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posted October 11, 2007 03:17 PM            

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This has me puzzeled so I thought I would see how you guys feel about this..This is for the women and the men..

When you start dating a person and things lets say it goes into months and you feel like you want more from the relationship ladies do you speak up or just wait around for the guy to finally say something..Men if a woman speaks up and says she wants more how do you handle that does that make you feel trapped or what..

I asked because I speak up and if I want more I am going to say so, but I am hearing from a woman and a guy that women should not speak up because it runs a guy away he feels pressured. What do you guys think..

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posted October 11, 2007 04:10 PM            

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I think it depends on the woman. I'm always staightforward with things like that. Why should I waste my time with someone who doesn't want the same things I do? I like to get it all out in the open fairly early on. I don't have the patience for slow, fickle lovers. If they can't figure out whether or not they want to be exclusive with me after several months, then I might as well cut my losses and move on, and I'd rather figure that out sooner than later. But then, I'm a sun-mars person. I'm sure women with strong Aries or mars placements will react this way.

On the flip side, I think a strongly Venus influenced female might prefer to keep quiet and be "courted" in the traditional manner, and not want to rock the boat.

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posted October 11, 2007 04:49 PM            

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I think it also depends on the guy. Is the guy usually open to hearing ideas, suggestions, and so forth, or does he dictate everything including deciding how the two of you will relate to one another?

For a guy that has goals that are a higher priority than his relationship, yes, he might feel trapped. For a guy who has the relationship as his priority, an inquiry into taking it to the next level shouldn't feel too constrictive.

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