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Topic: My emotional son
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Planet_Soul
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posted May 17, 2007 11:54 PM
 
My son is very shy and sensitive, and on the passive side. When something is bothering/hurting him, he clamps up and cries. It is the hardest thing to get him to talk to me and tell me what upset him ): Just now, he went into his room upset. It took nearly half an hour before he told me his friends soaked and laughed at him. I'm worried and not sure how to help him communicate his feels. Honestly, when he's upset its as if he just bottles up his feelings and gets overwhelmed. He is Aqua rising, Virgo Sun, and Sag Moon. IP: Logged |
Kamots
Knowflake Posts: 30
From: Cascais, Portugal
Registered: May 2009
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posted May 18, 2007 01:01 AM
Hey there  Please post his entire birth data. It could give us clues about his underlying suffering/difficulties. If a child has difficulties opening up, communicating and elaborating his pain, it goes deeper than people think and it is definately worth investigating.
I am glad you are showing concern about this and trying to find a way to reach the kid, because many parents just think it's "normal" (because it's so frequent in the general population) and just ignore it. On a side note, if you want to help your son, don't use astrology.
Psychotherapy exists for that purpose, because each individual is unique and human dreams and suffering can only be truly understood through one-on-one therapeutic relationships I get scared everytime I read questions involving human suffering on astrology boards, because I remember this one time where parents asked me if I used astrology in therapy and I said no (and pretended I didn't know anything about it), so they decided not to let their child work with me. They were blaming his suffering on Saturn transits and wanted me to understand them and "support" their child until the transits left... IP: Logged |
ScarlettSoul
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posted May 18, 2007 01:06 AM
I have a younger brother who was the same way. I think it's a delicate balance of encouraging him at the things he's good at, and being careful not to coddle him so he develops confidence as a young man.The greatest gift you can give him is in helping him find his personal strength, his confidence. Is there a hobby he enjoys or is particularly good at? Is there something you think he might excel at if he tried? This might be a good way for him to build confidence and self esteem. Careful not to treat him like a baby. I think showing him that you're there for him if he needs to talk (most boys dont want to) is good. Spend quality time with him as much as you can. And if his dad's around, this is probably a great time for some man-to-man time. If not, is there a male role model he might be able to relate to? Good luck to you. Raising boys is hard work! I wish you both the best. IP: Logged |
Planet_Soul
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posted May 18, 2007 08:45 PM
Hi Kamots,
He was born on 9/16/99
5:45 p.m.
Fresno, Ca.
I agree with you astro is not the total picture. I was very upset when I posted, and thought why not I love this place and the people who frequent give great insight. I was very much the same way as a child. I wondered if a Piscean influence contributes to shyness. I have a Pisces Moon and my son's first house is mostly all PIsces. Scarlet, he has been shy since he was born. I do think it became worse after his father and I divorced. His father left the day after he turned a year old. He became clingy, and I enabled it. I felt guilty about the divorce, and didn't discourage it. Now, I have remarried and he has a father figure. My husband encourages him to be more confident, and spends lots of time with him. Most of the time my son responds beautifully. It is when he's emotionally upset that he shuts down. His school has even enrolled him in a speech class. I am thinking of enrolling him in karate, as he loves being active (Sag Mars). I'm going to ask him if he'd rather take that or soccer. IP: Logged | |
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