posted June 24, 2007 06:32 PM              

I have all of the compatibility info. below for me and my 'friend'. I can see the positive and negative influences, but I'm not sure how to put all of it together to see if we really are a good match romantically. We've known each other since last fall and have just recently started dateing. Any imput would be greatly appreciated!

Synastry data for Amy and Mark
Generated by Astromatch
Planetary positions

Amy 01/12/1962 2:52am
Latitude 46 N 47 Longitude 92 W 06 23 GMT: 08:52:00 Time Zone: 6 hours West. Tropical Zodiac

Sun 21' 42' Capricorn
Moon 10' 48' Aries
Mercury 07' 33' Aquarius
Venus 18' 06' Capricorn
Mars 14' 09' Capricorn
Jupiter 13' 00' Aquarius
Saturn 01' 06' Aquarius
Uranus 29' 53' Leo
Neptune 13' 09' Scorpio
Pluto 09' 52' Virgo

Mark 05/09/1977 2:53pm
Latitude 44 N 43 55 Longitude 93 W 13 03 GMT: 19:53:00 Time Zone: 6 hours West. Tropical Zodiac

Sun 19' 04' Taurus
Moon 14' 46' Aquarius
Mercury 05' 20' Taurus
Venus 11' 02' Aries
Mars 09' 23' Aries
Jupiter 07' 43' Gemini
Saturn 10' 45' Leo
Uranus 09' 19' Scorpio
Neptune 15' 25' Sagittarius
Pluto 11' 49' Libra

Synastry aspects
Trine Amy Sun / Mark Sun - orb: 02' 37'
This is an excellent comparative combination for mutual compatibility. You have many similar values and you're likely to be natural friends. This is a helpful aspect for romantic relationships and marriage. There is enough similarity in self-expression to produce harmony, but not so much that competition is likely to be a problem. The tone of relationship will be determined a great deal by the element (Earth, Fire, Air, or Water) in which to Sun is found.

Sextile Amy Moon / Mark Moon - orb: 03' 58'
This aspect aids communication and emotional empathy. In family and domestic relationships, this combination show compatibility derived from habit patterns established in the childhood family.

Conjunction Amy Moon / Mark Venus - orb: 00' 14'
This is a very strong sexual and emotional link and one of the best comparative aspects for romance. There is an exchange of domestic and emotional stability, with love and emotional understanding. There is a sensitive harmony with each other's moods and subconscious emotional responses. This aspect shows the ability to share in very feeling ways. This is an excellent aspect for marriage, family relationships, and for any persons who are working together in a close relationship. It is both harmonious and understanding.

Conjunction Amy Moon / Mark Mars - orb: 01' 25'
This is a difficult comparative aspect because the aggressiveness of Mars upsets and irritates the Moon, the Moon person's moodiness and sensitivity makes the Mars person impatient. In two really strong charts this aspect can produce constructive action in business, family and domestic affairs. It may produce a good deal of sexual attraction, but with no guarantee of compatibility. Mars is too apt to try to change the partner. This connection works best in circumstances when the Mars person is the Male and the Moon person is the female. However, in all cases this is a difficult combination for marriage, family relationships, or for people who live together, since it is likely to produce domestic disagreements.

Sextile Amy Moon / Mark Jupiter - orb: 03' 05'
This comparative combination produces generosity and good will in your relationship. This aspect is better in business relationships as it provides a basis of understanding and trust. These elements are, of course, helpful in any relationship.

Trine Amy Moon / Mark Saturn - orb: 00' 03'
This comparative combination is helpful for cooperation in serious responsibilities, business matters, and domestic affairs. It is not an indicator of romantic attractions, but it certainly improves the durability of a relationship by conferring a practical, responsible approach to everyday issues and problems. You may tend to rely on each other for security or stability. Saturn tends to be the restraining or disciplining influence in the relationship.

Conjunction Mark Moon / Amy Mercury - orb: 07' 13'
This aspect provides a good avenue for communication, although in some cases people that share this aspect talk so incessantly about trivial and inconsequential matters to the point of boring or annoying each other. Normally the ability to communicate is a positive circumstance, but of itself, this position doesn't indicate sexual or romantic attraction.

Square Amy Mercury / Mark Mercury - orb: 02' 13'
This aspect indicates difficulty in communication and a differing intellectual viewpoint. You may disagree on things related dress, work, health, diet, and many other issues. Mental cooperation can be a problem.

Sextile Amy Mercury / Mark Venus - orb: 03' 29'
This aspect suggest that you usually relate to and communicate with each other in a kind and considerate way. There is an intellectual and social blending of personalities that is very positive. In a romantic relationship, you are able to communicate about emotional and psychological concerns helping you work out whatever difficulties occur.

Sextile Amy Mercury / Mark Mars - orb: 01' 50'
This is an aspect of mental compatibility. You work well together putting ideas into action. You enjoy games of mental challenge and competition. You have a mutual interest in politics and a fondness for debate. You stimulate each other's enthusiasm and resourcefulness.

Trine Amy Mercury / Mark Jupiter - orb: 00' 10'
This comparative aspect indicates you share many intellectual and philosophical interests. By itself, it does not produce romantic or sexual attractions, but in a romantic or marital relationship, it can improve communication and durability of the relationship. It tends to foster optimism and a constructive mental outlook in each other by encouraging each other to positive thinking.

Opposition Amy Mercury / Mark Saturn - orb: 03' 12'
This aspect causes you to be suspicious of one another. Saturn is likely to be negative toward Mercury's ideas and suggestions. The Saturn person may also see the other as superficial and unreliable. If Saturn has an opportunity, mental restrictions a rather pessimestic attitude may be imposed on the Mercury person.

Square Amy Mercury / Mark Uranus - orb: 01' 46'
This aspect suggests rather major differences in viewpoint and opinion. You may have difficulty agreeing on plans and activities. There is a good deal of impatience between you and in many ways you may grow to get on one another's nerves. In your communication, you tend to take too much for granted. The Uranus person may seem much too unstable.

Trine Mark Sun / Amy Venus - orb: 00' 58'
This is an excellent comparative combination for romantic and sexual attraction and marriage. You enjoy each other's company and have fun together. There is good emotional rapport and mutual sensitivity and generosity. You encourage each other socially and culturally.

Trine Mark Sun / Amy Mars - orb: 04' 55'
This is a very active comparative combination showing mutual support and efforts toward mutual self-improvement and development. You are both ambitious and interested in improving your lives. There may be a strong sense of friendly competition in the relationship. The combination adds sexual attraction in a romantic relationship.

Square Mark Venus / Amy Mars - orb: 03' 07'
This combination produces a very strong sexual attraction; however, there is often a lack of real emotional compatibility and mutual consideration. The relationship can be entered into by one or both parties merely for sexual gratification, without real concern for the other party as a person. In a romantic or marital relationship, sexual jealousy and possessiveness can be a problem. This is a difficult aspect for close personal relationships, but it is often present in them because of the high degree of sexual compatibility it generates at the outset of the relationship.

Square Amy Mars / Mark Mars - orb: 04' 46'
This comparative combination shows important differences in approaches to personal action, professional ambition, and business affairs. Any attempts for one or the other of you to be in charge and order the other around, will meet with resistance and conflict. Outbursts of temper, and in extreme cases, physical combat can occur with this combination. Despite the abusive nature of this aspect, romantic relationships do often occur. Viewing from this apect alone, these are essentially based on sexual gratification rather than on genuine love, and the relationship should have other positive traits to confirm its value.

Sextile Amy Mars / Mark Uranus - orb: 04' 50'
This is a good work together aspect, especially for people whose job it is to come up with new and different ideas and to implement action to make ideas become reality. You may seem to boost each other's energy and determination to accomplish what you set out to do.

Conjunction Mark Moon / Amy Jupiter - orb: 01' 46'
This aspect puts a good deal of harmony in your relationship. You share feelings of trust and mutual confidence. You tend to have compatible religious, social and ethical values, and you encourage each other. This placement of itself doesn't indicate romance, but it will increase the quality of a romantic relationship and it also will increase the durability and stability of a marital relationship.

Sextile Mark Venus / Amy Jupiter - orb: 01' 58'
This aspect shows a sharing of cultural, religious and other higher values. You may be inclined to work together as an effective team in charitable, religious, or organizational endeavors. In marriage or romantic relationships, the sharing of religious, cultural, and educational values provides a basis of lasting compatibility that goes beyond emotional, sexual attraction.

Sextile Mark Mars / Amy Jupiter - orb: 03' 37'
This is favorable for intelligent action in religious, educational, social, and charitable group activities. It helps family relationships. You may become adventurous traveling companions or missionaries.

Square Mark Mercury / Amy Saturn - orb: 04' 15'
There is a tendency for the Saturn person to seem too conservative, opinionated, or negative. At times, and to react negatively and impose heavy demands on Mercury in terms of mental discipline and work. This is a difficult aspect for all types or relationships. Often, jealousy and resentment are involved. You have a hard time understanding each other.

Trine Mark Mercury / Amy Uranus - orb: 05' 27'
This is a good aspect sparking a very interesting and creative friendship. You seem to be able to help each other come up with original ideas that make sense. This is a good combination for individuals involved in writing, the communication media, advertising, and scientific work of all kinds. Your minds seem to click well together.

posted June 24, 2007 07:13 PM            

Your synastry looks good -- but astrology only goes so far: it cannot tell how far each person has evolved given the challenges of their birth chart.

And, keep in mind:

From Linda Goodman’s “Relationship Signs” page 196 ~

If only Earthlings would realize the power of love to conquer any kind of misery or unhappiness like a mighty magic wand, it wouldn’t matter whether two people’s birth charts were full of positive or so-called negative aspects because love can conquer the influences of the planets. It can even eliminate karma. Yes, if only humans truly understood this. Well, it’s the Aquarian age of serendipity, so maybe someday soon.

From Steven Forrest: http://www.stevenforrest.com/lovehandles.html

To me, in the realities of the astrological counselling room, there are
two immutable premises:
There is no manner of astrological interaction between two people that
is so inherently sweet that enough selfishness, confusion about sex, or
immaturity cannot turn it sour.
There is no manner of astrological interaction between two people that
is so inherently bitter that enough patience, devotion, and humility can
not only make it last, but make it something precious to both people.

**The Truth About Astrology** (from “The Changing Sky”) by Steven Forrest ~

Astrology is humanity’s oldest and most precise mindmap. It cannot, however, accurately predict events. The planets hold half the cards; you hold the rest. Choices you make within the astrological environment determine what actually happens to you.
We are free. No rigid, fatalistic prediction can bind us. There is no astrological event so baleful that creativity, intelligence and honest self-appraisal cannot turn it to constructive uses – and there is no configuartion so glorious that selfishness and laziness cannot sour it.
The purpose of moderm predictive astrology is to help people make better choices, to clarify the nature of the psychological terrain through which they are passing, and to serve as their ally in the endless, unpredictable task of creating the future.

From Marcia Sacks: http://www.mountainastrologer.com/sacks1000.html ~

Just as there is variety but no perfection in horoscopes, there can be love and companionship but no happily-ever-after in relationships. However, even folks with very difficult horoscopes can have healthy, successful relationships if they can accept that relationships require work. I think of it like gardening: You need seeds, soil, nourishment, water, and maintenance to grow something of beauty.
Remember that relationships are not a cure for depression. Other people cannot obliterate your feelings of loss, lack, and limitation. If you feed yourself positivity through affirmation and imagery, if you pat yourself on the back and nurture yourself, you will begin to attract more positive, supportive people in your life.

From Bill Herbst: http://www.billherbst.com/ ~

Human beings are not signs of the zodiac, and astrology neither reveals nor determines the quality of our consciousness. The expresson of our charts is largely a function of our maturity, rather than the other way around. Our species is chock full of human beings who are mired in seemingly permanent adolescence, no matter what their age or elevation in culture. In terms of spiritual development, you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink. Nonetheless, the water exists. We choose.

From Liz Greene ~

I am always left with the feeling that if you only approach the issue of relationship in a technical way, by just comparing two charts or drawing up a composite chart, or any of the other range of techniques that we have, then some very fundamental, very important points get lost. To me, the thing that gets lost is the fact that every relationship contains an element of mystery that ultimately can't be defined, can't be explained. The essence of human interchange is like the essence of the person, and the essence of the person is not in the horoscope. I don't think we will ever find it in the horoscope. Bear in mind the fact that the chart you have in front of you could easily be that of a chicken, or of the opera society, for there is nothing in the chart that demonstates that it's human. But something works thru it which is uniquely the individual soul or individuality of the person. I believe this applies also to interchange between two people. The acknowledgement of some kind of mystery, some god at work, I believe is terribly important, because without that, all your techniques leave you, in the end, with unanswered questions.