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Topic: I'm SOOOO confused...please help!!!!
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GrlyGirl20
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From: USA
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 10, 2007 01:30 PM
  
So for any of you who remember I met a double sag guy about a year ago and we had a no strings attached hookup relationship. Well I developed feelings for him, and he did too although he stepped back from his. We continued to deal with each other until Feb. In Feb we had a disagreement where he said he never wanted to talk to me again. Well I didn't contact him, and four months later in May he contacts me. We've been in contact since. We used to talk about every week to two weeks now we talk every couple of days. Well last night he and I ended up talking on the phone for about three hours (we've never done this before). We talked about everything you could talk about. I also told him I missed him, he didn't say it back to me. I assumed he didn't miss me...but he had said it to me online multiple times. He said that he doesn't do shallow clingy emotions like that. And that even if he did miss me he wouldn't say it. But that he does in fact want to see me again. Well we continued talking, I then asked him was he dating anyone. And here is the convo on that: Me: Are you dating anyone?
Him: I kinda am
Me: You kinda are?
Him: Well it's complicated
Me: Why is it complicated?
Him: Well she lives in SC (FYI I live in SC...and he is in Maryland...we go to school together in SC)
Me: So what's the problem...ask her out when you get back from break (in Aug)
Him: I'm going to do that
Me: At this point a light bulb went off in my head and I without thinking blurted "is it me?"
Him: Well do you want it to be you?
Me: A long pause...(I was in such a shock I couldn't say anything)
Him: Well I guess that means no
Me: No...if you want it to be me...then I want that
Him: Well lets get this out in the open...I just want no strings...I just want to have fun
Me: Oh ok (at that point I felt dejected) I started asking him questions like if he wanted her why did he contact me...and he was like I don't have the answers to that. Lets just drop this. I'm just SOOO confused...could he have been talking about me? He previously told me I'm the only girl he thinks about. If so then why ask out someone else? Or did I pause too long and he didn't want to risk rejection?? PLEASE HELP!!! Here is our info: Me: DOB July 3, 1985 born in Bellflower, CA at 5:34 AM
Him: DOB Dec 1, 1986 Born in Baltimore, MD at 7:30 pm IP: Logged |
BlueRoamer
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posted July 10, 2007 01:38 PM
Eh hes 21 years old, don't expect much from men until they're 30. Dont' put out unless you have spent a lot of time together and trust him and love him.IP: Logged |
let ther b light
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posted July 10, 2007 02:48 PM
"Eh hes 21 years old, don't expect much from men until they're 30."i agree. and plus i think he was trying to be honest. if he said he 'did not want any strings attatched' i guess he meant it. i'm not saying that he does not have feelings for you. i'm just saying that maybe he himself does not know that he has feelings for you. he was the one who got in touch with you. so maybe he does have feelings for you. he also mentioned that he wud not admit if he did miss you...so i guess thats exactly what he's doing.... IP: Logged |
Astra
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posted July 10, 2007 02:54 PM
To answer your question, I think this "girl" he's referring to is you. The reason he's not coming straight out and saying that he wants to ask you out is because Sags tend to shy away from emotions and "mushy" stuff. This doesn't mean that he doesn't like you; it just means he isn't comfortable with emotions. I agree with Blue Roamer. He's young and just wants to have fun. He isn't looking for any committed relationship. Now if you want a committed relationship, then find someone else. Don't date this guy unless you also want a superficial relationship. IP: Logged |
GrlyGirl20
Knowflake Posts: 319
From: USA
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 10, 2007 06:20 PM
To be honest I kinda thought it was me...because he had told me that I was the only girl he thought of...and that he missed me. But I think that when he asked me if I wanted it too be me...I paused too long (it was a long pause). And he felt rejected (he does have that nasty sun and moon conjuct saturn...and scorp/cancer placements that HATE rejection). So he just responding with a if you don't want a relationship with me...then I just want no strings attached relationship with you. Kinda like getting back at me. Here are his placements:
ASC: Cancer
Sun: SAG 5th house
Moon: Sag 6th house
Mer: SCO 5th house
Ven: Sco 4th house
Mars: Pis 9th house
Jup: Pis 9th house
Uran: Sag 6th house
Sat: Sag 5th house
Plut: Scop 5th house
Nep: Cap 6th house Here are My placements:
ASC: Can
Sun: Can 1st house
Moon: Cap 7th house
Mer: Leo 2nd house
Ven: Tau 11th house
Mar: Can 1st house
Jup: Aqu 8th house
Sat: Sco 5th house
Nep: Cap 6th house
Plut: Sco 5th house
Uran: Sag 6th house
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sd09
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posted July 10, 2007 07:28 PM
don't expect much from men until they're 30 iam 30 and i stell a kid son dont expect much from ppl who is 30IP: Logged |
BlueRoamer
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posted July 10, 2007 09:11 PM
Young men will say A LOT of things, take it all with a grain of salt, young men think with their penis, not with their brain. They say whatever they feel at the moment but might not really mean it.Just try to relax and enjoy your youth. Don't get caught up in boy drama, you have many years ahead to get hitched and start hating your husband. IP: Logged |
let ther b light
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posted July 11, 2007 03:42 AM
"you have many years ahead to get hitched and start hating your husband." 
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Xodian
Moderator Posts: 275
From: Canada
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 11, 2007 04:16 AM
Tsk tsk... Girls you disappoint me. Here I am trying to get you an equal outlook with us guys and you insult me with... this? You really know how to sting a 23 yr. old's heart *Le weep.*Girls... Us guys weren't created as emotionless mounds of testostrolific sulpted statues to make your lives miserable... We were made so for you benifits you, you gorgeous moulds of estrogen  . See, there is no denying the fact that you gals can do just about everything us guys can do (well... You look much better in a swimsuit then Hasselhoff... You have quite a bit of extra edge there Lol!) However, there are so many hinderences that plauge your every so able coherent minds (Emotions, Empathy, etc.) and that could really slow down a task you can oh so coherently do . And that is where we men come in Gals; We are your catalysts Lol! We drive you nuts with our chavinistic taunts and degrading replies because we know you're gonna get mad and you surely would want to devise any means necessary to get the job done and show us up over it. And you know what... We love you ever so much when you're angry (minus the possible "You're sleeping on the couch tonight!" statement...) So don't hate us for being us; We just want the best in you to show . And what better way to see you reach your full potential then to see you do something with absolute conviction and passion of proving the chavinists wroong . IP: Logged |
CoralFrequency
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posted July 11, 2007 05:18 AM
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Tsk tsk... Girls you disappoint me.
I, for one, am deeply sorry I disappointed you.  Please accept my apology. In fact, I'm so sorry I feel like should be punished.. Please spank me Xodian. At the next World Wide Female Convention held specially for Xodian, I will do my best to live up to your expectations.  Peace! IP: Logged |
CoralFrequency
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posted July 11, 2007 05:22 AM
BR, I agree..Xodian, I just realized there was nothing chauvinistic on this thread  IP: Logged |
Xodian
Moderator Posts: 275
From: Canada
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 11, 2007 05:37 AM
*Shakes head.* Coral this is the second time you took something that was ment as a suddle joke wayyy too seriously .But then again... it does stings doesn't it? Being already labled as something you're not by the masses just because a negitive turmoil in someone else's life ends up projecting a not-so-logical perception towards you . Its actually been proven statistically that most relationship turmoils don't occur because of age gaps, etc. No... Young men don't think with their penises. hat would be lke me saying that women have nothing but shopping on their minds Lol! IP: Logged |
CoralFrequency
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posted July 11, 2007 05:51 AM
Xodian, I am joking as well..
Sorry if you felt I took it seriously. Maybe I come off too strongly. I put smileys in that on purpose - so it looks less serious lolAlso, I think anyone can be mature at any age, but whilst young, the lack of experience has an impact on relationship behavior.. and we probably make more mistakes, in this area, in late teens/early 20s. I'm not only referring to young men. I do know guys my age who I see as mature, actually more mature than I am. IP: Logged |
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