posted March 19, 2007 10:32 PM              

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I’ve been dating an Aquarian, he is very sweet to me and {I know sounds lame} but just really nice to me. We r not supposed to be compatible. But, he at times acts like he doesn’t like or want me, he does not open up emtionally,but we r intimate and he is very caring. If that makes sense. He will go for days of not calling and I will leave him alone, then I will suddenly have his interest. He is faithful and we do things together {other than being intimate} Any insight would be much appreciated as he is in the "not calling stage" and I just really miss him.
me: oct 28 , him feb. 10
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posted March 20, 2007 12:33 AM              

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haha that's funny. i have been dealing with an aqua too...feb 11.

see what you need to understand is that aquas need their space. what i have learned about my aqua in partcular and this is probably true for many of them, is that in giving them their space, they are doing the same and still being true to you. you are showing them that you are independent with or without them and that you are secure with yourself.

how long have you two been dating?...because that is great that you two do other things than sexual activites, i guess you could say...see, he and also have very VERY intimate moments and i feel that we are almost psychic or telepathic with each other because we both know what is going on with each other, without saying much (and this silence goes on for a week or maybe more, sometimes) have you also experienced the same thing?

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posted March 20, 2007 01:47 AM            

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The poet Rilke wrote one of my favorite quotes about love. I can't remember it verbatim and I'm too lazy to get the book now, but it goes a little something like this :

Love is two solitudes protecting, bordering, and greeting each other.

I think if that quote rings true with you, then you already understand your Aqua bf. I'm neither an Aqua nor a man, but your bf's behavior seems completely normal to me. That's similar to how I act in relationships too. Not speaking or seeing one another every day in no way diminishes his affection for you or reflects a lack of affection. Aquarians are highly independent and love is seen as a time when two get to interact, appreciate one another's beings, have occassional feelings of deep closeness bordering on feelings of merging, but always return to our own independent self. That's just the way life seems to an Aqua and as long as he keeps coming back to you and has a good time in your company, rest assured he's happy. The other question though is if you can be happy in a relationship where closeness (both physical and emotional) is sporadic. If you can, then all is well.

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posted March 20, 2007 07:23 AM              

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Mom is an Aqua, dad is a Scorpio.
They've been together for over 40 years.

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posted March 20, 2007 03:03 PM              

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I know two Aqua/scorpio couples, one has been together for about forty years too! My main aspect is in scorpio but its a conjunction of merc and uranus...so I tend to be very attracted to Aquas!

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posted March 21, 2007 05:07 AM            

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Juno - I have a Mercury/Uranus conjunction in Scorpio, too. Maybe I'm just having a "duhhrrr" moment, but how does that aspect make you attracted to Aquarians? I'm asking b/c I'm attracted to that sign too (particularly Aqua moons) and I'm wondering if that aspect explains why.

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posted March 21, 2007 11:04 AM              

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An astrologer friend told me so! I bemoaning why I always seem to go in deep with Aquarians and not other signs. Uranus is the ruler of Aqua so if you have a strong uranus you would I suppose feel an affinity for them,plus they are usually unual thinkers..so merc/uranus is kind of similar to their head space. I also have Eros and Psyche in Aqua, but on the thread about Aquas and like minded people someone was saying how they like being with you but then like being alone..which is pretty much me, I can't stand not having my own head space or space generally.. a reason I never seem to do well shopping with friends or how I 'd freak out if someone says they love me after only a little while and I interlectualize a bit too much for most peoples tastes!

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posted April 27, 2007 05:27 AM              

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This is really spooky... I was passionately in love with a girl (28 Oct) a long time ago (my b'day is Feb 10). As I had been in school and she lived 120 miles away from me, the extended courtship stage was mostly through letters. We had met when she was my assigned dinner partner on a ball, and I believe I have never been flirting so much in my life.

This is where this gets relevant to your case: all my thinking was "how do I get this to last? How do I make no mistake?" I thought that if I let my heart show (and boy, was I in love), she might reject me. She was recovering from another love affair at the time, and I decided to proceed carefully. Apart from Aquarian tendencies to focus on friends and hobbies, it might be that he is afraid he might (a) make the wrong move at the wrong time i.e. make a fool of himself - for Aquarians are ruthless when it comes to scrutinizing their own past behaviour, or (b) he is insecure about whether you will let him have his breathing space when he needs it. This is instinct - he cannot stand being locked in (all Aquarians I know sleep with their windows open). Does that help a little?

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