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annaf
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posted December 11, 2007 05:46 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for annaf     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Are there any classic behaviour patterns when you are not really interested? When you are maybe a little bit attracted but not REALLY? How would you behave towards the (friendly) advances of someone.....(vs. when you ARE interested, BUT insecure that the other person likes you.)

Thank you in advance!

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posted December 11, 2007 06:02 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Pisces rising here...

When I'm not interested in a guy AT ALL I usually like to ignore him and his advances. When I like him as a friend while he shows more interest in me I usually stay friendly. However, I find it very hard to say no, so my answers become a little bit vague ... you know, like when he asks me out on a date and I'm not interested in him I say something like "Well, we'll see. I'm kinda busy right now. I'm not sure if I'll have time". I do this because I don't like disappointing people.

When I AM interested in a guy I usually watch and observe him for quite some time. I also try to make some eye contact with him. This way I try to figure out if he likes me too. I would NEVER make the first move and ask him out.

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posted December 11, 2007 12:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for annaf     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
thanks SagSun, ok so you are observing him, if he has an interest in you. Let's say you know each other beyond eye contact, but you are not sure whether he has more than just a friendly interest in you. Would you still stay passive....and hence almost display signs of disinterest. Or are you becoming more direct...even if you are not sure he likes you back

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posted December 11, 2007 01:32 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Let's say you know each other beyond eye contact, but you are not sure whether he has more than just a friendly interest in you. Would you still stay passive....and hence almost display signs of disinterest. Or are you becoming more direct...even if you are not sure he likes you back

Even in that case I would be observant (at least at first). I might talk and smile at him more than I normally would but that's about it. Like I said, I would never make the first move, especially not if I'm not sure he likes me back. IF I am 100% sure he likes me then - after a long time of pondering about it - I become more direct. But it takes quite some time before I feel safe enough to finally be more open and direct with him.

You know, being a Pisces rising in love is not easy. We are way too shy to show the object of our desire that we like them ... well actually we are showing it but in a way that not everyone can see. To some people who can't see beneath all of that we might come across as if we were not interested at all. Unfortunately even our objects of desire usually can't tell by our behavior that we like them (unless they have some Pisces in them too ... or at least a strong water influence). We just seem friendly. But when we are interested in someone it is a different kind of friendliness ... am I making sense here???

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posted December 11, 2007 03:15 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
you are absolutely right SagSun. I'm Pisces rising, Sag sun too, so I understand you perfectly.
It's so hard to speak directly to someone when your feeling are involved.It takes someone to know you very very good so that person could know that you like him from a look or a smile.
Or... there is no or. When you don't like somebody, you simply tell him. If he asks. If he doesn't you pay more intentions to someone else.

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posted December 11, 2007 04:14 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
@Cekana
It's great to meet a fellow Sag Sun with a Pisces Ascendant ... there are so few of us out there. Having a Sag Sun with Pisces rising is not exactly a walk in the park ... but I love my combo. I wouldn't trade it for any other combo.

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posted December 11, 2007 05:10 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
For many years I actually hated my Pisces rising, but I learned how to deal with it. It's a strange combination, and it doesn't work usually the way you need to, but... The Pisces give this "humanity" and emotional shade to sun sing, and they can make you feel really good when you do a good deed.
it's nice to know that there are few more people with kind of spirit.

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posted December 11, 2007 05:36 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You know, when I was in high school I didn't particularly like my Pisces rising either. It made me miss out on a lot of great opportunities and typical high school experiences. But in college I came to cherish my rising sign. There's so much rudeness and egoism out there ... in fact, I think the world could need a couple of more gentle Pisces rising people ... I hope this doesn't sound arrogant ... it's just that when I see how a lot of people treat others day by day I always think to myself "Why are they doing this? Why do they have to be so rude towards each other?" It's like they only mind their own personal advantage and don't care about anyone else but themself. That's something I simply don't get...

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posted December 11, 2007 06:57 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Are there any classic behaviour patterns when you are not really interested? When you are maybe a little bit attracted but not REALLY? How would you behave towards the (friendly) advances of someone.....(vs. when you ARE interested, BUT insecure that the other person likes you.)

His Venus Sign would tell you all you need to know. Love, relationships, flirting. Venus, venus, venus.

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Having a Sag Sun with Pisces rising is not exactly a walk in the park

I could imagine.

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... but I love my combo. I wouldn't trade it for any other combo.

Not even for a Gem Sun w/ a Virgo Asc?

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posted December 12, 2007 03:00 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Not even for a Gem Sun w/ a Virgo Asc?

No,not really. I have a 6th house Moon ... so there's a bit of Virgo in me as is. With Virgo rising my Moon would be in the 12th house ... not exactly a walk in the park either. And as for that Gemini Sun ... well, I've known a Gemini girl when I was in high school. I found her to be kind of obnoxious (no offense to the Geminis ... I'm sure it wasn't just because of her sun sign). But I really love all the Sag/9th house energy in my chart. And the Pisces rising greatly softens the bluntness of the Sag.

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posted December 13, 2007 09:39 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
okay here is the juice.
i have pisces rising, sun n moon in cancer opposing neptune.
try that
what Linda wrote about Pisces girls in Star signs bout havin to beat guys away with sticks is a good analogy
only, when the guys r friends who suddenly start making eyes at u , and u want to stay friends the whole Piscs push- pull game gets started ending with the the friendship goin to hell
when i m not interested i get confused between trying to keep the friend and well, making clear it aint gonna happen.
usually it gets so foggy . the guy doesnt know what to do next.
thats when i swim away

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posted December 13, 2007 02:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for annaf     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you for all the feedback so far!

venusdeindia,

if you like someone, but you are not in love, do you get evasive, not respond to general invitations/emails eg.or avoid/ignore the person, but stay friendly?

Or what is your way of conveying the message - let's say if you havent been friends before, but you think they are a nice enough person?

Thanks a lot!

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Lara
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posted December 13, 2007 02:54 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Sagsun - you wrote:
"You know, being a Pisces rising in love is not easy. We are way too shy to show the object of our desire that we like them ... well actually we are showing it but in a way that not everyone can see. To some people who can't see beneath all of that we might come across as if we were not interested at all. Unfortunately even our objects of desire usually can't tell by our behavior that we like them (unless they have some Pisces in them too ... or at least a strong water influence). We just seem friendly. But when we are interested in someone it is a different kind of friendliness ... am I making sense here???"


YOU are TOTALLY making sense here and my Pisces rising drives my moon/venus in Aries absolutely INSANE !!!!!!!

I can no way tell a guy l am interested in him and with Taurus/sun im lucky if l spot the signs that he is interested in me LOL

It's a problem,... to say the least

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posted December 13, 2007 04:17 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
@Lara
I hear you ... I can totally relate to what you're saying about the problems that usually arise when you have Pisces rising while all or most of your other personal planets are in extroverted signs. It's like constantly having to fight yourself. I have Sun & Mercury in Sagittarius, Moon in Leo and Venus and Mars in Libra ... none of which are what I would call introverted signs. Deep down inside I WANT to be more open when it comes to personal relationships ... but my Pisces rising just won't let me.

Also, I'm not very good at telling whether a guy is interested in me or not ... which is weird actually, cause usually I'm a very intuitive person ... but when it comes to guys all that intuition goes right out the window.

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posted December 13, 2007 04:32 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Also, I'm not very good at telling whether a guy is interested in me or not ... which is weird actually, cause usually I'm a very intuitive person ... but when it comes to guys all that intuition goes right out the window.


OMG

SO true with me too... it upsets me actually cos l married con artist and l never even saw it coming. I really beat myself up about it now, 2 kids and a seriously messy divorce later

I have a stellium in 1st house aries/taurus which involves all my inner planets except Mars!

I have venus/aries and mars/taurus so l am female where l should be male and vice versa. Neptune in Scorpio/8th house opposite mars is just the bloody icing on the cake LOL!!!

My Pisces side almost makes me stupider than l am, if that makes sense. No foresight nor common sense whatsoever and plus l don't even really like fish!

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posted December 13, 2007 04:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for annaf     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
by the way do any of the pisces ascendants here happen to have pluto in the 7th house? And if so how do you think it gels with your pisces energies?

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posted December 13, 2007 04:47 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yes, l have Pluto and Uranus in 7th both conjunct DC !!!!

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posted December 13, 2007 04:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for annaf     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi Lara, how do you feel it adds to the equation? I heard from someone who has this combination, pluto in 7th and pisces ascendant, that they act a lot like the slippery fish when they're not or only half-hearted into someone. But that the pluto in 7th really comes out when in love - that's how they know they are in love; then they are not evasive but very focused on that person even if they are not sure the feelings are mutual.

Or are you rather 'slippery' when you are unsure of the other persons feelings even if you have feeling? (sorry I'm tripping over my words tonight :-)

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posted December 13, 2007 05:19 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yes, I never really show anything now unless l sense the other person is into me and even then, l am careful. I think it's more a case of being burnt and therefore once bitten; twice shy

My Uranus is a nightmare as l get bored and yearn freedom within my relationships. My pluto can get obsessed and if the person has Scorpio in their chart then intense feelings can be instant! This guy l am into right now is a Pisces/sun, Pisces/moon, Pisces/mercury and Scorpio/AC
OMG and it's so intense and we hardly know each other. In fact l almost blew it due to getting all deep too quick!

I probably am slippery when not sure of the other persons feelings. Generally my Aries/venus/moon lets me know pretty quick if l feel something for the other person so i'm quite intune there - doesn't mean l will act on it though unless the other person jumps me
Make sense?

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posted December 13, 2007 05:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for annaf     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
'I probably am slippery when not sure of the other persons feelings. Generally my Aries/venus/moon lets me know pretty quick if l feel something for the other person so i'm quite intune there - doesn't mean l will act on it though unless the other person jumps me Make sense?'

Yup, makes sense.

And if you were not interested in someone, but sensed they are....would you rmain very friendly, but slip away i.e. start avoiding them? Or rather direct? (sorry, all these technical questions, but someone who I'm very interested in has that combination. And it's not clear whether we've just had too many missed communications and he's not sure what I want. Or whether his slippery avoidance, yet friendliness, is just his style of conveying in very subtle ways that he's not intersted.)

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posted December 13, 2007 05:38 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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by the way do any of the pisces ascendants here happen to have pluto in the 7th house? And if so how do you think it gels with your pisces energies?

I have Pluto in the 7th house too ... It squares my Moon, so I feel it more strongly in relation to my emotions. But I think Pluto in the 7th also makes me very intense in relationships ... however, being the shy Pisces rising that I am, Pluto in the 7th only shows when I'm deeply in love with someone. I then have a tendency to become somewhat obsessed with that person. But it's not an in-your-face kind of obsession ... it's more something I keep to myself.

@Lara
My Neptune in Sag squares my Ascendant ... so I think I got pretty much all the Pisces energy I could possibly get on the day I was born. Pisces is a big part of who I am as a person. I really like my Pisces energy ... but I hate the fact that it makes me somewhat gullible and naive. There are a lot of people out there that take advantage of people like us ... I've been there several times. I've been taken advantage of more often than I can count. And the sad thing is that I still find it incredibly hard to say no... it's a vicious cycle.

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posted December 13, 2007 05:49 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I could never tell someone "sorry but can we just be friends".. l don;t know why not, but l can't!

I just say "awww you are so sweet. I'm so lucky to have a FRIEND LIKE YOU" LOL

Ok my pluto is semi sextile exact my jupiter in 6th
sextile exact my neptune in 8th, conjunct my uranus in 7th and inconjunct my stellium of saturn/nnode/moon/venus in 1st. Oh, and its also trine my Mars 1deg..

and opposite my AC.

In fact i'm gonna post my chart cos Pluto seems to aspect everything except Chiron !!!
http://i235.photobucket.com/albums/ee149/larita26/moulin.gif

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posted December 13, 2007 05:51 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
P.S l now say "no" but it's taken me years and years to get to this place and a lot of inner psychological work.

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posted December 14, 2007 11:56 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Pisces rising, virgo sun

Pluto in intercepted 7th, although it is in scorpio. Moreover, when I checked out the pullen log thing, scorpio is second when it comes to being the most influential (virgo is first).

reaction to someone telling me they like me...I stay quiet (don't want to hurt their feelings), and as soon as they do something obnoxious to me or someone else unrelated to feelings, I'm out the door and tell 'em that i hate them for being obnoxious, and there's no way they can ever be close to me.

reaction when I like someone? obsessed beyond belief, unfortunately. Usually when I like someone, I keep it in. but one time it got out of control and wished it didn't (not stalkish type, but still, it's humiliating). On top of that, i never thought I'd be obsessed with someone, and all b/c of a stupid intercepted sign.

next time, i'll keep my feelings under tighter control...no matter what the hell happens.

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posted December 14, 2007 12:38 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
REALLY interested in this thread. I have an online friend who I met on an online dating thing. After a year, we still write, but when we met, it was crazy Uranus, Merc retro kind of stuff and EVERYTHING went wrong! I'm sure it seemed I had no interest in him but that's not the case. I feel like I've dropped lots of hints (fault of my 12th house Venus - I'm not exactly direct!) but he hasn't taken me up on anything.

So you Sag sun and Pisces rising (which he has) do you feel he's keeping 'safe' until he's absolutely sure, or do you think he's just being Mr. Friendly? (which he also is!)

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