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sthenri unregistered
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posted October 25, 2007 10:33 PM
Ever been really sick of relationships? That is the ups and downs of them? Especially now? and what are your placements?My progressed chart is all water, cancer, scorpio, pisces. My sun is taurus/6th house, mercury gemini/7th house, mars/ascendant sag/1st hours. venus in aries/5th house. moon in cancer/8th house. juno capricorn/2nd house. Do people you love make you want to scream? ever? do you ever think relationships are too much work? Thanks IP: Logged |
CoralFrequency Newflake Posts: 0 From: Registered: Aug 2009
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posted October 26, 2007 03:24 AM
I was born sick of relationships. But I don't stay in them, if they are too much work.. I'm not a very relationship-y person.. nor am I a serial dater. Not really my thing. First of all because I'm busy.. but also because rollercoaster relationships don't do it for me, in any way. I can't be bothered. Aries Sun/Capricorn Moon/Gemini Asc IP: Logged |
GeminiLover75 unregistered
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posted October 26, 2007 04:59 AM
Yep I feel like that. Lately I feel like telling everyone to take a hike because they're ALL stressing me out.Saturn in my 7th house at the apex of a T-square.
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Xena unregistered
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posted October 26, 2007 05:37 AM
What kind of relationships? I'd say friends & family are the most difficult right now for me. Romance for me has fallen off the face of the earth, partly because I have a lot of trust issues and don't want to get too heavily involved with people's problems. I need to stay in control, so am showing a tough exterior and impassivity, so no-one really knows what I am thinking a lot of the time (Pluto transits, anyone?). Mostly I'm just enveloped in work. What I really want is real love, but of a type that evolves from a friendship. Not the sort that immediately starts off with the boy-girl thing and follows a predictable routine and expectations, but the sort that grows over time. Which I think is what everyone wants really, deep down. Love, X Aries/Pisces/Virgo IP: Logged |
comica23 Knowflake Posts: 1212 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 26, 2007 07:17 AM
I value relationships a lot (8th house stellium thing I guess ^_^; ), but I run away from a relationship (be it any kind of relationship), if there are at least two of the following: if I feel too much possessiveness (I'm a loner and needs my own time, and I also need the other person to have faith in me), if there are less and less common interests (if the relationship begins to be less and less interesting), and if I feel selfishness from the other person and me being ignored/not considered (maybe it's coz I have that stellium in Aries).Currently, I have Uranus in the 7th house, and my relationships seems to be unstable all the time, and Saturn in the 1st house doesn't really helps much lol.. In the progressed chart, I have retrograde Venus and Mercury in the 7th house.. IP: Logged |
hippichick Knowflake Posts: 588 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted October 26, 2007 12:01 PM
I do not like the word "relationship."And I DO like what Osho says about relation-ship...ships sink!!! Relation, yes, as humans we are virtually forced to interact atleast at some level to re-late to one another. A huge hermit I am, but in my profession and in the mundane every day life of this and that I find myself re-lating--tho I really do not want to. I have an ever-increasing disdain for humanity in general. People have proven to me over and over that they are ego-centered, selfish, they have lost dignity and respect for their fellow humans and are just kind of "dumb." "Relationship" is a very relative term and is highly personal for each individual. For me, however I shall never, ever again be invloved in the "traditional relationship" of modern day society. I am a Pisces sun, highly, VERY highly Aquarian with a Scorp asc and a Taurus moon... IP: Logged |
Happy Dragon unregistered
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posted October 26, 2007 01:17 PM
~ sthenri ~ and ~ xena ~both of you have transits effecting your asc/desc axis .. by square aspect .. sthenri .. for you it's saturn .. xena for you it's jupiter ( btw: for mr.p .. t.saturn trining natal lillith .. and opposing his sun .. plus t.chiron aspecting placements) be loads off other stuff going on in your charts .. pluto for example .. xena saturn is moving thru your 12th .. bit too much to list and timeline out at the moment .. ( i.e. i've got 'headless chicken' and 'grrrrrr' transits on at the moment ) ( 'n yes i realise kairon gives asc and mc angles slightly different to astro.com .. ) did you know .. xena your asc/desc.. sthenri your mc/ic .. axis .. are nearly the same .. so transiting uranus effecting both .. i.e. a few degrees prior to each .. some art objects on this site to browze .. might take your minds off things for a few minutes .. ~ http://zimmerstewart.co.uk/Jola-Spytkowska.html ~ i was looking for pics of crows .. connecting to a ffa thread .. 'cause a huge flock descended on a nearby tree yesterday .. google came up with that site for some reason .. IP: Logged |
Diandra23 unregistered
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posted October 26, 2007 04:14 PM
Ive been feeling quite of strange latelly..in all relationships-friends,family,lover - and im usually a person that sees everything in a bright and dreamy way ( besides of my virgo sun i have my neptune on my 3rd...)So, these last days,well,i think a week and bit more,suddently i woke up and everything around me seems too much...and at the same time...too hard. I scream with all that i feel are not understanding me and i have been crying a lot - for little things and for big things.. Its like reality is now coming down to me at its full velocity and no one seems to be seeing that im unhappy and i dont really know what its happening and why. And yes...specially the ones that i love most are the ones who makes me wanna sleep fprever and never to wake up.. Maybe its cause a transit - a friend of mine says its saturn its conj my Sun... On the progressed i have Moon oposing my AC;Saturn/Pluto in the 1st;Neptune in 3rd;Uranus/Jup in the 2nd..and my Sun is at 29ºVirgo right now IP: Logged |
twentytwenty Newflake Posts: 0 From: wa Registered: Mar 2010
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posted October 26, 2007 04:53 PM
coralfrequency, i know a chica ram who's a lot like that. she has a goat moon too but a crab asc. however, i believe she's still convinced that someone out there can meet her (triple cardinal! :O ) qualifications!
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Xena unregistered
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posted October 28, 2007 10:22 AM
HD, I'll check out Saturn in 12th. BTW, love the pics - you read my mind - how??? I'm currently looking at Surrealists/ Hieronymus Bosch for inspiration. X IP: Logged |
Dani California Newflake Posts: 19 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 28, 2007 10:52 AM
Yep, I feel like everyone is stressing me out lately and I can't be bothered with it, not sure whats going on in the chart though.Wish I could get some pointers. Gemini sun/ libra moon/ leo asc. I can post my birth details if anyone wants to take a look. IP: Logged |
Happy Dragon unregistered
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posted October 28, 2007 11:54 AM
~ Xena ~ **I'll check out Saturn in 12th. ** the only reason i mentioned that .. is that it seemed a fairly difficult time when i had the same .. sort of down the line of 'dealing with hidden fears' .. i think the trust issue might be an aries thing as well .. i.e. as Linda.G. wrote .. " Aries / the infant / "I am" / to teach that love is innocence and learn that love is trust"**BTW, love the pics - you read my mind - how???** nope no mind reading .. just a hunch is all .. quite liked them myself .. :-) Hieronymus Bosch .. .. bit nightmarish though .. ~ http://farm1.static.flickr.com/196/501641150_85b5fec8c1_o.jpg ~ had a really odd dream once that connected to his paintings .. sort of wish i'd taken notice at the time .. i.e. what the dream was trying to tell me .. 'cause it more or less turned out to be how things transpired .. ~ Dani California ~ post date time and place .. or just check your chart to see what outer transits you may be having .. see if they somehow relate to your seventh house .. i guess there would be other placements to look at .. i'm no expert .. but can have a look see .. and if i can't .. someone else might .. IP: Logged |
Dani California Newflake Posts: 19 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 28, 2007 01:16 PM
Happy Dragon - thanks. *edited* IP: Logged |
sthenri unregistered
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posted October 28, 2007 02:31 PM
All relationships-romantic, friends, family, this time of year it's going to be heavy too, as they all pull away to do their thing and then push me to do it with them on their time.There's no logic, I'm expected to be at the beck and call of everyone otherwise I'm not a good, reliable, friend, or boring. Then I'm too flighty. On or the other. No-one wants to partner up, they want to tell me what to do. No friends, just would be partners and friends in crisis. I prefer friends, that's my Venus in Aries in the 4th-and 5th. I agree relationships sink, and relating honestly is better. Expressing TRUE feelings is even better. It's an art, intimacy is Work. It's a survival technique. And I'm trying to survive, in my world everyone wants to ....me or point out my faults. Everything I say is an argument. Saturn is on my Sun it's true. Natal Sun is in Taurus in the 6th.
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Xena unregistered
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posted October 30, 2007 04:16 PM
Chill, Natasha. You need some downtime. Oh, and where relationships are concerned, I ask myself what I would want a relationship for at this point? When cooking, cleaning and washing are ultimately all it amounts to? I am not ready for it right now. I am into discovering myself. And BTW, I am no man-hater. It's funny how people I know, often who have experienced considerable *relationship problems*, go out of their way to comment on my private life. My mother tells me my marriage was a *disaster* (no reflection on my parents' marriage, then), an elderly female friend comments that I *don't seem to have much luck with men* (she was never married - projection, anyone?) and I read everywhere in the papers about Kylie Minogue having a *string of failed relationships*. How patronizing? Pathetic! Relationships aren't a failure, they're a learning experience. Actually, HD, Saturn in 12th doesn't seem all that difficult for me - not YET, anyhow. I can just stand back and observe people going about their lives, and feel strangely remote, though entirely in tune with myself. I am more completely *myself* than I ever have been, but strangely tactful with it. I don't lie to anyone and I don't brownnose. But what seems more prominent to me is Saturn's move into Virgo. Affecting things on a wider scale, not just myself. So my perceptions, and everybody else's perceptions are altered. I could literally feel the difference. So the change in my personal chart wasn't as palpable as the general shift. I've had a phase recently where I was experiencing regret for my breakup with Mr. Aqua, for God's sake! Then I reread the things I've written here and realize I was right to do so. I also have regrets about some of my actions over the past year. What if I'd still stayed living in the same place? What if I hadn't left this and that job in order to run my own business? Will I be able to cut it, careerwise, in the coming months and years? Will I be able to come up with the goods? How will I do financially speaking? All this is really important to me right now, so it's easy to see why relationships must necessarily take a back seat. I had a weird dream after delving into Hieonymus Bosch too...I am very sensitive...but I tend not to take dreams that seriously IP: Logged |
Happy Dragon unregistered
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posted October 31, 2007 10:30 AM
~ Xena ~transiting Uranus is only a few degrees before your Descendant .. about halfway between your moon and descendant .. ~ http://www.happydragon.pwp.blueyonder.co.uk/jkbx/Planets.html ~ ** When cooking, cleaning and washing are ultimately all it amounts to? ** huh .. one has to do that anyway .. relationship or no relationship .. the first year i'd been here .. t.neptune was trining my moon now i've had t.uranus squaring my moon ... huge huge difference in 'feel' .. i mean they're as opposite in nature as it gets .. ones' 'merge' the other is 'separate' i've noted with t.uranus to my moon i've become somewhat more impersonal .. e.g. in the way i end my posts for example .. little things like that .. not that i ever come accross as particulariy 'personal' .. not with natal uranus in first house .. connected to a g.c. configuration .. there's also disruptions on the home front as well .. as well as a distinct change to my guitar playing .. as in learning new things by accident .. being awoken to new ways of approaching old formats .. not to mention computer disruptions and changes .. all quite uranian i.m.h.o. i'd say transiting Uranus has a lot to do with it .. i.e. in your chart as well as natashas' chart .. it's quite a disruptive effect .. with the accent on individualism .. singularity and such .. and t.uranus is not exactly noted for it's calming effect .. more like 'stressful' .. and add transiting this that and the other .. jupiter in your case .. saturn in natashas' case and not to forget about t.Pluto .. think about it ... as for relationships .. can only say i recently evicted a mouse from my abode .. see .. separation at work yet again .. IP: Logged |
Happy Dragon unregistered
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posted October 31, 2007 11:15 AM
re various transits .. an example .. new neighbours in the back terrace have two little gals .. read .. 'screaming munchkins or banshees' .. ;-) the separating wall to these old houses .. well they're a bit on the thin side .. so now i find i'm having to alter my schedule to fit in with their habits .. if not .. their morning screeches 'n horsing about is rather a disruptive awakening to moi which leaves me with a case of the grumpies all day long .. ( at least they are taking care not to slam doors .. ;-)) .. that much is apparent ..under this uranian transit .. it actually squaring my moon and opposing my dear natal lillith .. it's felt as a stressful disruption to my love of peace and quiet .. making me feel a bit penned-in .. and thinking of moving .. ( now't new there though :-) however from previous experience .. under a different type transit .. e.g. one from jupiter by soft aspect .. or maybe neptune .. the same disruption would not bother me at all .. IP: Logged |
phoenix1111 unregistered
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posted October 31, 2007 11:37 AM
Yep, I have been feeling like that for awhile. I have alot of water in my chart too. I finally decided if it(a relationship) was going to take too much out of me then I am not going there. It shouldn''t be so hard to love someone, I think it should come natural.My friends talk to me about their relationships all the time and I have said all that stuff before and I love that I don't have all that anymore, it's draining! IP: Logged |
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posted November 01, 2007 11:41 AM
Well - 'least I don't have to do the cleaning, cooking and washing for two - that being something I can quite happily do without! Thinking only 'tother day about how I had to put up with other people's problems for so long, or be "of service" to them in some way. Haven't needed to for the past couple of years (which is a weight off my shoulders) and more importantly, don't want to go back to that, either. Feel very comfortable rejecting totally unsuitable suitors, whereas before would have given them the time of day. Experiencing major frustrations in career, as always. Today being one of those days when i am totally f*@£!d off with people being so utterly useless and not pulling their weight, when I always try to do at least SOMETHING to keep the ball rolling. So, if Uranus is stirring up a maelstrom around my Desc/Moon, whatever, what the heck's it gonna do when it touches my Sun in a few years' time? Ooh, I can't wait. IP: Logged |
Happy Dragon unregistered
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posted November 01, 2007 01:40 PM
~ X ~ ** Well - 'least I don't have to do the cleaning, cooking and washing for two - that being something I can quite happily do without! ** well .. yeah .. i figured that was what you were on about being single has taught me a lot about those pesky domestic chores and given i'm a lazy taurean male .. that's saying something .. if i ever win the lottery bigtime .. hiring domestic staff is a priority .. :-))))** So, if Uranus is stirring up a maelstrom around my Desc/Moon, whatever, what the heck's it gonna do when it touches my Sun in a few years' time? ** .. sparkling fireworks ??? .. t.Uranus has been doing my head in .. as in temper wise .. it's vile .. vivienne vyle .. but it's been tMars aggravating moi .. it's only been in my first house for a few days now .. ggrrrrrrrrrrrr .. ;-) anyhow .. uranus is still retro .. methinks that's the crappola .. goes direct soon .. november .. i think the fact that it's sitting between your moon and desc. is a key .. had started to check something out here .. 'cause i noticed it's the midpoints that give me the most trouble stress wise .. i.e. from mars transits i aimed to make a couple of graphics to illustrate that point .. but as i was checking it .. noticed that one midpoint .. actually makes a 'minor aspect to natal pluto .. i.e. it's a recent mars transit point that had me over stressed .. turning on the minor aspects in the astro programme .. well it makes the grid overly complicated .. so i normaly leave them turned off .. i'll take a look 'n see if there are minor aspects at play in your transits .. my theory is that the midpoint is like having forces pulling either way between the planets/angles involved .. right now i'm trying to figure a way of letting my neighbour know .. that keeping his kids quiet in the mornings .. would be beneficial to his health in the meantime i've setup a speaker 'n amp facing his wall .. microphone at the ready .. mains switch within arms length .. can have a rant at them without leaving bed .. i need to learn german .. much more effective than english .. :-) IP: Logged |
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posted November 01, 2007 03:24 PM
~ Xena ~in your chart .. minor aspects from .. transiting Uranus currently a : decile aspect to natal chiron .. and a : tetranovile aspect to natal pluto ( that'll be generational i would think ) transiting lillith is trining natal moon and venus and making a quine aspect to natal mercury sorry .. no idea what those minor aspects mean .. or how they might effect someone .. ( edited to add ) i missed this one completely !! .. transiting Uranus has been squaring your MC/IC axis august 28th thru till october 21st .. then 27th december thru till 12 feburary '08 ( i.e. the retro direct business ) .. and that's just within 1 degree either side .. i.e. that's your mc/ic as from the 'kairon' app. calculations ..
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