posted February 05, 2008 11:20 AM            

People who take the time to get to know the real you are the ones who are going to find it easier to deal with a fixed sign intense person, or at least make an effort.

Capricorn isn't a fixed sign, anyway. It's Cardinal.

posted February 05, 2008 12:27 PM              

Apparently I give off a negative or "weird" vibe...I take some ITV classes (two classrooms connected over TV) and one of my professors told me during the first class that he got a negative vibe off of me..and he was in the other classroom!

People have told me I am not easy to approach. When I'm not smiling I look "mean". I have had someone tell a friend of mine that I was weird, and he hadn't even talked to me.

When you go places, like to the store, do you find that people look at you a lot..especially if you are angry? You don't even have to say a word and people can feel your presence.

I used to be offended by this but now..meh, who cares. The people who care to get to know you are the ones who see you as interesting rather than weird..so just run with it, there is nothing wrong with a little mysterious flare

------------------
Capricorn sun / Scorpio rising / Sagittarius moon

posted February 05, 2008 01:05 PM            

As others have said, this can filter out judgmental people. However, it is very important to make a good impression on interviewers, prospective employers, etc who will decide within a few seconds whether they like you. They are usually not interested in becoming anyone's friend; they just want to see if: (a) you have the skills to do the job and (b) if you are pleasant enough to work with.

If you look angry or overly intense, you are probably going to have some difficulty in making a good impression on people vital to the success of your career unless of course you are dealing with people more intense than yourself or those who are not easily intimidated.

I have the same problem with you (cap rising, though I have intense eyes so I might as well be scorp...). What I did to dramatically improve my interactions with others is to simply smile. When you smile, make sure you think of something that makes you happy, otherwise you'll just look fake or creepy. Smiling will make you look more approachable and put others at ease.

posted February 05, 2008 05:10 PM            

I get this same reaction as well, and I too have a Scorp rising (not to mention an Aries Moon and Leo Mars). When I was a kid people didn't like me because they thought I was "snobby" or "stuck up." The sad truth was that I was just really really shy and quiet. Also, I was really smart, so when I did speak it was to answer a question the teacher had posed, and while I didn't realize this at the time, people tend to project THEIR insecurities onto you...

As I've gotten older, I've become more outspoken and more confident, but I still tend to intimidate people if I'm not careful. HOWEVER, I've also learned how to transmute this intensity into something more pleasant... To the point where I can now simply walk into a place and have random people come up and talk to me. Never used to be like that.

posted February 06, 2008 11:18 AM            

I have a Scorpio Asc too, and I think what can make people uneasy around our rising sign is how we're focused and quiet. There's a steady calmness to the way we take in our environment. I think when others can sense how focused & observant we are coupled with us not sharing what we're thinking, some people can project their own neuroses on us and assume that we're judging them, and it's that reaction of theirs that makes them uncomfortable around us. I don't think most people are automatically uncomfortable around intensity; it's their anxiety over why we're intense that makes them uncomfortable.

Now it's hard for me to know what about me is from my Scorpio Asc and what is from my Scorpio Mercury, but even if my Mercury has a lot to do with this, perhaps you can relate. I usually take in life like those readers who make constant comments in the margins of their books. I analyze and interpret, I analyze what someone else said and then analyze my own reaction to what they've said. It can make for an introspective experience, stuck in my own head.

Socially, I'm still like that but I focus less on me & on the other person and more on what we're creating together. Our conversation. (Or whatever else we're doing ). So what may help you put others at ease is if you take that intense Scorpio Asc focus and take it out of yourself (away from your own inner monologue) and put that focus into the interaction. I'm not sure if I'm clear here, so I'm probably not. Basically, try to go all zen and really live in the moment with what you're experiencing with the other person. Now you'll still seem intense, but the other person will intuitively sense that you're there with them, rather than as an observer. Some people need to feel that sense of fellowship to be comfortable.

posted February 06, 2008 12:40 PM            

I have a Leo Moon in my 10th house and warm relationships are important to me. But it squares my Scorpio Mercury in my 1st house, and the thing that I am by far the most moody about in life is sociability. Sometimes I want to emotionally connect with others, other times I just want to sit back and observe. And all my life I've seen the way people react differently to those different sides.

posted February 06, 2008 02:44 PM              

Sun ~ Leo,
Moon ~ Cap,
Asc ~ Scorpio
Mercury ~ Cancer,
Venus ~ Gemini,
Mars ~ Libra
Jupiter + Saturn ~ Virgo
Uranus ~ Scorpio
Neptune ~ Sagg
Pluto ~ Libra

posted February 06, 2008 02:57 PM            

However, I DO know that I have that scary Scorpio look... I've been told as much many many times. In fact, my nickname through college was literally: "Scary." My good friends gave it to me, partly because it rhymed with my real name and partially because my friends thought it was funny. They know me for who I am, so I think they were kind of poking fun at my "scary" exterior (which really isn't all that scary once you get to know me). As a result, Scary has kind of become a term of endearment for me.

Remember... There are also the people who have an appreciation for us Scorpio risings. One of my college friends told me several years after we met that when she met me she didn't see me as scary or intense. In fact, she thought I was cool because I wasn't like all of the other freshman girls who were bubbly and overly exuberant. She said: "I just thought you were really cool because you did your own thing and didn't care what anyone else thought. You didn't say a whole lot, but when you did, it blew us all away."

So, it's not all bad to be a Scorp rising. Honestly, it helps keeps the jerks in the clubs away from me when I go out, so I'm cool with that.

posted February 11, 2008 01:43 AM            

When they're saying you're too intense, I bet most of them mean that they'd like to connect with you but don't know how.

Maybe we should clarify what we mean by intense. I mean focused passion, as opposed to unfocused passion, which comes across to me more as wild than intense.

When people are focused & passionate, they can seem apart from others, like they're fixed on their own path and consider only a select few (or no one!) as being in that world with them. So others feel rejected and like what they can offer you--some light banter, something other than what you're focused on--is something you have no need or desire for.

posted February 11, 2008 06:11 AM              

I'm taurus sun, aries moon and supposed to be Capricorn rising. (l thought l was scorpio) lol

I'm too much for so many people and it's annoying... most people can't handle me.