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Topic: Relationship Spring Cleaning
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BlueMeenee
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posted November 01, 2007 06:59 PM
 
I feel like I'm going through a relationship spring cleaning right now. I've been severing ties with long time "friends" cuz I'm tired of the drama and emotional weight of them. I don't even want to confront these people on it because it will just end up in a messy ordeal and I'd prefer it clean cut and to move on. I'm feeling the strain of some family relationships as well right now that I'm not severing, but I am distancing myself from. I feel like I'm becoming a hermit and wanting nothing to do with other people aside from my husband and kids. This isn't the norm for me at all.Is anyone else going through anything similar? I feel so selfish asking this, but I still such a baby-step astrology learner and cannot read charts well enough, but do you see anything in my chart that might indicate something like this? Thank you in advance - and at the very least - for being able to put this in writing. Feb 2, 1980 Mesa, AZ 11:44am IP: Logged |
EighthMoon
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posted November 01, 2007 09:23 PM
Hi Blue!I can try to give you a brief insight... You have transiting Uranus conjunct natal Venus in your 11th house (ruled by Aqua) shaking up friendships and relationships. Your Venus is also square transiting Pluto in Sag which, from my experience, is going to do some relationship "editing." Gets rid of the ones that aren't great for you and really tests the others for their worth! Transiting Chiron is also conjunct your natal sun...it's definitely transformation time for ya! I think transiting Saturn is also conjunct your moon...which may help you to see relationships for what they are without being clouded by emotion.  8th IP: Logged |
Junity
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posted November 01, 2007 09:36 PM
I haven't mastered reading charts yet but I know exactly how you feel. I've been feeling the same way for some time now. My suggestion is distance yourself from people drain your energy and sanity and don't add anything positive to your life. It's hard but being happy takes hard work.p.s. Family is the worse because it's harder to cut them from your life. I have a few relatives that I wish I never met. Good Luck! Stay Sane! IP: Logged |
heart cakes
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posted November 01, 2007 09:55 PM
yup! i am almost exactly one year older than you (by a couple days) and my sun is conjunct yours. also my mercury and mars. and i can attest that this chiron transit is doing the same sort of spring cleaning in my friendships as you describe!IP: Logged |
BlueMeenee
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posted November 01, 2007 11:19 PM
8th...thank you! That was the nudge in the right direction I needed. I had to look up what you said more in depth and it makes perfect sense! Junity and HeartCakes - that's exactly it! I am so tired of people draining all energies from me. I was told by an ex-friend, that I "make her feel good when she feels bad" - only trouble is, she only came around when she felt bad. She's a leech no more!! I'm so happy to know there's others going through this right now also. It's hard to let people go when you've known them so long, in one case 20 years. I can't take anymore drama and emotional weight, though. I have given so much of myself to not receive anything back and with things changing in my life in the next 5 months...enough is enough. Thank you guys again for the advice and warm thoughts!! IP: Logged |
heart cakes
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posted November 01, 2007 11:26 PM
hi blue!yeah, i have this one friend that i had to let go. he always has these freak outs on me just randomly whenever he's upset (you should see his stellium in scorpio!) and i always always always would take the blame and apologize to him.. and then i realized how ridiculous that was (like he'd just yell at me if he was tired or whatever, or say super cruel things and then get ****** off if i was even remotely upset by it- even though i wouldn't say a thing or act angry or anything).. so this last time it happened i wrote him an email saying that this time he needs to apologize and that it doesn't seem like we have a balanced friendship if i am always taking responsibility for his moods and he never apologizes. so guess what he does! he sends me a reply saying that *i* need to apologize for that email or our friendship is over! i'm still kinda sad about it, but there is nothing i can do and i am not about to apologize to him for this one. so i am letting it go. you know? IP: Logged |
BlueMeenee
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posted November 01, 2007 11:39 PM
Heart...that sounds so eerily similar to the person I'm having the hardest time with letting go. We've been best pals since 2nd grade and I've always done the same - Taken the blame for everything and apologized for everything...always been second best. She's also the jealous type and cannot handle ANYONE being better than her. She complains about her life and changes nothing - I complained about my life with my ex and I did something about it. She's still sitting in the same place she was 7 years ago while I've moved on with my life and and in a much better situation now than her. She also has a bad habit of being called on anything and making up every excuse in the book as to why her behaviour is why it is, and justifies herself. Her latest was a blog on her dr telling her she needs to exercise a bit and it was a full page of WHY she does enough during the day, she's a size 6 and doesn't need to lose weight, how she cleans house and takes care of kids all day (which I can vouch she does not, her house is nasty), and works - therefore the dr being wrong and not knowing what he's talking about. OMGOSH - go for a flippin 10 min walk each night and SHUTUP. I'm sorry to hear about your friend, though. LOL any consolation, I know exactly how ya feel right now about it - it's consolation for me knowing that I'm not alone in cutting ties and I know I'm in the right doing it. <3 ::edit to add she's a cappy with a aqua moon:: IP: Logged |
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