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thedividedsky
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posted April 30, 2007 02:49 PM
 
Hi! I know it's been a while...but how are all ya'll doing?IP: Logged |
NAM
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posted April 30, 2007 03:35 PM
Not bad, we are good friends now.We can conmunicate without thinking about sex.------------------
Sun in Cancer
Moon in Cancer
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sinderlou
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posted April 30, 2007 10:27 PM
My cancer guy has been wonderful  we worked out alot of the misunderstandings and he recently told me he loved me (he said it 3 different times) and i believe him. He has been buying me little things and writes me poetry on how he feels for me every week. last weekend he made a beautiful dinner and a drinks with edible flowers floating on the drink and all over the candlelit table (soooo romantic!) yes yes i am talking him up but i feel like i am dreaming. IP: Logged |
luna*tic12
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posted April 30, 2007 10:57 PM
I haven't talked to mine [mine? was he ever mine?] in a month.
Last time I saw him, he had called me to ask for advice on what to do about the situation he was caught in. i.e., he was in a relationship with a girl he didn't even like. And he called ME for advice. Me, who he had been sleeping with a week before he got with her.
Strange, isn't it. I hadn't much to say. I shook my head at him a lot and laughed to myself for the absurdity of the situation and shrugged my shoulders and said "I don't know. You got yourself into this mess. Now you've gotta get yourself out."
He asked me how I'd been feeling lately. I told him that I think about him a lot. He said he thought about me a lot too. "It's funny," he said, "At one point I thought I was actually in love with you."This is the guy who after fooling around for 2 minutes for the first time, he says, "You know this could never work, right?" And yet we continued, and we continued, for weeks... knowing it "couldn't work", apparently - me just delusionally wishing something would change... and then he tells me, after it's over, "I thought I was in love with you at one point."
Hahahahahahaha. How tragic...
"At one point". I wonder what changed his mind. ------------------
Cancer Sun/Leo Moon/Leo Rising/Sun and Moon in 12th House. IP: Logged |
stillatlarge
Newflake Posts: 16
From: TX
Registered: Nov 2010
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posted May 01, 2007 11:13 PM
Good riddance. He's major passive-aggressive. I've seen guys like that before. It would be hard for me not to want to give him back a little of his own medicine.IP: Logged |
sinderlou
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posted May 02, 2007 04:09 PM
wow lunatic, sorry to hear what happened. cancer guys are so unpredictable. I hope you are over it.IP: Logged |
Seeing Stars 7.21
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posted May 02, 2007 04:22 PM
Lunatic..
That was a Cancer guy? odd. I do not condone.. Sorry, is there any chance you two are getting back together?
~Kevin SUN- Cancer
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luna*tic12
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posted May 02, 2007 08:30 PM
Stillatlarge,
I did give him a little taste of his own medicine. Not in terms of passive-agressiveness, but I did intentionally hurt him in a different way - I sent him a very angry e-mail when I found out [thank you, Internet!] that he was in a relationship with a girl he had explicitly told me he didn't like. I accused him of being dishonest and deceptive, and for seeing himself as a "hero/rescuer" type, and offering people "help and support" for selfish reasons.
He told me that my e-mail was a "vicious attack", that it "wounded him in a very deep way", that I "shot an unarmed soldier". But I think the pain that he experienced was not the pain of a wounded heart [like mine], but the much shallower pain of a wounded ego, wounded pride.Sinderlou,
Unpredictable INDEED. Over it? Nope. I don't think I ever will be. His hot-and-cold-mixed-messaging-passive-agressive-hidingness caused me to hurt more than I have ever hurt before. But I am no longer lost in the thick of it - it is still painful, but more in the sense of mourning. Seeingstars,
Yup, a Cancer guy. I wish I knew his placements but I'd feel weird asking his birth info because I know he kind of ridicules astrology.
Any chance of us getting back together?............good question. I spend hours upon hours each day thinking about it. We love each other very much, there is something extraordinarily strong that bonds us together, but it feels like it doesn't have any place in the "real world". It isn't "conventional". We don't know how to integrate out connection. We are very similar in our natures, yet very different at the same time... he can be very arrogant and proud with VERY strong opinions, which I can't relate to *at all*. He identifies as Catholic Conservative, he writes for an anti-abortion newspaper... I identify as *nothing*. I don't believe in labels. Yet I still have a vision of us being together. Even though he has said to me, "You know we aren't supposed to be together in -that- way, right?"
Well, no. I don't know. I'm probably just being a tenacious little crab, hopelessly clinging desperately to dead and broken dreams... but I am going to keep hanging on... because I depend on the dream. It keeps me going.
Sorry for rambling, and thank you all for expressing interest in what's going on with me.
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sinderlou
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posted May 04, 2007 09:04 AM
My 2 cents...........All i can say is that right now, in this moment, i am happy with this cancer man. But based on past experience (the unpredictability) I keep part of my heart reserved. I will probably do this until there is proof of a commitment of some sort. Lunatic, I am not sure how old you guys are or how long you have known each other but everybody needs to find their way in this world. Especially when it comes to relationships. Perhaps this person needs to see what is out there to appreciate what he had with you. He may not know any better. If there is a connection that is on a deep level, it will never go away. If it is real it will haunt you both and it will be inevitable that you will try it again to least be sure. Like i mentioned, I am not sure of all the details but that is my 2 cents worth IP: Logged | |
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