posted November 20, 2007 06:05 PM            

Personally, I think you have bigger problems.. like your love of poo..

posted November 20, 2007 06:21 PM              

because, yeah, it is really great up to a point like you say acoustic god, but here's the deal. you have to learn to trust your gut too.

i think it's a balancing act.

posted November 20, 2007 06:40 PM            

Dude that was a fun thread BR started about poo..

He knows I'm kidding.

posted November 20, 2007 06:52 PM            

It begs the question as to whether comfort equals happiness. In some ways it does. A lack of worry goes a LONG way towards feeling generally at peace.

Relating it to my time in the Navy I remember feeling like I could stay in the Navy and live a pretty easy life, but I didn't feel like I'd ever grow up if I stayed in. The less intelligent of the lifers didn't seem as though they could have ever made it in the real world. They relied too heavily on the structure of the military to ever take complete responsibility for themselves.

posted November 20, 2007 07:02 PM            

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Sometimes it seems like it would be great to have someone else take care of everything, but in the end I think I'd rather create my own comfort through being responsible for myself, than live a totally pampered life.

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posted November 20, 2007 07:27 PM            

HeartCakes, I just got that impression from you sometimes.. but I'm not going to look up old threads. I can't even remember the names.. It's happened a couple of times (shouldn't have said "usually"), when I thought you took something the wrong way.

posted November 20, 2007 08:04 PM            

You can post whatever you like. Don't get indecisive about posting now.

posted November 20, 2007 08:04 PM              

blue roamer, sorry for the sidetracking.

posted November 20, 2007 08:52 PM            

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capricorn and last degree virgo, right?

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Yup My girlfriend has a Gemini Moon as well, and hers is at 29 degrees.

posted November 20, 2007 08:57 PM              

acoustic god you are like diplomatic sturdiness personified. and very perceptive.

stay..

posted November 21, 2007 12:08 AM            

Also, as Ag said, indecisiveness could be a sign of a person's open-mindedness.

Also, being indecisive could be a fear of "the future", a fear of consequences, or a fear or other people's opinions, a fear of your own self-criticism, or just a general fear of the unknown.

Indecisive people are usually very hard on themselves, calling themselves "stupid" for making decisions that seem to have been "wrong decisions". Indecisive people are very sensitive people who try not to hurt others and also people who are not comfortable with making "mistakes".

Also, being indecisive could be a a sign of being control-freakish, wanting everything to turn out the way you desire it, thus being indecisive because... well, you don't know what the outcome will be. Also, you unless you are highly evolved, it is safer to say that a person is likely to change their mind on a matter according to their moods, but indecisive people have a problem with that fact that "today I might want to go, say good-bye and give you the finger, but tomorrow I might feel like hugging you" - a fear of change and a fear of seeming inconsistent.

Also, being indecisive could be a result of making decisions based on outer forces, not based on your inner-self. We know ourselves, therefore it is easier to make decisions if we are the only factors considered when making a decision, but.. if you have to consider how your decisions might affect other people, it could make you indecisive because you are not in a position to know, nor control what other's think, or how they will react.

Now, I am not going to yap on about the How you could curb this because you asked for the "why". But, FEAR is the culprit in most cases of indecisiveness.

Sincere Regards
Unmoved.

*Gosh, excuse me guys, but I seem to have a lot to say these days, and I seem to have lost my paraphrasing skills.*

forgive me.

added: sometimes you could be indecisive if you see the subject matters as opposed, as in, if you don't see harmony between the two "things" happening together. What I mean is: say you felt a decision had to be made about two "things"... sometimes it is actually thinking that these two things can not exist in harmony that causes one to be indecisive. It is feeling that you have to choose inb the first place that can make a person indecisive, when in fact, the contradictions can actually exist without having to choose between the them.