posted January 13, 2008 04:35 AM              

Although, I'd love to give you one of my world class hugs. They're famous the world over. HUUUUGGG.

posted January 13, 2008 08:33 AM              

i am also a cap asc, and cap's dont have a reputation for expressing themselves as overly jubilant. the asc is somewhat of the role you see yourself placed in within society. so being a Cap means that you pile responsibilities onto yourself and feel an obligation to work hard for the benefit of yourself, family, and general society.

Cap's do this for many reasons, and considering you are a Cap sun, these habits probably come natural to you, and you probably doubly reinforce hard work and a long, tough road to achievement in your life. sometimes a Cap will take on responsibilities to gain self-worth or a feeling of importance, and many times it is just an instinctive trait, or something your family simply encouraged. whatever it is, step back for a little bit and ask yourself if you are burdening yourself more than you really need to be.

at the end of the day, the Cap is simply competing with his self, taking the slow, difficult, Saturnian path. if you are there, ask yourself why you place so many burdens on yourself.

posted January 13, 2008 02:07 PM              

I dont think work is too much for me either. last quarter I barely passed my classes so I have to work harder to get a better grade to get into my school. If I slack off any longer I'll back to my parents house...

posted January 13, 2008 03:02 PM            

I'm surprised your Moon in Gemini doesn't help you with sense of humor. Actually, in just your major aspects, it is your one saving grace in that area. I know a lot of Gemini Moons, and they all tend to be very humorous and fun. Maybe you just haven't tapped into it yet.

The Cap asc, sun, and 12th house Saturn don't bode well for you in the humor area, but... I also have a 12th house Saturn, and 3 planets in Virgo, so I can speak from experience: it's a conscious choice to lighten your mood. You have to consciously try to take your mind off of those things that carry a lot of weight and try and just be in the moment. That's what most of it is... Just being in the moment and trying to really connect with others.

Sometimes other people can help you do this. Honestly, it was a new group of friends that I fell in with that helped me do it. Before that I was probably the more serious, mature kid ever. One of my friends noted that she had only ever seen me smile one time. That's what did it for me. I realized I was living an overly serious life.

Learning to poke fun at yourself and others (not in a mean way of course) and learning to look at the absurdity of situations and the world is important to being able to leverage some weight off of them, and also to knowing that responsibilities, problems, and other crap in life is just that... Crap. It'll eventually go away, and new crap will eventually take its place, but ultimately, it comes and goes, so there's no point in taking it so seriously. It'll always be there. Might as well take advantage of the good things (and people especially) that are around you as well.

I think, a lot of it for me was learning to find the little things in life that are good and then letting them build into the big things. It's all about what you focus on.

And, btw, this didn't change me into a completely irresponsible, immature idiot. What it did do is allow me to blow off steam, put things in proper perspective (I'm not gonna DIE if I put certain responsibilities to the side for a few hours), and ultimately live a happier, healthier, more productive life. I was finally able to tap into those 3 planets I have in Sag to help me be the funny, clever person I am today, and as a result, other people want to be around me more too.

For you, you might want to try and find some funny, fun people to help you out. Sometimes being around those types of people can help. Everyone has their own brand of humor though, so try to find someone who might match yours. Also, when you find yourself being overly serious, take a moment to poke fun at yourself. When a crappy situation happens, try to find the good in it, or what could possibly be humorous about it. I find it fun to try and creatively flip situations around into something humorous.

Ultimately, it's a choice you have to make. Sure, there may be natural personality tendencies that you have, but you choose what to do with them.

I wish you well. I know it may not be an easy process, but you do have to be able to look honestly at yourself and figure out what it is that keeps you in a state of constant negativity... And then change it. That's what it comes down to. Also, you might want to look into how serious it is... If you are overly anxious and/or depressed all the time, that may be a signal of something deeper, and if that's the case, you should definitely get some professional help.

posted January 13, 2008 03:05 PM            

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I dont know charts. where can I find them?

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There are excellent instructions (with pictures ) at this page, under “Generating Your Chart”:
http://intraspec.ca/asteroid-goddesses.php

Saturn (dignified in Capricorn) may be close to your Ascendant and/or Sun.....
I don't believe that planets cause what's going on in your life, but they can illustrate both your challenges and the emotional climate you're experiencing.....

enchantress ~

posted January 13, 2008 05:09 PM            

Do you get told to lighten up enough to make you think you have a problem, or do you wish you could feel more carefree?

Some people give off an aura of being dour and serious. But if you catch them at the right moment in a small group you get to see a lighter side. With the Saturn in 12th maybe you are quite a private person, and catching you in an intimate gathering would be the best opportunity to see the more amusing part of your personality.

The individuality of humour has been mentioned. But maybe sometimes you don't laugh because the joke isn't funny? Some jokes can be plain offensive to most people, it might not just be you that doesn't get it. Or maybe sometimes people laughing their heads off are silly and shallow and it's not you with the problem? Ill-placed frivolity even annoys people with a Capricorn void ~ I'd be one of them.

But I wonder if you are concerned that your lack of humour betrays a more depressive state of mind/spirit. You don't mention if you have a root cause of why you should feel a lack of ease and full of worries. If you are coping with an emotional loss, or a specific reason (e.g traumatic event) you would know why. I fall into that category and find frivolity can sometimes make things worse ~ emptier. Maybe you don't have any specific reason to feel down, but it might have the same effect?

posted January 13, 2008 05:32 PM              

In the case with your apparent difficulties with dating, perhaps you simply are not satisfied with the person you are with. I bet if you felt true love for her, you would probably find it hard to hurt her-- you'd be so eager to say flattering things to her and make her feel smothered in your love. If you don't feel all that passionate about her, then it can be easy to say unflattering things, even unintentionally.

She could also just be PMS-ing, but I don't know her so... just throwin that out there.

posted January 15, 2008 01:18 PM            

but humor has little to do with feeling happy or content with your life. if it's a 4-5 years "issue", you shuld look at transits and solar arcs - for the time period when it started. it certainly would help to think back and remember/realise when it started and maybe smt that happened during that time.

posted January 15, 2008 04:21 PM            

Cap sun conj. mars here. I completely understand a lot of what you've been saying. I think one way to help us Caps get through our dark patches is setting and focusing on goals. It's always good for me to have something to look forward to. Right now I'm trying to push myself to REALLY exercise because I know it will help not only my self esteem, but my overall well being, so that might be something for you to try as well.

Thankfully I have my ascendant conj. jupiter in Leo, so I can be downright bubbly and optimistic from time to time, although that often masks how I'm really feeling inside. When you add in my Pisces moon I often come across as having an offbeat, kooky sense of humor. I love to laugh, so sometimes when I'm down it's good for me to watch stand up comedy. I especially enjoy the more Cap-like cynical comics like George Carlin.

Plan something fun to get you through your next semester of school. A fun road trip or weekend vacation might work. As far as the material goods go, I'm the same way, although I don't like to admit it. But, if there are things that you want, start setting aside some money little by little until you can get it. That's generally how I do it, especially with the bigger ticket items. Once I have my mind set on something I want, I almost always get it, it just might take me a while. But then, I know how hard I worked for it too, so I appreciate it all the more.

posted January 15, 2008 08:35 PM            

I hope you find your way to happiness...do you have any idea what your thoughts are behind being dissatisfied with things? Is it a small voice nagging you? Listen, and you will find an answer, it's there.

I remember when I was in my 20's and always felt the way you do...it took awhile, but eventually started listening to MY voice inside, going after what made me happy instead of trying to please others. After all, it's your life, and trying to live it to please others makes them happy.

posted January 15, 2008 09:28 PM            

your a cap. that answer how you feel.