posted April 26, 2007 04:58 AM              

I have spoken to my friends and they have said to just "chillout" and stop being so serious but i'm finding it hard to just go with the flow.

Any ideas as to how i can handle this? I'm feeling that it's definitely within myself to change and i think it's a battle in me and i just don't know how to win.

Here is my chart...

posted April 26, 2007 05:40 AM              

Relaxing is easy to say to others but hard to do yourself, so take that with a pinch of salt.

When you feel you need something more than you just want it, it's worth checking what you are trying to fulfill with the relationship.

Those holes can only be filled by yourself, but the natural human tendency is to look outside of ourselves for the answers, and mostly, to other people.

Just focus on healing yourself and having the relationship for fun. Do not let those 2 seperate goals merge or that will become obsession.

It's a juggling act well worth attempting, and your priority is you, not relationships. If you feel the balance is going against that then drop reltaionships before you drop yourself.

Swerve

posted April 26, 2007 05:43 AM              

I would think your Mars could help you with this since it's in an open sign an expansive House...

The best advice I was ever given regarding possessiveness/obsessiveness was by my astrology teacher. He told me that I needed to realize that romantic relationships are only a part of my life, not the entire life. That really clicked with me for some reason and I found it hard to be possessive of my boyfriends afterwards. If we concentrate too much on one aspect of life (for most people that's their romatic relationships), then it places too much importance on it and we get crazy trying to control it. Being possessive and controling never extends a relationship, anyways, it only takes away from the enjoyment of whatever time you have together.

I suggest you make sure you are involved in things other than your relationship - indulge in odd hobbies with your Aquarian Jupiter in the 5th. You've got a lot of Scorpio stuff in your chart - which I think of as complexity and intelligence. Don't let yourself get bored and mopey.

posted April 26, 2007 07:54 AM              

Sometimes i wish i was just a gemini or something easy going, hate being so deep and serious all the time. I can be easy going for a while but then the possesiveness kicks in and i get down and insecure.

I guess time will tell.

My chart sounds very me when you explain!