posted February 14, 2008 07:08 PM              

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What is it. we were getting along good i thought. He was coming on strong. Lots of intense contact. and then boom nothing gone. no fight no arguement just gone. without an explaination. I am in the dark about this.

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posted February 15, 2008 10:38 AM            

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It's not just Cancerians that do this.

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posted February 15, 2008 07:54 PM              

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I am looking for a reason. it is still raw

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posted February 15, 2008 11:42 PM              

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Yeah, this is why I am very picky about men, if they don't want to communticate or a million other things... cuz I'm verry picky but anyways, my number one rule is I won't even go for the guy unless he's unless he seems more concrete in his communitcations.

I loove to communicate with my man, poor guy. Although I do have a cancer man, and although he has issues that make it hard to communicate in stressful situations, but he does.

I think if a guy is worth going after(or time period), he will work at communitating with you.

But I don't have enough to go on to really form a valid opinion on this situation, so that is all. I hope all goes well, I know I hate loose ends!

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posted February 16, 2008 10:44 AM            

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I think maturity levels, life experiences and where you both are in the relationship plays a factor on why someone goes awol. If it’s the early stages, he might need to distance himself to reflect on the relationship itself and his readiness for it. His life experiences may make him super protective of his emotions. There may be something else happening in his life that you’re not aware of. There may be a number of reasons. Have you tried to talk to him?

Are you just looking for a reason for closure or do you care enough to open the communications with him?

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posted February 16, 2008 10:56 AM            

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well cancer does need to retreat, periodically; has a hard time with boundaries sometimes so has to step back for perspective. but he is a cardinal male and if you move forward too fast he will pull back - if he wants you he will return IF YOU DON"T PURSUE HIM...my experience anyway (my cancer ex who is still in my life after 30 years)but make sure you want him cause they don't let go once they get a hold on you!!

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posted February 16, 2008 11:05 AM              

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but make sure you want him cause they don't let go once they get a hold on you!!

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Sound advice. And true, true words.

If you're not sure of your feelings, consider it a blessing and move on. Or you'll understand what a "Cancer Cling" is all about. Creepy stuff.

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posted February 16, 2008 11:20 AM            

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I do completely agree with you katatonic.. I have come to understand that mine does this for various reasons, but the need for time and space to regenerate and/or meditate is still the same. He doesn’t go underground without telling me anymore and I just let him know that I’m thinking of him. Eventually he will poke his head out and tell me about it.

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posted February 16, 2008 06:11 PM              

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I dont want closure. because i want a chance to be with him for the long haul. i am going to back off and hope he comes back. He knows how i feel and he was the one coming on strong. i hope he just needs a chance to get his bearings.

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