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posted March 25, 2007 03:54 PM
 
I think my ex-boyfriend is obsessed with me. It is been 7 months approximately, since we broke up. An unpleasant thing happened between us, and I had to leave him. It wasnt very easy though. I was very hurt. Anyway, I cut off all ties with him. And I have never answered his calls, never replied his messages since then. The relationship with him was never easy. He used to work as a soldier in the army, in the past. Perhaps that was the origin of his psychological problems. I dont know. I tried to help him as much as I can during our relationship, but one day, suddenly, I realized that I had been growing away from my goals while I was taking care of him. He was not interested in my dreams, he wasnt paying attention to me. He never supported me in brief. He is a nice man though. He surely has a good heart, I know that. But his obsession worries me now. I am concerned that it will get dangerous in the future. I think I am doing the right thing by avoiding a conversation with him. Because, I dont want to give him hope. I just want him to move on. Why is he so obsessed with me? When is he going to stop this? He is an Aquarius, with Sagittarius Moon, and a Sagittarius Ascedant.
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posted March 25, 2007 03:58 PM
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posted March 27, 2007 09:38 AM
Tim, William? Anyone?IP: Logged |
kindjali
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posted March 27, 2007 09:46 AM
Don't judge ppl for their "obssesion"...sometimes it is very thin line between love and obsession.
Ppl when lose something try to make things work, they learn about their mistakes and wish to change things. Sometimes it is hard to make peace inside when emotions run high, because they lost something dear to them.
We all wish much love, and sometimes we get it in wrong time, and we cannot keep up with it.K. IP: Logged |
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posted March 27, 2007 11:11 AM
Hi Slayer,I still have to look at the charts, but I just wanted to say that I'm umm, in a similar situation, and I empathize.  My ex was stalking me for a few months... we fell out over a yr ago. I went through a lot of bs. All I can say is pls take care of yourself and try not to travel alone. (My ex has apologized since then and is tending to his psychological health and his future in general, but he always manages to leave me feeling uneasy with these promises...) Kindjali: I understand what it means to be obsessed. I've definitely been there before. It just stops being 'romantic' when threats come into play... you are right, though, very thin line. IP: Logged |
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posted March 27, 2007 11:15 AM
I think I am misunderstood. I dont judge anyone for their obsession, Kindjali. In fact, I believe 'Obsession' can sometimes be beneficial for the individual. When I said 'obsessed', I didnt mean that as a bad thing. I respect his feelings. I know he feels regretful for what he did in the past. And he wants me back. I can understand that. However, I dont feel like I can be with him again. I moved on, and I want him to move on and be happy with another girl. It worries me to see him like that. His obsession depresses him. He must get over it!IP: Logged |
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posted March 27, 2007 12:02 PM
Teaologist, that would be so nice of you! Thank you very much for your concern. It is comforting to know that I am not alone. On the day we broke up, I had told him about my future plans about moving to another country for my goals, suddenly, he got mad and threatened me to do 'something' if I ever think about leaving him. That's why I left him. He stalked me for a few months as well, I just ignored him. Then, he moved to another city for work purpose. Recently, he has just been ringing my cell-phone late at nights, sending text-messages, telling me that he's sorry and begging for a second-chance. It got a little disturbing for me and for my family. It's worrisome. I dont feel like I am in danger for the time being. However, if it ever gets unsafe, my Venus in Pisces side will withdraw and Mars in Scorpio side will show up on stage. I am not afraid of him. It is stressful, though. By the way, I hope you are fine now.  IP: Logged |
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posted March 27, 2007 03:22 PM
Slayer,Your ex has Libra (relationships) modifying Pluto (transformation, also power) focused in the 10th house (duty, also authority). He wants to be the authority in power in relationships. You're calling it off denies him that power over the relationship...and he wants his power back. Be careful. Powerfully relating, Tim IP: Logged |
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posted March 27, 2007 03:56 PM
Your Sun square his Sun/Moon midpoint. That's why. For him, you probably "love of life".IP: Logged |
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posted March 27, 2007 04:34 PM
SlayerI too, was the unwilling victim of obsession and there IS a huge line between obession and love... I will not go there astrologically, Tim has done that quite well... I was stalked, harassed at work at my home over the phone. My property was destroyed, and it really stinks when you can not even leave your own home without constatntly looking over your shoulder. There is alot of good information on the internet and in book form about obsessive "love." Educate your self---love is not obsession---I believe letting go is the highest expression of love.. Men with power issues are not easy to deal with. I would suggest have NO further contact with him as if you enter his energy space psychically you will be giving your power to him.. Blessings Terri IP: Logged |
kindjali
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posted March 27, 2007 06:50 PM
From my experience I was "obssesed" one,
with really good intentions. I fought for love, never did anything bad, just words of love and few actions I am proud of it.
Am I mad or crazy for that?I wished her and still wish like other human being all happiness in life. I fought and lost, but I learn more about myself then ever, about my emotions and how deep I can love.
And maybe more then ever I learned to love myself and not give my love to ppl that don't deserve it. K. IP: Logged |
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posted March 27, 2007 06:55 PM
Tim- He definitely has issues about authority, you are so right. I witnessed some of his rebellious acts in his relationships with his family, friends throughout our relationship. He is certainly not a peaceful soul. I think the power I have first impressed him, but then it started to risk his authority over me. I am a strong girl, very independent. He has always been saying that he loved that side of me, but strangely that was bothering him at the same time. He developed complex because of that. Then, everything went worse. Now, he says he can fix everything, and believes we can be happy again. But I just dont think so. I have a question, Tim. Why does he feel himself strongly attached to me, if we speak astrologically?
Alisa- He keeps saying that I am the love of his life. When we were together, he even proposed me.
HippiChick- I am so sorry that you went through the same thing. At first, I admit I was really scared that he threatened me. I didnt know what to do. I was deeply hurt. I never thought that he could threaten me like that. I was also very angry, and it sustained me. I dont think about answering his calls, or responding to his messages. I want him to move on, and if I ever get in contact with him, it will not be possible as you say. So much love to you all  IP: Logged |
kindjali
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posted March 27, 2007 07:01 PM
Threating somebody is signs of sickness and all "low" passions.
He will move on eventually, when emotions get used up like anything else, be strong Slayer.
It is his fight, not yours.
I had Uranus conjucting Moon, and Pluto conjucting Mars..I was falling apart, but I survived.K. IP: Logged |
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posted March 27, 2007 07:10 PM
Kindjali- I dont think you are mad. If you fought for your love in an honorable way, and didnt do a harm to her, then you should be really proud of yourself. That shows you are a gentleman  Thanks for your support!IP: Logged | |
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