:41 AM              

Really??? That must make me SUPERnatural.

Careful with the stereo-types there.

"A Cancer woman is probably more at ease with herself and might not feel the need to play the same games."

Cancer women don't play games??????

Man, I'm having a different life experience to you.

They're women, and a day wouldn't be complete without a game or two would it? Dang, look at those stereo-types popping up all over the place now....

This is meant PARTLY tongue-in-cheek.

Swerve

posted February 15, 2007 10:07 AM              

mind games though....NO! big no, no! only ...well, only little tests when I want to proof if someone really loves me... does that qualify as games?

posted February 15, 2007 11:18 AM              

I should have said that those emotions and insecurities don't necessarily feel natural to a man. A lot of guys just aren't comfortable with their emotions.

posted February 15, 2007 12:17 PM            

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may do some research when I am not sure about a decision, like how do I want my house to be build, or what do I want to wear; but as far as another human, -to be more specific- as far as a man... I know the moment I meet him if I want him or not, and if I want him and there is chemestry then trust me I will try to make it work as much as I can.There is no dueling.

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There's no dueling for me either. I knew when I saw my scorpio I wanted him. Now, it was really a question of whether or not the feeling was mutual. That's why I would do the "crab walk" when apporching him (foward,retreat type of thing). The smae may be true for cancer, its more of "dueling about your feelings for him and not really a question of how he feels about you. And that's why he doesn't always actively pursue you. Now I realize that every cancer is different and that you say you aren't the same way. Do you have alot of fire placements in your chart (or even air).

My placements are:
Cancer sun/7th
virgo moon/8th
Gemini venus/5th
Aries mars/3rd
Taurus Jupiter/5th
Saturn in sag/12th
Uranus in sag/12th
Neptune in Cap/12th
Cap Asc

posted February 15, 2007 12:22 PM              

What do you think?

Virgo lol :P

posted February 15, 2007 01:13 PM              

He has the capacity to be very kind and generous. But if he feels you've offended him, he doesn't bother taking the time to talk things out. He will simply put up an impenetrable wall. And that wall will remain erect indefinitely. Forget about having your calls or e-mail messages returned. Forget about receiving an angry explanation as to why you're being frozen out. You just are.

My bro behaves this way even when he is fully conscious of how much harm he's doing to himself in the process. It's as though it's beyond his control. Strong emotions are hard to deal with. Men are taught from boyhood to keep emotion and vulnerability under wraps. I suppose he and some (not all) other Cancer males deal by hiding within their shells. Literally!

I can only imagine how difficult it is for a Cancer man to let intense emotions flow naturally, without fear of judgment or accusations of weakness. But, when someone tries to cut himself off from his feelings, it can result in cruel behaviour. My bro's Aquarius moon makes opening up extra-hard to do.

posted February 15, 2007 01:27 PM              

ok, these are my planetary positions:
Sun~Cancer~7
Moon~Cancer~7
Mercury~Cancer~7
Venus~Gemini~6
Mars~Aquarius~2
Jupiter~Scorpio~end of house 12
Saturn~Gemini~6
Uranus~Libra~10
Neptune~Sag~12
Pluto~Virgo~10
True Node~Aquarius~2

I don't get the house positions thing, but it says in here that I am a Sag ascendant.
...well I really don't get none of it HAHA

my house positions:
2nd~Cap
3rd~Aquarius
Imun Coeli~Pisces
5th~Aries
6th~taurus
Descendant~gemini
8th~Cancer
9th~Leo
Medium coeli~Virgo
11th~Libra
12th~Scorpio

So, am I cool? do I suck really bad?

One thing is for sure I have a good heart

posted February 15, 2007 01:40 PM              

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Dulce Luna
There's no dueling for me either. I knew when I saw my scorpio I wanted him. Now, it was really a question of whether or not the feeling was mutual. That's why I would do the "crab walk" when apporching him (foward,retreat type of thing). The smae may be true for cancer, its more of "dueling about your feelings for him and not really a question of how he feels about you. And that's why he doesn't always actively pursue you. Now I realize that every cancer is different and that you say you aren't the same way. Do you have alot of fire placements in your chart (or even air).

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I don't know, it just seems so simple to me,as in black and white, if I feel something for someone then I don't play games and put it out there, if the person does not act on it then he/she is not interested and might as well forget about it, why keep trying, I can't make someone fall in love with me, or convince someone to fall in love with me, if it didn't happen right away when we met then it is a done deal.This is pretty much how I think, it might hurt but there will be another lucky ******* out there that gets to have me LOL

but.... I also don't understand how people say that you first have to have friendship to get to love, it seems to be you first have to have love and then go for the rest, friendship, respect, loyalty, passion, lust etc etc etc
One might also ask what is really love? and I am asking love between a man and a woman, as a couple!

I was talking to my l;atest experiment the other day, my little buddy that just came out of a divorce and he is going out with like 10 girls at the same time, and I asked him how ne felt about that, he said he loved all of them, I asked him if he was passionate with all of them , he said he does all of them with the same passion, then I asked him what made his ex-wife "his wife" different than any other girl, why maary one of of all the ones if he is going to feel pretty much the same with all of them, he said it was because they were good friends and a team, now I can understand that, but what i couldn't understand is how can anyone be actively sexual with a bunch of people and feel passion for all of them.
I am missing the point somewhere in here, i know i couldn't do it.
But, this is not a cancer talk, is more of a love talk.... maybe I shoudl start a post about love...

Am I allowed to polluted the board just kidding!!!!!!!!!!!!!!