posted May 18, 2007 04:07 PM              

My birthday is Monday. Though I would love it, there is no way D. is going to remember. He thanked me back in November for inadvertently reminding him of his own nurse's birthday. She has only been working for him a gazillion years (Scorpio). She laughingly (rollin' eyes) told me at a later visit that he called her up frantic and nervous that evening apparently after I had mentioned her birthday in passing.

posted May 18, 2007 06:37 PM            

due to piscean relativity, sometimes birthdays just to not matter...including mine...

posted May 18, 2007 06:41 PM              

I always thought it was my Virgo moon.LOL

posted May 20, 2007 11:50 PM              

What if he remembers it, but doesn't let anyone (not even you) know that he knows about your birthday

posted May 22, 2007 11:35 AM              

Sorry, I didn’t mean to hurt you.

Just wanted to add one more possibility to the list of existing two – ‘remember’ or ‘not remember’.

I meant 15 mins before 21 as it was midnight, anyways hope you had a nice birthday and also he wished you.

***Why would he do this? Sounds like my Pisces dad
You answered your own question Its Pisces…I guess we are complex creatures
Its shyness if he doesn’t know the other girl. And knowing out here means being friends. We might think what she will think that I have feelings for her. We always want to be sure of situation before letting someone know about our feelings.

It’s intriguing that we shy away from people whom we don’t know and yet attracted to them. I guess we don’t want to be known well or portrayed in any way, unless it’s someone very close. Secretive hun…Its just natural. I guess we don’t want to care for someone openly or care for someone without wanting the other person to know. Its all about shyness.

For situations like yours, where both know each other, he could try limiting himself by not doing things which causes the relation to be deeper (from his perspective). Or doing things, which he thinks, will not cause relation to go beyond limits. When I am not sure where the relation stands or where it is going to go or when I am not sure of myself on the relation, I will try to restrict myself (even though we might have feelings for someone). We might not be sure of a situation/relationship when the bond is neither strong nor weak, somewhere in between.

For other situations where we are just casual friends, we may remember or may not remember, may wish or may not wish.

Till a time I used to make a point of wishing all my friends, either remembering their Birthdays or keeping a list. Lately it’s no more a point that has to take place, I mean most of the times I do remember and wish, however sometimes I may not do so. I guess I kind of have lost all interest. Quiet a few times, I remember it few days before the birthday and just can’t do that on the day itself. Then next day I realize, oh I forgot to wish. So on occasions I might wish it in advance
However for close friends I do remember and try to wish most of them.

Also we try to remember and wish lot of people. So remembering the dates is kind of difficult, so that’s where others might see that we remember the birthday in few days around the actual day. Its like we trying to remember it in relation with some other things like month, someone else’s birthday etc.

Situations like my-Sagi scenario, I won’t wish her, though I might remember, as I am too embarrassed to do that.

posted May 23, 2007 11:06 AM              

I'm not going to linger on it but I find him to be very draining sometimes. My needs via him are very limited, quite small actually. And I don't like when people who profess to be so sensitive can't once in a blue moon see that someone else has deep feelings that also get hurt and frightened. He seems really remorseful but I am not sure that I need remorse as much as forethought and consideration.