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Topic: People who can't be without a relationship
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sinderlou unregistered
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posted December 08, 2007 03:54 PM
What are the most important things to look for in a chart to determine a type of person that could not be happy unless they are in a relationship?IP: Logged |
Astra Knowflake Posts: 243 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 08, 2007 04:14 PM
It depends on the chart, but Libra moon is one indicator. They thrive in relationships. IP: Logged |
geminizz unregistered
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posted December 08, 2007 04:46 PM
I could add.. Moon in the 7th house? Especially in opposition with personal planets.IP: Logged |
SagSun unregistered
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posted December 08, 2007 04:47 PM
Planets in the 7th house are also an indicator...especially Venus.IP: Logged |
sinderlou unregistered
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posted December 08, 2007 05:37 PM
what about libra asc?IP: Logged |
sinderlou unregistered
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posted December 08, 2007 05:38 PM
what about libra asc?IP: Logged |
NAM unregistered
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posted December 08, 2007 05:43 PM
Me, me! *raices hand proud of knowing herself!* yeah, I can make it in life on my own but I am not happy (not totally and completely and I don't care what anyone else has to say) I am still a whole but like a dull star I can't shine. I don't know what makes me this way though (astrologically speaking) I am sure Zala,Happy Dragon, Acoustic God or Geocosmic Valentine can tell you why I am this way, they know my chart better than me I only know what I feel IP: Logged |
NAM unregistered
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posted December 08, 2007 05:46 PM
I do remember reading something about this on the NN aquarius description from Jan Spiller's book.And it is suppose to be one of my lessons, but I aready proved I can make it on my own, I think now I just gave up...what's the point? Blah!IP: Logged |
jassen unregistered
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posted December 08, 2007 05:57 PM
That describes me, to some extent, and I blame my 5th house: IP: Logged |
BlueTopaz124 Knowflake Posts: 207 From: Portland, OR, USA Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 08, 2007 08:49 PM
Jassen, you do have a highly populated 5th house! Welcome, Fellow Sag!IP: Logged |
Battle of Evermore Newflake Posts: 0 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted December 08, 2007 09:30 PM
I don't know about that 7th house thing. I have 5 planets in the 7th house and I am NOT like that in any way shape or fashion. I can't stand that trait in people either, I think it's silly and weak. I know that's mean to say, but it's just one of my pet peeves. Moon in Libra and I think a lot of Cancer placements might be found in a lot of people like that. IP: Logged |
triplecancer Knowflake Posts: 34 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 08, 2007 10:33 PM
Well,I have Sun, Moon and Rising in Cancer and I don´t feel the constant need to be in a relationship. Actually, I´ve been alone most of my life. I think strong libra energy in the chart is an indicator, a strong 7th house too. IP: Logged |
twentytwenty Newflake Posts: 0 From: wa Registered: Mar 2010
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posted December 08, 2007 10:43 PM
offtopic but,i'd sure like to see your eyes triple cancer IP: Logged |
NAM unregistered
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posted December 08, 2007 11:17 PM
quote: I don't know about that 7th house thing. I have 5 planets in the 7th house and I am NOT like that in any way shape or fashion. I can't stand that trait in people either, I think it's silly and weak. I know that's mean to say, but it's just one of my pet peeves
I used to be like you when I was young,I was actually a loner for a long time and I thought it was weak as well...but as I have grown older and had and lost I have realized that there is nothing more important than a healthy relationship and a companion. Friends come and go, mother and father will not stay forever and kids will go and do their own lives... It is not like we can not exist on our own , we are strong and we certainly can but it is a lot more fulfilling when we can have a companion. I should've just come here(earth) as a love bird I even surprise myself of how I think now... I still see myself as independent and an individual, like I would never change my individualism to keep a partner... Which makes the game harder I don't want to control nor be controlled.I just want it to happen... IP: Logged |
Azalaksh Knowflake Posts: 982 From: New Brighton, MN, USA Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 08, 2007 11:30 PM
quote: Friends come and go, mother and father will not stay forever and kids will go and do their own lives... It is not like we can not exist on our own, we are strong and we certainly can but it is a lot more fulfilling when we can have a companion.
Nelly, companions come and go too -- it seems very rare to find "forever" these days..... quote: yeah, I can make it in life on my own but I am not happy (not totally and completely and I don't care what anyone else has to say) I am still a whole but like a dull star I can't shine.
Gaining a partner/companion isn't at the top of my list, but I feel somewhat the same as you -- once you've tasted it, you do miss having someone special in your life. Sometimes I wonder if I chose to be born a Libran to experience the exquisite wretchedness of what it's like to be partner-less by choice for long periods.....IP: Logged |
NAM unregistered
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posted December 08, 2007 11:43 PM
quote: once you've tasted it
That's it right there, that is were the key is, if both partners would taste the same intensity then there would be a forever without a doubt.If they are grown to not kill it that is... I wonder if that point only happens after you are 35...I have to use a number I think 35 is pretty safe for most people on maturity, specially guys. I do have a busy 7th house too and my moon is in that mix.(from the astrological point of view)
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Battle of Evermore Newflake Posts: 0 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted December 08, 2007 11:50 PM
Well NAM, I didn't mean it in a way that you should be a loner or else you're a weak person. I really meant that I find myself surrounded by people who can't be alone with themselves for a week or else they're complaining about how unhappy they are. It seems to me these days that people are so needy that they'll just go out desperately searching for someone because they don't want to be alone. It takes anything that is special in a relationship out of it when people just start settling for a lover because there isn't anything better around at the moment. It's just kind of selfish to me as well if they're with you because they don't want to be alone and not because they actually love you because you're special to them.IP: Logged |
ErickaF unregistered
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posted December 08, 2007 11:50 PM
I am with Battler for Evermore. But to NAM, how young is young? I am 26 & people who cannot be without a companion are people I cannot stand. Okay that was probably harsh...but its such a turn off to me. I have an empty seventh house. Is that why I am like this?? ;-(IP: Logged |
NAM unregistered
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posted December 09, 2007 12:05 AM
quote: Well NAM, I didn't mean it in a way that you should be a loner or else you're a weak person. I really meant that I find myself surrounded by people who can't be alone with themselves for a week or else they're complaining about how unhappy they are. It seems to me these days that people are so needy that they'll just go out desperately searching for someone because they don't want to be alone. It takes anything that is special in a relationship out of it when people just start settling for a lover because there isn't anything better around at the moment. It's just kind of selfish to me as well if they're with you because they don't want to be alone and not because they actually love you because you're special to them.
I agree with you, I would never settle just because I feel I am alone, nobody should ever do that.In fact one of the many reasons why I left my husband is because of his insecurities on himself and the fact that he would tell me how much he loved me with words but not really give me the freedom to be me. I always thought being alone was better than fighting all the time to see who had more control. You are young (as I said before) and you have a ot to learn ahead of you, not only that but you are smart enough to be here and learn from other people's experiences, it is not the same as living your lessons but at least you can have a little insight into life and love. I also have had so many friends that would jumo from relationships and I often wonder if they ever really felt love with any of them, funny also how they wouldn't even cry when they broke up with someone. BTW, when I said I was a loner I meant it I was , I didn't think you were saying it means if youa re not one you are weak, I had many , MANY friends , hang out with a lot of people , but I was a loner from the relationship aspect. *sorry, my english is probably really bad tonight, I am tired. IP: Logged |
NAM unregistered
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posted December 09, 2007 12:16 AM
quote: But to NAM, how young is young? I am 26 & people who cannot be without a companion are people I cannot stand. Okay that was probably harsh...but its such a turn off to me.
As I said before, I also thought and saw people like this as needy and it did bug the hell out of me... just like those dating sites and stuff, I could never get into those, a friend actually got me a membership to one and I felt so uncomforatble with the whole thing. :x I don't think love is something you can just buy or go to a place and find... But I do think differently than before, and as Zala said , (one more time)... once you taste how intense a connection between a man and a woman can be you are not going to want anything else but to feel that magic again. As far as age it totally depends on the individual, but from my perspective and some very close people I know I think 35 is a good number to say most of us had live enough to reach a wise level of maturity... I am not sure how other people feel though. In the other hand, my mom is in her 60s and she is like my kid *agh! so see, it doesn't apply to everyone I will say though a lot of people here have a great advantage over the rest of the population because at least are trying to learn who they are. *thumbs up* IP: Logged |
Battle of Evermore Newflake Posts: 0 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted December 09, 2007 12:22 AM
Nope Erika, I'm like that too and my chart is all about the 7th house. lol I know a few people who I love who are like that, but that trait in them still annoys the dickens out of me.NAM- Yeah, I thing the needy and jumping into relationships thing is just getting worse with every generation. Probably because so many kids have issues with their families now that they feel that they need love from somewhere because they aren't getting it at home. I've seen that before... and some people don't seem to have any good reason. I guess I'll never really understand. IP: Logged |
writesomething unregistered
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posted December 09, 2007 12:53 AM
I have a stellium in the 7th house, and I cant be without a relationship. Its the most unhealthiest trait in my personality. Im not needy enough to grab anybody to love, Iam very picky and take a long time to find someone but once I find them, I cant leave unless I find someone else with the same intensity and pickiness in the search. I have a lot of walls with people especially men. Iam not good at being alone. Ive tried and have failed miserably.IP: Logged |
SagSun unregistered
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posted December 09, 2007 05:05 AM
quote: I don't know about that 7th house thing. I have 5 planets in the 7th house and I am NOT like that in any way shape or fashion. I can't stand that trait in people either, I think it's silly and weak. I know that's mean to say, but it's just one of my pet peeves.
You know, when I was in high school I was kind of a loner ... and to some extent I still am. I used to think that I don't need other people in my life. But I realized that to be *truly* happy I just need that special someone. I know it sounds stupid and pathetic. But I can't help it. I just *need* to be in a secure relationship and feel loved. I mean, it's not like I'm always in a relationship or always looking for a guy I could date. I'm perfectly content being alone. I don't need a man to take care of my business. I can do this myself. But I'm not happy when I don't have that special someone. And I honestly can't see anything wrong about that. BTW: I have Venus & Mars (both in Libra) and Pluto and Saturn (both in Scorpio ... Saturn is on the cusp of the 7th/8th house though) in the 7th house. IP: Logged |
Xodian Moderator Posts: 275 From: Canada Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 09, 2007 09:19 AM
quote: Gaining a partner/companion isn't at the top of my list, but I feel somewhat the same as you -- once you've tasted it, you do miss having someone special in your life. Sometimes I wonder if I chose to be born a Libran to experience the exquisite wretchedness of what it's like to be partner-less by choice for long periods.....
I think of the Libran ideal in such a matter on a greater prespective Zala . To me partnerships has always been about gaining something from the other person that you just didn't know you had in you. A partnership between two people exists on the grounds of mutual healing and experience, or support (may it be emotional, sexual, financial, etc.) However, if those needs are somehow fullfilled, a person may feel like turning to someone else to gain the other necessary experiences from and that is where its unfair for the other partner to keep on clinging to someone when they know that they have to let them go inorder for them to continue evolving (remember; I premise this on all the fact that both partners are familiar with the concepts of respect and responsibility Lol!) So really I do not see come-and-go unions as unfaithfulness or permiscuoisity. I see it as a continious evolution journey that allows people to gain something within themselves from others that they just would have missed out on in a strictly monogomous relationship. And all those people that you gain your new found experiences from can never be forgotten... Its impossible Lol! IP: Logged |
ErickaF unregistered
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posted December 09, 2007 10:06 AM
SagSun...I felt so bad when I read your post. It does sound pathetic. But don't get offended please. Its just that to me we must be already happy then find a partner instead of believing that the relationship makes us happy. To me thats insane. But we are all different, you will never understand the way I am and I will never (hopefully) understand the way you are. I have lots of Libra in my natal chart, Saturn, Mercury, Jupiter, Pluto. Mars in Scorp, Venus in very early Capricorn and Moon in Aquarius and Sun in Scorpio. At 26 I can't really call myself 'young', its young but not that young, for a woman at least lol...I've had experiences in love and have been in relationships, only one true intense love that let me go:-(. In the end we only have ourselves. I know this Gemini with Libra rising. He is not in love but is with his SO for the companionship. I guess that is enough for some people.IP: Logged |