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Topic: I Really Need A Hug..
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MoonDreamer81
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posted May 21, 2007 10:01 PM
 
Ok....I know this probably isn't the best place to vent,and I've only been here a month and a half,but I knew with all the kind-hearted people here someone could offer some encouragement.My Virgo guy(The one I have all the amazing synastry aspects with) just called me up and told me that he has an exclusive GF.I knew he dated around(he's always been very honest and up-front with me about this),and kinda had a feeling there was something going on between him and this girl.I can't even be mad at him.He's so genuine and sincere...which just makes it harder for me!  He said it was really hard for him to call and tell me that,but that he respects me and we've always had very open lines of communication.He said that we will still chat and talk on the phone every day,that he is NOT abandoning me,just that we won't be "intimate".And I believe him because he truly has such a good spirit.It's just hard knowing that I won't be his girl.I am happy for him,but my heart is still broken.I guess I really shouldn't be surprised.I had a dream not even a week ago that this exact situation occured(Him calling me and telling me he was "exclusive" with this girl).I just dismissed the dream,but it was very sequencial...like it was something that could happen in real life.I guess my sub-conscious knew what my heart wanted to ignore.I'm really torn about my feelings.I'm so grateful for the joy that this guy has brought me over the past 5 months.He still says he feels a connection with me and loves me and that he'll always be there for me.I think he wants to protect me.He let me down as gently as anyone possibly could,but it still doesn't lessen my heartache.I think he could tell I was on the verge of tears on the phone.He kept asking if I was ok and said I still have a piece of his heart.I think I'll write him an email.I've always been better at writing than talking.Thanks for listening you guys.I'm sure this is very boring to read! ------------------
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phoenix1111
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posted May 21, 2007 10:19 PM
Hi Moondreamer,
I think you are being very positive about this whole thing and that's good, and I think that was very "manly" of him to tell you about it before you found out some other way than from his own mouth. Most men I have known would not do that, they would be cowards and I am the kind of girl who wants to know, don't care how much it hurts to hear the truth, I want it. If you truly think that this guy is as great as you say, then believe it, there is nothing wrong with that. I have confided in people some personal things about someone special to me and I have been told I am being blind and stupid for believing in that person. I think it doesn't matter what anyone says, it's what you believe in your heart. I do think you should move on ASA you are ready, the sooner the better for loss of time. Try to focus on yourself and what you want in life and the rest will fall into place. :-) He may come back, he may not, but in the meantime, Live your life for YOU. IP: Logged |
NAM
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posted May 21, 2007 10:49 PM
((((((hugs))))))I know a Virgo guy that was always up front with me too, I liked him A LOT and he knew it and even know he liked me he was always sincere and never mislead me,I was heart broken for a bit but after a while the whole thing meant nothing and I understood that it was nothing but a little crush, but now I have great respect for him. I know this is probably not very comforting but as said in the post above the best thing you can do is go on with your life and do things thinking only of YOU, I also know this is not easy to do but once you start keeping busy and spending that extra time where we sit and think of someone holding us you will forget about him and the right man will come along. Good luck and lots of luck. IP: Logged |
MoonDreamer81
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posted May 21, 2007 11:08 PM
Thanks y'all.It's just gonna take some time,but I know eventually I will be ok.After all,I was heartbroken when I met him,and then out of the blue he popped up and brightened my life!I had just gotten out of a 7 yr. abusive relationship and had no self-esteem left.But Mr. Virgo has always made me feel beautiful and special.He truly has made such an impact on my life,even though we've never physically met.I guess now I know what hs Venus conjunct my NN means.He HAS taught me about love and relationships,and will always have my heart.I just sent the email and told him as much(In between crying spells).I think I'll spend the night crying and hopefully feel better in the morning.------------------
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NAM
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posted May 21, 2007 11:16 PM
That's funny, I once told this Virgo guy I thought he was sent to me because I had was to learn something from him, I just didn't know what, this was before I even belive in signs or anything like it.
In deed he taught me a lot of stuff.Smile!  IP: Logged |
MoonDreamer81
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posted May 21, 2007 11:31 PM
Here is a portion of the email I sent... "I just wanted to write to you because sometimes I run out of words to say when we're on the phone,and I was on the verge of tears anyway,so it probably wouldn't have come out right.I'm not good at hiding my feelings!I wanted to tell you that I truly appreciate your honesty and the fact that you don't want to lead me on.I know that wasn't an easy phone call for you to make.You definately have my respect and admiration for that,but it unfortunately makes me love you even more.You have been such a blessing to me.
When we first started talking,as you know,I had just broken up with my ex a month before,and I was so down on myself.I felt like a failure for not making that relationship work ,and I had very little self-confidance left.I thought "I must be a really horrible person if he has to drink to even be around me." I knew in my heart that I wasn't a horrible person,but that is just what I believed.
You have taught me so much about relationships,and I will be eternally grateful!You made me feel beautiful and special when I didn't think I was deserving of that kind of attention.I still have trouble taking compliments,but it is getting easier.You really have made an impact on my life,more than you can possibly imagine.
All I want is the best for you(although....yea...I would love for you to be with me!).I can't think of anyone more deserving of happiness than you, and I sincerely hope that whoever you end up with brings you that unimagineable joy,the way you have brought it to me!!And if for some reason things don't work out,I'm still here.I can honestly say I will never forget you.
I know we can only be friends right now!I'd be lying if I said it didn't hurt,but I will be ok!I know you worry about hurting people,but that is just life!!I couldn't have ask to be let down any easier.Your friendship means the world to me and I value everything you say.I realize that we haven't met,but I can tell just by talking to you that you have such a compassionate spirit.Wisdom simply radiates out of you!I have the feeling that you help more people than you can comprehend!You are an angel!" ------------------
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Lucia23
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posted May 21, 2007 11:52 PM
Hugs!!!I don't have any wisdom here, given that I'm suffering from unrequited feelings too...but I'll send you good thoughts! IP: Logged |
izodesmozina
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posted May 22, 2007 12:56 AM
 ((((((((((((MoonDreamer81))))))))))))) Oh honey... I'm so sorry... . I know how you feel... This is just so awful! And you had such beautiful aspects!... It breaks my heart to see this happening.
I think it was nice of him to tell you the whole thing, too. The man has character. You should keep him in your life, you need a friend like him.
I know right now it hurts like hell, but it will get better in time. Time is the perfect killer... for everything. It is a good thing this happened before you guys got even more closer. You will get over him and find another guy who will appreciate you and cherish you. The Virgo did teach you to appreciate yourself more and not settle to be treated anyway else than with love and respect.
Don't ask too much of yourself these days. Just be patient with yourself and your pain. It will heal.
I'm sending lots of love your way. Be well! Hugs and kisses,
Izo PS: I just found out a disturbing thing about my guy too - last night. There seems to be so many similarities between our situations... Will write about it later, when I'll receive some decent explanations myself... ------------------
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BlueTopaz124
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posted May 22, 2007 01:02 AM
(((Hugs))) for you  ...wallow in your feelings for a few days and get it out of your system...you'll be okay.At least he told you himself, so he respects your friendship. IP: Logged |
MoonDreamer81
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posted May 22, 2007 01:25 PM
Thanks for the encouragement y'all.I'm feelin a little better this morning.He sent me a text saying I'd always be his princess,and that nothing had changed between us,except for the fact that we won't be "intimate"...for right now anyway.He said if I lived over there it would be differant.I guess he's just not up to doing the long-distance thing.He says he does have feelings for me,but since both of us lack transportation right now it poses a problem.I kinda feel like he's "settling" for something easy.I don't mean the girl is "easy"...LOL...just that it's easier to date someone in his town.I reminded him that any relationship(friendship or romantic) has it's challenges.God...I HATE being hopeful sometimes.Must be that Neptune in the 7th!I'm still in love with him,and told him the door was still open if things don't work out with her.------------------
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izodesmozina
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posted May 23, 2007 12:05 AM
Boy, your story sounds like deja-vu to me... I had the same impression that the Bull is "settling" for a version of me ~ one that was closer to him (back when I thought he is seeing that girl who looks like me). I didn't think they'll work it out, either (she was Libra, same thing with Taurus as the Aries-Virgo thing, though I DO believe we are more than our Sun signs... I got her birth data and they seemed somewhat compatible... and they had an EXACT Venus-Pluto conjunction... this made me reconsider my initial thoughts. I still can't understand why he's not with her... she seemed willing, from what I know).
Anyway, back to you. In my opinion, it is good to be optimistic, but you shouldn't put your life on hold based on this optimism... But I am the kind of person who thinks anything can happen and that life is full of surprises... Just keep your options open. You never know what tomorrow might bring!------------------
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Diandra23
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posted May 23, 2007 10:59 AM
Moon I wished i saw this earlier... Im trully sorry for your pain right now.
And I admire your strengh on this as well as your evolved spirit on regarding this situation with so much honesty and sincere feelings torwards him.
You know,so many times,when people see their feelings beein unrequited ( even it might be temporary),they just feel such angry and rebell against others,and sees the world as a bad place..but you are revealing yourself your strengh,your great and big heart and specially your kind and sweet spirit
I believe that everyting happens for a reason,and many of the times we dont know why things happen and dont see its hidden significances untill we are ready for it. Right now,it must be awful to you knonwing he has another girl and that because of the distance, you 2 cant even meet and speak in each other´s eyes.
But keep faith in the future! 1st,he wasw very very great guy by speaking honestly to you, and you showed him that you´re a very special person by being honest yourself too (even being so difficult to speak on that moments so delicate).
Izo said it : the future always hold us many surprises,some good some less good,but you never know,right?Maybe this one at first starts to be bad at your eyes but with time,find out that it´s a start for beautifull happenings and new begginings!
He may feel that you´re most important than her,since he starts to know her better;or you may find another gyu who is better for you and your peace of mind and happiness! Believe aboe all in you and in your capabilitty to be happy IP: Logged | |
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