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Purple_Chick_71
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posted January 21, 2008 09:08 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
...and maybe I'm wrong! lol But I would love to hear what you guys and gals think about this:

I think that the more "challenging" aspects you see in synastry are definitely softened if one or both people have the same or similar aspects in their natal charts.

For example: Person A has moon conjunct saturn natally, and so does Person B. In synastry, Person A's moon is orb conjunct Person B's saturn. (Actually, the natal conjunctions are basically conjunct, making moons conjunct, too...but that's a different topic! lol) OR a simpler example...

Person A and Person B both have Moon opposed Neptune natally, and they also have this in synastry. Normally, this is considered an aspect that leads to deception, etc...

But, I think that what may normally be a challenging aspect may actually feel comfortable or familiar. At the very least, maybe easier to deal with? Or, yikes...would it make things WORSE??? Just wanted to get your thoughts on this.


P.S. Yes, these examples are my SO and I...that's the reason I've "come up" with this theory because I REALLY haven't felt the "challenging" aspects that are supposed to be there. At least, I don't think so! lol Btw, I used quotations for "come up" because I seriously doubt I'm the first one to think this!

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katatonic
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posted January 21, 2008 11:10 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for katatonic     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
hi purple chick i was just talking about this briefly with writesomething yesterday - i have a similar situation, lots of pluto and saturn contacts to sun and moon (and venus) in a composite - but they are echoed in the natals. and yes, i think if you have worked on those natals and come to some sort of grip with the tough aspects it can make it something you both have in common rather than a major clash...although writesomething did point out that TOO many conjunctions can make for a boring relationship, when they are challenging ones i think it is probably less so and gives each the chance to support the other THROUGH the challenging spots...anyway i hope so! especially since my composite involves someone i met as a neophyte in life and now we have both been through those challenges and hopefully come out stronger and wiser...

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EighthMoon
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posted January 21, 2008 11:23 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for EighthMoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hey Purple!

How are ya, Girl?

Yep, this is definitely true. There was a thread on here a while back that someone started about whether you need intensity in a relationship, and then asking what your Pluto contacts were, I think.

If you have something in your natal that is a challenging aspect (which you may not feel as being that way since it's part of you), you can be attracted to someone who creates that same familiar feeling in synastry.

However, if they don't have the same challenging aspects in their natals, then what's created in synastry can feel foreign to them and make them uncomfortable with that energy.

If, for example, one person has Pluto conjunct sun natally, and the other has Pluto opposite sun, but Pluto isn't a major player (or has only harmonious aspect) in synastry, it may not create the kind of attraction you'd seek out in a relationship.

Hope that helps!
8th

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heart cakes
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posted January 21, 2008 01:43 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
hi purple chick!

well my instincts say yes, and the reasons 8th mentioned are part of that.


me and my not-boyfriend both have a tight uranus-moon opposition. i just read the first positive interpretation of this that i ever had (phew!!) a little while ago. i have theories on how it plays out for him, and it's different than it plays out for me (well duh!)..

it's difficult to describe but i do feel the negative and positve of how it plays out, with both of us, in how we relate to one another.

so i think it COULD deepen the energy where it is fearful if the energy isn't consciously directed. i'm still not totally sure how it plays out with us. we have the aspect in our composite too, of course.. but i do agree that if the energy is well integrated into a person they are obviously going to know how to handle it and it will feel familiar. and thus can be very good and comfortable!

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AcousticGod
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posted January 21, 2008 01:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for AcousticGod     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I would think "yes," too. My girlfriend and I have mediocre synastry at best, but either we have a few key contacts, or something like your theory is in play, because there isn't an insurmountable tension in the relationship.

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