posted November 11, 2007 01:45 AM              

How does one find a way into your heart?

for me, its being a friend first, remembering things about me, listening, caring, being able to call you at 2 am and youre still talking to me 3 hours later. TALKING, friendship, and lots of laughter.

posted November 11, 2007 02:29 AM            

So the more genuine they are, the more likely it is they'll find their way into my heart.

There are many other traits I'd like, such as spontaneity, being down to earth, a good dose of personal integrity, someone who can make me laugh... But the genuine/honest part is no-compromise zone lol.. Other traits I can still think about and assess..

posted November 11, 2007 04:24 PM              

For me, yep, has to be a friend first. And make me laugh with their way of seeing life and humor. And last, when they show they care by doing protective kinds of things. Not that I'm needing anyone to care for me!

But a for instance would be last week when I went out in backroads on a quad as the one in back, and the guy moved his legs outside mine (I was in shorts) to keep my legs from getting too scratched up from the thorns and branches we were crashing through! He was a Sag guy, but I don't think it was that. The last Sag I dated had a 'don't whine' kind of attitude! This Sag guy has Scorpio Venus: I find Scorpio influences have that 'take care of you' kind of attributes.

posted November 11, 2007 04:37 PM              

Someone who makes me feel like I'm important to them. He must show genuine interest, cause so many guys have low standards which is hardly flattering.

It sounds obvious, but he must have feelings for me. And when he does you know, he goes out of his way to get you things you really don't care about. Wasting time, money and energy on me when I didn't even ask.

Wasting time and energy especially is a dead give away - unless he's a loser with nothing to do

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Another crucial thing!

I "test" the guy by seeing how long it takes him to get mad at me, and how he'll do it.

posted November 11, 2007 05:13 PM            

He also has to be very funny, very witty.

Oh and excellent culinary abilities. I. Love. Food.

posted November 12, 2007 01:55 AM              

First of all, my Sun's in Cancer, my Ascendant in Scorpio, and my Moon in Gemini.

I gotta have someone with whom I can be myself, someone whom I can open and reveal myself to, and she has to be able to open herself as well. I don't expect an immediate openness, but a growing and eventual comfortableness between us. My heart is happiest in a situation when I hold her hand, and I look at her and she smiles. If we can hold hands and that makes her happy, then it makes me happy as well. I love someone that I can talk to for hours and hours, and that has a sense of humour. The relationship has to be fun, but it's also gotta be a serious one that lasts a long time. It's not easy for me to forget someone whom I once loved.

Anyways, yeah, that's my corny description of what my Cancerian heart desires.

posted November 12, 2007 02:29 AM              

A man will find his way into my heart... permanently... if he is the following:
Kind, understanding, loyal and protective.
Affectionate.
Sincere.
Someone who loves animals.

posted November 12, 2007 03:02 AM            

Funnily, if a guy can come up to me and talk to me, I find that very interesting and rare because I don't get guys "hitting on me". I mean, I get looks but I seldom have someone come up to me and strike up a conversation, so... LOL... if a guy does that, that is an automatic point for him.

Secondly, if we can have a conversation without you telling me how much you make, what car you drive and how cool and upmarket your pad is, that scores some points too.

Three: If a guy can not be shocked at what I say, or how I live, or what my beliefs are (he doesn't need to share these values but if he is tolerant of them) then that scores him points.

Four: Like CoralFrequency, I can tell when someone is lying and if a guy lies to me, it really turns me off. It means that he could lie about anything if he can lie about something, especially if it is something little that he lies about.

Five: I can't deal with teary, overly sensitive, or guys more emotional than I am, because I am very emotional. So, a guy who is a shoulder to cry on, my rock and my fortress; is one that comes closer to my heart.

Six: A guy who is not necessarily metro-sexual (or maybe one) but someone who looks after their appearance, someone with good manners, someone soft spoken yet strong, and someone who is attentive to small details scores points for me.

Seven: S guy with whom I can brain-storm and cook up plans together. Not someone who is always waiting for me to come up with ideas.

Eight: Trustworthy and Honest. I can usually see that by the way he is with his friends or family.... oooh, speaking of family... If a guy is going to avoid me meeting his loved ones (friends or family) I find that fishy. I require to meet at least one friend because it really tells me what type of person he is.

Nine: Someone spontaneous but not reckless scores points with me.

Ten:And yes, if he owns a sports car and not own a house, I will think he is an idiot, so I like someone who is not too bothered about flash, but more bothered about quality and grace.

Eleven: If I have something to learn from you, you immediately score 100 points that is 50% towards my heart. Also, a good sense of humour, not a funny guy, like the guy that's the life of the party (I find those annoying) but someone with wit, brains and a layered and intelligent sense of humour. A twisted sense of humour is also good for me.

posted November 12, 2007 11:26 PM            

But even after I feel this deep bond, I'm cautious and have my own checklist of characteristics the man needs before I allow myself to go with what I'm feeling. I suppose the most important ones are...
--He must treat people well, including himself. Respectful guys with genuine humility are HOT.
--He needs to like to play. Good sense of humor and imagination are a must.
--He needs to be good company for my different sides...mental, emotional, sexual.
--True to his word. When my guy says he's here for me, I'm touched, but when I see him living that, I fall in love with him again and again.

There's more, but I definitely fall & feel good about falling for a guy when he meets that checklist.

But the things is, that even if a guy meets that checklist--has all the traits I value--if I don't already have that deep bond with him I mentioned first, I don't fall in love. I admire all his positive traits and love him, but I don't fall in love with him. Conversely, when I feel that bond with someone, I will love traits about him that I hadn't previously thought of as being traits I'd love.

Sag Sun...Leo Moon...Scorpio Ascendant

posted November 12, 2007 11:40 PM              

He has to be a gentleman, intellectual, open-minded, independent, reliable, artistic, well-spoken, knows how to mingle, good sense of humor/quirky, and allows me my space from time to time. A handsome face and body doesn't hurt either.

posted November 12, 2007 11:52 PM            

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Most importantly, he must have a nice ass to smack.

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