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BLKFox unregistered	posted February 03, 2008 02:25 AM Anyone else have this issue? I'm thinking it's my Moon in Cap... When people try to get too close, too early in the relationship, I FREAK!! & especially if their style of showing love is maternal, caretaking...I can't get out of there fast enough! I'm afraid I'll lose my independence. I feel overly cautious (and like a freak) as though it takes me longer to check out the situation to make sure it feels safe... IP: Logged
Glaucus Moderator Posts: 5228 From: Sacramento,California Registered: Apr 2009	posted February 03, 2008 02:30 AM you said about losing your independence that's Uranus/Aquarius stuff with the emphasis on liberation,detachment also Aries can be independent with the emphasis on self too also...Jupiter/Sagittarius can be freedom loving.....connected to expansion,to be free to roam,widen one's horizons IP: Logged
BLKFox unregistered	posted February 03, 2008 02:40 AM I have Jupiter in Capricorn Uranus in Cancer...no Aries action at all... IP: Logged
blue moon Knowflake Posts: 1344 From: U.K Registered: Apr 2009	posted February 03, 2008 03:34 AM I like space, and the privacy of my own inner feelings. Pluto rules my chart and is Conjunct the Moon. It is in the 10th house and Trine Saturn so maybe that is what brings some sense of indentification with your question. I wouldn't react well to someone trying to mother me, I already have a mother, and she has been told to back off once or twice. Take care of someone, I can see that, but overdone it is going to come across as trying be controlling, trying to force me share things I don't want to (not can't, don't want to). It would not sit well with me. My run for the hills moment would be signs of ingrained jealousy and possessiveness. I don't work well with this, I prefer neglect. IP: Logged
Glaucus Moderator Posts: 5228 From: Sacramento,California Registered: Apr 2009	posted February 03, 2008 03:41 AM what are your aspects to Jupiter and Uranus? IP: Logged
darkdreamer unregistered	posted February 03, 2008 05:25 AM I am like that EXACTLY. Too much closeness feels scary to me, but if someone I love or like is far away and I can`t be with them for a time, I start missing them like crazy. But it`s understandable from my astrological placements. Moon in Aquarius Sun, Mercury, Mars, NN and ASC in Sagittarius Mars, NN and ASC square Jupiter IC and Chiron in Aries DD IP: Logged
alanabelle86 Knowflake Posts: 40 From: Somewhere over the rainbow Registered: May 2009	posted February 03, 2008 10:09 AM Yea, I've got this issue big time as well I'm a Sag rising with Uranus conjunct my AC, and Mars in Aquarius. My Moon is in the 8th, trine my AC (wanting to merge with people all the time and connect), trine Uranus (I need my space!) Bunch of other stuff going on that I'll list later. ------------------ Sagittarius AC, Sun in Scorpio, Moon in Leo IP: Logged
Lara unregistered	posted February 03, 2008 10:38 AM OMG i SO DIG this thread... cos l have same problem Sometimes l really think this side of my chart sucks!!! Aries: moon/venus Asc: Sagittarius Uranus in 9th conjunct pluto MC Libra IC Aries Sun inTaurus really mucks it up because l need security and loyalty yet all that freedom is a must grrrr IP: Logged
Glaucus Moderator Posts: 5228 From: Sacramento,California Registered: Apr 2009	posted February 03, 2008 01:28 PM I can't say that I have that issue In my chart: Mars in Aquarius Uranus as my oriental planet Uranus in Libra in 2nd unaspected Uranus trine Midheaven,semisextile Ascendant Jupiter in Sagittarius conjunct IC in Sagittarius/oppose Midheaven in Gemini,conjunct Neptune in Sagittarius,square Moon in Pisces and Ascendant South Uranus Node in Sagittarius in 4th conjunct IC/oppose Midheaven,square Ascendant North Uranus Node in Gemini in 10th trine Uranus. I feel that my configurations play out that I am very liberal,into interracial relationships(from being born from one), and believe in gay rights including that gay marriages should be legal,unconventional,broadminded,and progresseive,.I also always felt "different" like I could never really fit in with society stemming from special education experiences from being Dyslexic,Dyspraxic,ADHD. I have been referred to as being "weird" and "oddball". IP: Logged
BLKFox unregistered	posted February 03, 2008 03:34 PM I switched from getting involved with Scorpios----for mental health reasons---to Tauruses... Taurus is much easier for me to stomach, but I HATE all that "caretaking" and "scheduling" they like to do....I mean they really tend to want a person to "get in the deep end" right away....all involved with the details of their life---this makes me want to head for the hills! ---But I love the other stuff....the sensuousness, the food, the luxurious life style. My Taurus girlfriend showed me the best time in Paris (France, not Texas)...I could right a book about that experience alone. IP: Logged
Glaucus Moderator Posts: 5228 From: Sacramento,California Registered: Apr 2009	posted February 03, 2008 03:40 PM I got badly hurt and played by a woman with Sun,Venus,Jupiter,and South Node in Taurus. She also had Moon in Scorpio. IP: Logged
BLKFox unregistered	posted February 03, 2008 04:05 PM Whoa, Glaucus!! Did you see that coming? IP: Logged
blue moon Knowflake Posts: 1344 From: U.K Registered: Apr 2009	posted February 03, 2008 04:40 PM Scheduling seems to be Mr Blue Moon's 'Run For the Hills' deal. p.s Lara, maybe someone with a job on a oil rig? Next time around I am going for that or a sailor. IP: Logged
Celestial Echo unregistered	posted February 03, 2008 07:38 PM Hi all, I also tend to have - "don't get too close to me issues" ...I know it comes down to trust which I am working on. I have Capricorn moon - late Libra Sun, and Scorp rising. Someone once told me that the Capricorn moon gave me a tremendous amount of self control, probably too much for my own good. I've been separated for a few years now and I find I am terrified at the prospect of emotional/physical intimacy with anyone. Even someone I met from very far away - even the distance wasn't enough for me to feel safe......all of these things I am working on....but suffice it to say I am thankful for the means to understand myself just a wee bit better Celestial Echo IP: Logged
Lara unregistered	posted February 03, 2008 07:41 PM Blue Thing is l like someone there every night, l just like to be able to spread my wings and do my own thing in the daytime and feel like i'm free! Marriage really didn't suit me at all.. l felt suffocated, trapped. IP: Logged
BLKFox unregistered	posted February 04, 2008 06:15 PM Celestial.... Maybe it's that Cap Moon, Libra Sun, Scorpio (Venus 4 me) that causes all that uphevel! I feel much more balanced when I'm not even attracted to someone. True, Moon in Cap = self control...I PRIDE myself on being able to resist temptation---that mostly involves intimate interaction with people I am attracted to.... IP: Logged
Kal_El Newflake Posts: 22 From: Rainy City Registered: Nov 2009	posted February 05, 2008 01:16 PM yeah, I have that problem too. I freak out when they want too get too close too soon. I push them away. I freak because i don't want some love sick puppy following me around(which has happened). Then, if they are too detached and distant, I well... I am not quite sure how to explain it. It makes me pay more attention than I would normally. i think it is the Aries Sun I have. But I could be wrong. still trying to figure all this out. ------------------ Scio me nihil scire tanslation- I know that I know Nothing IP: Logged
BLKFox unregistered	posted February 27, 2008 01:37 AM "BUMP* IP: Logged
Sarai unregistered	posted February 27, 2008 05:25 AM I get like this too but it might have to do with my Gemini Venus which also conjuncts my ASC. I do like intensity but not clinginess. I also have Scorp Moon. IP: Logged
Skybound_Piscean unregistered	posted February 27, 2008 09:52 AM I can relate big time on this one!! I have Uranus and Moon in Libra 7th house - I do love being in harmonious relationships, but I get very detached when it gets too serious - I need space and freedom... and I�m bit scared of being abandoned I guess... don�t know which is the main factor here ;-) I think my Venus sextile Mercury in 12th house Aquarius favours relationships that work partly through e-mails/sms and phonecalls... - let�s face it; it�s easier to break up - just send an "it�s over"-text message and when being dumped you just use the delete button to erase the past... ;-) IP: Logged
writesomething unregistered	posted February 27, 2008 09:56 AM I get this way a lot...I need my space, I do not like being called all the time, 1-2 times a week max! If a guy calls, or wants to be around me all the time...I freak out and hide. When a guy likes me too quickly, Im completely turned off...I like to think Im special, so I think if hes into me this quickly, hes probably into anyone fairly quickly. Im aquarius rising, aries moon. IP: Logged
BLKFox unregistered	posted February 27, 2008 04:28 PM Write, I think I feel the same way about things progressing too fast. I need time to fantasize before the next thing happens. I also need to feel "safe", & that the person will be around...before I start thinking about" me & you" IP: Logged
Glaucus Moderator Posts: 5228 From: Sacramento,California Registered: Apr 2009	posted February 27, 2008 04:58 PM sheesh...only 1 to 2 times a week. Man....I couldn't deal with that with my Sun,Mercury,and Venus in Scorpio with Moon quincunx Pluto I also have Mercury-Venus square Mars and Moon conjunct Mars....so I can be impatient if I have to wait a long time. I do have very strong Saturn influence. I definitely wouldn't get involved very detached types. I have Mars in Aquarius myself disposited by an unaspected Uranus in Libra as oriental planet as well Moon-Uranus,Uranus-Midheaven golden aspects. I think mine just manifests as being very liberal and into interracial relationships. IP: Logged
BLKFox unregistered	posted March 14, 2008 03:13 PM BUMP IP: Logged

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