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Topic: Attn: Scorpio/Pluto Influenced PPL: Dealing with rejection
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GrlyGirl20
Knowflake Posts: 319
From: USA
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 29, 2007 09:31 AM
  
Hey for anyone who had read my prior posts about a double sag guy that I really liked and that had been in and out of my life. He reappeared into my life and everything was fine, well in the past month or so he has been very flaky and started back on his old habits. Well I finally had enough. I sent him an email telling him I was basically done, (that I wouldn’t delete him from things but that I was done emotionally and sexually) that he had hurt and disrespected me to the point of tears so many times. And I asked did he ever mean any of those nice things he said to me (such as he missed me and I was the only girl he thought of), that I was saddened that he couldn’t come to me to tell me an issue that had developed and why he felt the need to put me on limited profile on face book, and that I did what he wanted and I was over him romantically. But that his friendship and he do mean a great deal to me. And I had also sent some pics of myself in compromising positions, and that I wanted him to delete them if he was going to be as flakey as he was with me. Basically it was an email that was unemotional and straight to the point, which is something, that I’ve never been able to be with him (I’m always emotional).Anyway I still care about him, so I messaged him and he replied although it took FOREVER for him to say hey. And when I asked how he was he wouldn’t reply to that. And then he logged off or whatever and then logged back on like 20 mins later. I re-messaged him and was like were you kicked off…when he didn’t reply I said it seems like you’re busy I just wanted to see if you were coming to campus this weekend, I’ll talk to you later. He replied again 10 mins later with a Nah. And then I was like Oh hey how are you? Then nothing after that from him. I just don’t get it. I know how he is when he is mad, but this was a different feeling. Almost as if he seemed a bit hurt, or frosty. I’m not sure from what. I thought he may feel rejected or abandoned because this is the first time I’ve known him where I’ve actually said I’m done. Anyway I want us to be friends, but how can I make him feel better. Or be different. I know for a fact I still have feelings for him, and I still am crazy about him. But I also know that he’s not the right one for me and where just better off as friends. Anyway my basic question is:
What should I do?
And what are the tale tell signs you’ve hurt or made a Scorpio venus hurt? Thanks!!! My placements:
DOB 7-3-1985 Born in Bellflower, Ca at 5:34 am
His placements
DOB 12-1-1986 Born in Baltimore, Md at 7:30 pm IP: Logged |
shirty
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posted August 29, 2007 10:20 AM
I'm a Sag (Sag Sun, Merc, Saturn, Uranus)
with Venus and Pluto in Scorpio. In fact Sag and Scorpio are the two signs that influence my chart the most. So hopefully my answer applies.How do I deal with rejection? By cutting ropes. So it sounds like that's exactly how he's dealing with it. Scorpio (and Sag, I would argue) do not like feeling inferior or rejected. Therefore we react by cutting you off and giving the sense that we are in control. Scorpio especially is about control. Sag is about freedom, which involves control. If we feel restricted in any way by someone's actions or words, we react harshly. If you said you were done (in any way) but you still want to be friends, his way of "winning" is to not even be friends with you. That way he tricks himself into thinking HE made the last move. I would give him space, and not bother. If he wants to be friends with you again he will contact you. You won't be able to manipulate him or convince him otherwise. Sorry if this is a disappointment to you. I'll admit that sometimes we are too self-involved to think about other people's feelings. It's hard enoguh for us to harness and master our own, so trying to understand another person's pain can be difficult. IP: Logged |
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From: rapid city, south dakota USA
Registered: Aug 2009
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posted August 29, 2007 01:51 PM
I'm not familiar with any of your earlier posts, but what I saw was erased, but that's beside the point. I'm a Gem Sun, Sag Mooner...lol..just a little laugh...From experience, I've been known to never befriend exes regardless of who hurt who or if there was a hurt at all. It's simply moving forward into a new chapter. Sorry if this also may sound harsh, but typically the behavior he exhibits proves that old saying "he's just not that into you." Out of respect or courtesy most people would respond to your dialogue with intention, but I'm not seeing this here. Putting you on a limited profile? He's keeping you at a distance, but close enough so he can come calling as he wishes! Anyway, seems that he's already moved on, I think, but hey that's just me...A close Sag friend of mine moves through women pretty much in the same manner, blowing them off and coming back again for his own selfish reasons. It's not malicious, but that's just how he roams. He's a free agent and well you say yours is a double Sag, it's not entirely impossible that's he severed the cord without a second thought. As for the Scorpio Mooner bit...I had an exe with a Scorpio Moon who would come and go and when I'd press him for responses on our relationship it was very much like you stated. He'd be very vague and slow to come around, his I'm not that into you kind of effect. This went on for two years!!!! Now it's like we've never existed. He and I no longer speak unless he calls my bf(childhood classmates) every once or twice a year. He doesn't even acknowledge me, his subtle way to hurt me and have the upper hand for our fall out. Which was me saying in the end, "Just let me know if I'm wasting my time." (AFTER TWO YEARS!!! HAHA talk about crazy in love!)To which he says, "Can we talk about this tomorrow?" A saying I heard over and over, he'd call when he'd want to: an hour later, days later, whatever. So that's the way the story goes..lol. What an experience. He definitely controlled everything in our relationship, but those Scorpio Mooners are delish aren't they? Hope all goes well with your situtation...Take what you will from my ramblings...Take Care.------------------
"If you believe, you can achieve." Tupac IP: Logged |
jkxx
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posted August 29, 2007 02:21 PM
GrlyGirl,I am Pluto-influenced myself (both Moon and Mercury like your own chart) but have also had an ex with Venus and Pluto in the exact same position as your guy. These people sure do have an agenda when it comes to relationships and as another posted mentioned, will at least mentally end up plotting ways of being in control, which to them is of uppermost importance. Your Sag's chart is a bit complicated as he has the Venus-Pluto conjunction but also both his Sun and Moon in Sagittarius. If memory serves me right the luminaries take precedence so he's likely to bail out by using a Saggy freedom incentive when his ability to stay in control is threatened. For right now you may want to just give him freedom to roam and see what he does if you're still interested. Venus in Scorp people have a way of bringing up past relationship themes over a long period of time so you may be surprised to hear something of interest once some time passes. And since you mentioned you're emotional about this kind of stuff, try to not 'make up your mind' about where this is going to end up for the time being. If that's too hard to do then just go with whatever makes the most sense to you for the time and you should still be okay. However it goes, good luck! -jk IP: Logged | |
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