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Topic: too much Aries to deal with...
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babeefoxx
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posted May 15, 2007 10:55 PM
 
HELP!
I've been constantly butting heads with my Aries Sun/moon friend and she just can't apologize! That's seriously all I want. And as an Aries, I find it easy to put myself in other people's shoes and recognize my faults but I don't understand why she can't.
All I want is for her to be at my level like she used to. Any advise for our future as friends?
As for you Cappys out there, One showed me how much of a wonderful friend she was these past two hectic weeks, so I give all of you major props. You are all beautiful people with good hearts. <3
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I'm just an Aries who's madly in love with a Virgo. S: Aries
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ScorpLeoAriesSagSagSag
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posted May 16, 2007 12:46 AM
I have had two major friendships with Aries women, one was Aries Sun/Aries Asc and Moon in Leo, the other is Aries Sun, Aries Moon and Pisces Asc.
Both of them were/are exactly as you describe in terms of refusal to apologise or back down after an argument, even if there is no doubt they were/are in the wrong.
Both are very strong willed, determined and intimidating (if you annoy them that is... they're charming, funny and very likeable the rest of the time).
The first person I had a friendship with for almost seven years and during that time I was on the receiving end of her anger several times and just let it ride over me and gave her space, so that the next time I saw her it was like nothing had happened. I ended the friendship when I didn't feel I was getting any value back. (But she was very vindictive for many years after, much more vindictive than me... and I'm the Scorp for goodness sake!)
The second woman I am still friends with, its been going for nearly ten years. During that time I've tried to avoid doing anything to totally annoy her, although I've seen plenty of other people bare the wrath of her anger. If I annoy her, I've found the best way to deal with it is directly, by asking straight out what she is angry about. When she tells me, then I say, "well what can we do to fix it?"
I wouldn't hold your breath waiting for an apology but at least you can set about trying to understand the things that upset each other.
But also, I'd very inclined to be direct with her about feeling like she is never the one to apologise. Any conversations need to be done in a non-accusatory way.IP: Logged |
Neferemi
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posted May 16, 2007 01:44 AM
Just going by the Aries Sun and Aries Moon combo, having her emotions aligned exactly with her identity would make it extremely hard for her to see someone else's view. Aries responds best to directness, so have you asked her to apologize? Just ask her to acknowledge whatever the issue is/was, apologize for however she hurt you, and then you can both drop it and move on with the friendship intact. Maybe her problem is that she doesn't agree with your view on the issue, and is being stubborn on that point. If so, you can explain to her that it doesn't matter if she agrees with you as long as she understands that she somehow hurt you through her words or actions. quote:
As for you Cappys out there, One showed me how much of a wonderful friend she was these past two hectic weeks, so I give all of you major props. You are all beautiful people with good hearts.
Awwwwwww! I'm a Capricorn Sun, and agree that we are fantabulous people!  IP: Logged |
CoralFrequency
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posted May 16, 2007 04:22 AM
Does she have an Aries Mercury as well? They have the - non-apology policy - in my experience.The funniest (and true) thing I've heard said about an Aries guy (not girl, but still) was said on Aussie Big Brother..
The girl - she was Gemini - was asked if he had apologized for what he did (can't remember what it was).. and she replied "Dino doesn't apologise, he explaaains himself" and rolled her eyes lol He did have an Aries Mercury though and since Mercury rules communication.. Actually a Taurean Mercury might be quite stubborn as well. Pisces Mercury would be pretty unlikely to not apologise. IP: Logged |
izodesmozina
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posted May 16, 2007 10:27 AM
Is that the girl with the hat from the pic? Dunno why, but I like her energy.
I can understand why this is frustrating to you, but try to look at things from her perspective: she did nothing wrong! LOL. Why should she appologize? Lol, CoralFrequency! Kinda true about the Aries Mercury. I have it, but being also a double Cap, I do appologize from time to time...
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teaselbaby
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posted May 16, 2007 11:05 AM
I have an Aries Mercury/Sun, and I usually have no problem apologizing, if I'm in the wrong.  It used to bug me when other people couldn't (or wouldn't) apologize, but I finally just accepted that some people can't squeak those words out, for whatever reason. IP: Logged |
stillatlarge
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posted May 16, 2007 12:12 PM
Wow! That is certainly my experience. I have an older brother Aries-the bad kind i.e. he was abused as a child. He's a monster but the biggest coward in the world. Strange huh? Anyway, now that you mention it, he's never apologized in his life! Maybe he's just never been sorry knowing him, but now that I think about it my significant others two brothers are Aries and they're the same way.
Has anybody noticed Aries' tendency to be sadistic and cruel to animals? Almost everyone I know has done this. However NONE of them have turned out to be serial killers. lol. That's why I'm skeptical when psychologists say that's an early sign. I can't deny that most serial killers share that in common, but where I come from a LOT of otherwise "normal" young males do too. Being Cancer ascendant you can imagine how I react to that.IP: Logged |
comica23
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posted May 16, 2007 05:54 PM
Aries Sun/Moon/Mercury/Venus here.. :P I find it a bit hard to apologize, but my pride tend to be melted away if the other person is very gentle and sweet.. but if the other person is aggressive, I find it hard to submit lol..
I guess that we Aries respond well to sweetness, but we can respond aggressively to aggressiveness. :PIP: Logged |
babeefoxx
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posted May 16, 2007 07:54 PM
Yes that is the girl with the hat, sometimes it's TOO much energy for me, with a Cancer moon. I gotta find a balanced friend! One is triple water and the other mostly earth and this one mostly fire! ahaha. Yeah she apologized but it wasn't for what hurt me in the first place. I explained but still she didn't really take that into consideration. So I guess i'll just brush it off since there is nothing I can do anymore. Trust me, i've gone though my share of Aries friends. All the ones I've we start off very strong together but somehow end up clashing. Two of which had the same birthday (same moon and sun) different ascendants. One i'm still close to and the other is very too adventurous(if there is such a thing). I admire them, they seem very true to their sun sign and on the other hand I hardly feel like an Aries at all. Except me being impatient!
I got alot of water and earth in my chart, plus a Libra rising.
p.s. My cappy friend I was talking about has a Libra rising as well, I think thats part of the reason why we are on the same level.IP: Logged | |
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