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Topic: What makes me the doormat?
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NAM unregistered
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posted November 24, 2007 11:10 AM
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patisserie unregistered
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posted November 24, 2007 11:23 AM
You know, coming from a Sunny place, you don't sound so sunny. IP: Logged |
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posted November 24, 2007 11:28 AM
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Azalaksh Knowflake Posts: 982 From: New Brighton, MN, USA Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 24, 2007 11:32 AM
Nelly ~I’m sad to hear you’re feeling that way Helping people find themselves could be quite rewarding and fulfilling. But you are feeling used….. like someone unfairly took from you without giving anything back?? Or did you give too much of yourself and your time, too soon into the association?? What type of friendships/relationships were these?? Is it a matter of misjudging what type of person they were at the beginning of the association, or finding out later that they were not what they appeared?? “Will it ever stop?” Well, you are in control of the way you allow people to assert their will over what you do/think and don’t include you in the equation….. I don’t really see you as a “doormat” Nelly – you’re a Cardinal sign, hon!! You don’t just roll over, give up and say “do what you will with me, take what you want from me, it’s OK” do you?? Perhaps it may have something to do with this: What expectations did you have about these people who make you feel used?? Hope you feel better soon, Zala PS: I just saw what you wrote about "expectations" -- this sounds like the area that's giving you trouble..... And I don't believe that anyone is "born to lose"..... Here's a little something for luck IP: Logged |
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posted November 24, 2007 11:41 AM
Sorry, Zala, I had to delete, this was making me nervous to have in here. IP: Logged |
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posted November 24, 2007 11:57 AM
Hi, I don't think I have come acrossed your birth data but I am really curious why you are dealing with what you are dealing with now. Is it okay if you could repeat your info?IP: Logged |
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posted November 24, 2007 11:58 AM
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posted November 24, 2007 11:59 AM
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posted November 24, 2007 12:01 PM
Sure thing, and thanks, I'll see what I can come up with.IP: Logged |
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posted November 24, 2007 12:03 PM
do you have an e-mail addres? I don't want to share that here, you never know you know...Edit:thank you IP: Logged |
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posted November 24, 2007 12:04 PM
I'll email you within a minute!IP: Logged |
Vintry Newflake Posts: 3 From: Registered: Jun 2009
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posted November 24, 2007 12:14 PM
Nam, YOU'RE NOT A DOORMAT!maybe it's just your Cancer Moon in a bad mood? Tomorrow will be a better day! Cheer up! IP: Logged |
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posted November 24, 2007 12:17 PM
re: what makes me a doormat ..i wouldn't be suprised if being a doormat is part of being a cancerian sun .. i.e. cancer is a sympathetic sign .. others recognise this and can take unfair advantage of their sympathetic nature .. i know that issue has often arisen with cancerian friends .. and i've had the same issue .. probaly due to my cancerian ascendant .. except with me .. uranus close to my ascendant can provide doormat users with a rather rude awakening :-) i like to help folks .. but .. i've got my limits .. and if someone stretches those limits too far .. well .. all of a sudden .. they find the doormat is suddenly pulled from under their feet .. http://www.angriesout.com/doormat.htm http://www.oprah.com/tows/pastshows/tows_2002/tows_past_20020613_b.jhtml http://www.wildcelticrose.net/lisasplace/respect.html IP: Logged |
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posted November 24, 2007 12:37 PM
just noticed your sun and moon are on the cusp .. both at a very close conjunction and conjuct to mercury .. all in the 7th house .. and square to natal lillith .. and re that pluto transit mentioned in the other thread .. i missed something .. transiting pluto is starting to apply by opposition to that threesome .. sun/moon/mercury .. and starting to square up to natal lillith .. and pluto looks to be transversing your first house .. er .. looks like you have a saturn transit on as well .. i.e. starting to square natal venus .. and IF british summer time was in effect .. that puts transiting saturn exactly conjunct your MC .. .. sort of fits regarding your posts .. i.e. with bst in effect that gives you a sag ascendant .. again it seems to fit your posts ..IP: Logged |
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posted November 24, 2007 12:41 PM
Good morning happy dragon: I read the second link you put in there and I can say that I do say "no" when I am going to take time for myself, in other words I am not constantly taking care of everyone, even know some may say I do because I am a single mom with two kids so that can be represented as such. But, I understand that taking care of myself comes in very different forms, like when I am reading books or sharing with you guys I am in my "me" time.Even taking a shower is obviously my me time because I like to take long showers and "think" or relax in there LOLWhat I was taking about was: For example, when I do something I do it from the heart and I care for others. When other people do anything for you is because they aree waiting for a certain result they need or want at the time. I guess this is one of my issues. We can always talk about money and how it turns people against each other but after working with money for 18 years that doesn't even botehr me anymore. And then tehre is love, I really don't get how people do not know how to love. Yes, I know I am all over the place today, I can't make sense of my feelings IP: Logged |
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posted November 24, 2007 12:43 PM
quote: just noticed your sun and moon are on the cusp .. both at a very close conjunction and conjuct to mercury .. all in the 7th house .. and square to natal lillith .. and re that pluto transit mentioned in the other thread .. i missed something .. transiting pluto is starting to apply by opposition to that threesome .. sun/moon/mercury .. and starting to square up to natal lillith .. and pluto looks to be transversing your first house .. er .. looks like you have a saturn transit on as well .. i.e. starting to square natal venus .. and IF british summer time was in effect .. that puts transiting saturn exactly conjunct your MC .. .. sort of fits regarding your posts .. i.e. with bst in effect that gives you a sag ascendant .. again it seems to fit your posts ..
Does this mean in deed I was born to lose?
oh boy.... IP: Logged |
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posted November 24, 2007 12:58 PM
** Does this mean in deed I was born to lose? ** no no no no no it just means your dealing with some tough transits .. i.e. that weren't apparent when i first looked at your chart .. the chart i had here had no birth time .. that has now been corrected ..just to add .. ( looks like it was 6.40 pm gmt time ~ http://www.timeanddate.com/worldclock/ ~ ) funny .. i was trying to add to your other thread 'till i saw the doormat post .. ( am sort of wondering if there are any spanish language sites that might help .. ( i.e. i've been debating whether to type up liz greenes chapter about the sign 'cancer' ) well here .. re: guitar playing .. these are excellent .. it's a finger exerciser .. ~ http://www.gripmaster.net/gripmaster/ ~ it makes actually playing loads easier within a week or two .. i.e. it will gives you loads more control over the physical aspects of playing .. IP: Logged |
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posted November 24, 2007 01:01 PM
Hey, I like that little gadget! it seems it could work wonders. Like sometimes I go to my kids soccer practices and I sit there and read I could just take my little gadget so while I read I am exercising my fingers as well LOLOf course, i should just take my guitar and play and who cares about who is there right? -easier to say than to do- LOL IP: Logged |
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posted November 24, 2007 01:03 PM
as far as the birth time, doesn't astro.com already take those things in consideration when we put in the birth city?IP: Logged |
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posted November 24, 2007 01:10 PM
NAM .. drop me an email sometime .. ( edit data deleted )( given your speedy postings .. that should take about five seconds i need a food break .. i.e its dinner time here IP: Logged |
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posted November 24, 2007 01:12 PM
got it, I'll e-mail right now to make sure I didn't mess it up IP: Logged |
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posted November 24, 2007 01:13 PM
BTW, I was just getting ready to leave and wash dishes LOLIP: Logged |
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posted November 24, 2007 01:18 PM
ok .. email recieved this end will reply after dinner .. and reply address will be different .. ( just to let you know .. ( in addition ) re ** as far as the birth time, doesn't astro.com already take those things in consideration when we put in the birth city?** yes it does .. however i use Kairon .. which is proving to be more accurate regarding ascendant and mc positions .. IP: Logged |
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posted November 24, 2007 01:20 PM
ok, you eat I'll wash dishes LOLYou guys make me laugh LOL IP: Logged |
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posted November 24, 2007 01:23 PM
ok .. i'll frizbee the dishes to the 'sunny place' ( it's now raining cats 'n dogs here ..)IP: Logged |