posted November 07, 2007 11:16 AM              

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posted November 07, 2007 01:27 PM              

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I don't mean to be rude but can you finish spelling your words correctly, it is kind of hard to follow this way.

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posted November 07, 2007 01:51 PM              

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nam, i had to abbreviate as the system only allow a certain number of characters.

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posted November 07, 2007 02:00 PM            

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With only bits and pieces of the story offered, it’s hard to give you advice, Mantoinette. But I’ll take a stab at it based on the information you’ve given.

If you Cancer man said he was still in love with another woman and then cut off all contact with you I’d say he’s trying to distance himself form you. You may have hurt him badly during your fight, and he may have come to the conclusion that you aren’t the woman for him. Or maybe he never really thought you were the woman for him in the first place? You mentioned how you were “just friends” several times in your post. I think a lot of crabs start to reminisce about past loves when hurt. It’s easy to think “Well he/she never would have said or done that to me.” We’re (meaning Cancers) really good at remembering the best parts of the people we used to love when we’re sad.

I can definitely tell you this – your man his hiding in his shell. And when he says nothing is wrong he’s lying. If everything was ok, he’d be talking to you. So he may just be saying that to cover his hurt, or he may also be saying it because he has decided to write you off, or lastly, there’s a chance he really doesn’t want a relationship with you, and instead of just coming out and telling you that, he’s distancing himself from you. Cancer’s are notorious for distancing instead of rejecting people – we hate to directly hurt others. I know it’s cowardly, but I can tell you honestly… I’ve done it before.

There’s only really one way to tell. If he has/had any feelings for you, then you should be able to go to him, apologize sincerely for the things you said and did to hurt him, and ask if you can make things right. Don’t accuse him or point out what he did wrong (at first). Just let your apology stand. And be sure it’s sincere – he’s probably empathic and won’t be fooled by hollow words. Don’t tell him you are ok just being friends – I don’t think it’s the truth, and it would probably just confuse him. Instead tell him the things you appreciate about him- most Cancers have a poignant yearning to be understood and appreciated for all we are. If he doesn’t respond well (or at all), or indicates there’s nothing you can do to make amends, then it’s over. If responds positively, then you should have an honest and sincere discussion of where you see your relationship/friendship going.

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posted November 07, 2007 02:50 PM              

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Isolaede
wow thats deep. I may text him again to apologize again. well after he made that remark about his daughter mom he cald me later and said you gotta go with the flow and let it flow so i kind a felt like he still wanted to flow with this. i dont know. i have sent him a letter sometime ago apologizing and when we talked on the fone i said to him i appreciate his contstructive crtizim and he was like no its not that, i said it is cause your telling me something i know i am working on. i texed him how are you and your daughter and something i wanted his advice and he has not reply yet. he work 3 jobs between mon-sat he plays a sport, practices at night and get his daughter sat-mon.

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posted November 07, 2007 02:51 PM              

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how can i get him back.

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posted November 07, 2007 02:55 PM              

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May I inquire as to what do you mean by the system you are using allows only so many words/characters?
I see you have all the letters accounted for except the letter "Q".
And larger more complex words you have no trouble typing.
LL has been plagued in the past by trolls who unfortunately type/spell chaotically exactly as you do.
I am not saying you are that troll, but until I get a good explanation as to why your style is identical to the last troll, I will wait to assist.
Sorry for being rude if you are honest5ly innocent. But once troll rolled, one tends to be leery of folks typing very obviously the same way.
PS.Even the following line is identical to that person's!

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he cald me later and said you gotta go with the flow

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So are the descriptions you gave...far too familiar.
So what was your previous user name? It is very rude to sneak back in under a new name
and not tell folks who you are. Again if you are indeed just a newbie,..I apologize.

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~Judgement Must Be Balanced With Compassion~
~Do Not Seek Wealth From The Suffering, Or The Dire Needs Of Others~
~Assumption Is The Bane Of Understanding~
~ if you keep doing what you did, you'll keep getting what you got.~
Everything changes.
Fear not the changes.
"My body is physically disabled, but I am not my body nor am I its disabilities!"
"I would rather," Truth said; "to walk naked than wear the raiments of Falsehood!"
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posted November 07, 2007 02:58 PM            

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Here we go again ...

how about we just plant a micro chip in my brain so I can be monitored 24/7/365 and attach a live feed to this site at all times so all you women will know exactly what is going on in the Cancer Mans Mind..

Sound Good?

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posted November 07, 2007 03:07 PM              

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Those cancer men ....

I wish I could figure them out too.

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posted November 07, 2007 03:29 PM              

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hi nam. i tried to revise it a little more. hope you understant. i put my email address in their too so i can tell you and other people the entire story. becuase the site only allow a certain number of characterss that can be typed on a post

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posted November 07, 2007 03:39 PM              

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Write shorter posts and spell correctly.
Then write another post and post it, and just keep doing that.
You could fill entire pages doing that.
I do not see why you feel this site does not allow you to post long posts.
If for some weird reason it is, just post and say continued next post and keep doing that.
The misspellings and abbreviations and inconsistencies is annoying at best.
Thank you.

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"Heaven doesn't want me and Hell is afraid I'll take over and start a rehab for the damned!"
~Judgement Must Be Balanced With Compassion~
~Do Not Seek Wealth From The Suffering, Or The Dire Needs Of Others~
~Assumption Is The Bane Of Understanding~
~ if you keep doing what you did, you'll keep getting what you got.~
Everything changes.
Fear not the changes.
"My body is physically disabled, but I am not my body nor am I its disabilities!"
"I would rather," Truth said; "to walk naked than wear the raiments of Falsehood!"
}><}}}(*> <*){{{><{}><}}}(*> <*){{{><{}><}}}(*> <*){{{><{}><}}}(*> <*){{{><{}<}}(*> <3
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posted November 07, 2007 03:45 PM              

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fayte, i didnt think of that. and i will surly try that. i will go back and retype the entire situation and see exactly how much i can include in the post. but overall what do you think of the situation.

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posted November 07, 2007 03:56 PM              

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OK..
Firstly..
1.Is he still married or involved with the mother of his child, the daughter?
2.If he really is still in love with her whether with her still or not..
It is way way too soon for him to get romantically involved with anyone else.
3.How old are you?
4.How did you meet him?
5.He sounds like he is being honest with you. It is too early for him to get involved and he does have serious issues to deal with.
Maybe even being just friends is too overwhelming for him at this time.
6. Has he shown definite interest of the intimate or romantic type, or....
7. Are you reading more into it all because of your feelings for him?

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"Heaven doesn't want me and Hell is afraid I'll take over and start a rehab for the damned!"
~Judgement Must Be Balanced With Compassion~
~Do Not Seek Wealth From The Suffering, Or The Dire Needs Of Others~
~Assumption Is The Bane Of Understanding~
~ if you keep doing what you did, you'll keep getting what you got.~
Everything changes.
Fear not the changes.
"My body is physically disabled, but I am not my body nor am I its disabilities!"
"I would rather," Truth said; "to walk naked than wear the raiments of Falsehood!"
}><}}}(*> <*){{{><{}><}}}(*> <*){{{><{}><}}}(*> <*){{{><{}><}}}(*> <*){{{><{}<}}(*> <3
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posted November 07, 2007 04:00 PM              

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hi fate. hes 42, im 32. he was married but divorced 7 yrs now. he work 3 job between mon-sat and gets his 14 year old daughter sat-monday. he wanted me to meet her at the beginning but i said i want him to get to know me first before he bring me around his daughter. i went to see him and he introduced me to 3 of his family members, we went to dinner and breakfast. say if its okay, and your comfortable or if any of you guys are comfy heres my pager 267 230 6205. i hope you can leave your number so i can call you back. as i dont want to put my direct number on this site cause i dont want crazy people calling. i need to talk!!!!

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