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BLKFox
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posted February 18, 2008 10:02 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
As I mentioned on another thread, I finally told the woman of my dreams---fantasizing about her for going on a year---that I love her..
Lemme say that she has her Sun, Merc, Sat, & Uranus all in Taurus in both our 8th house (we both have Libra rising)

My Sun, Asc, Merc, & Neptune are in Libra
I mention the placement simply because this is supposed to be about astrology...

My major concern is this: I've changed the dynamics of our relationship. I'm really anxious about our next meeting..

Oh, yes...her reaction...awkward...I said,"I want you to know that I love you, I've been feeling this way for months, & I needed to let you know because not telling was beginning to affect our interactions"

She threw her hand up to her chest & said, "..Oh, my heart.." I thought she was kidding...I told her I was serious...
Neither the setting not the occasion was romantic...I grabbed her as she was on her way out...

So, I believe she is mulling it over---the meaning of it all...how she feels--how to deal with me...WOW it feels so intense...

Has anyone out there experienced such awkwardness, & if so, what happened?
I'm not kidding, when I think about what I said, & how it'll be when I see her at work, I want to take off & go to Paris!

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wheelsofcheese
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posted February 19, 2008 06:23 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for wheelsofcheese     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I haven't experienced this myself - I have been in love but I've never been brave enough to bare my soul to someobody in this way. It's a big risk you took, but I honestly think if her reaction was "awkward" then at least she took your feelings seriously. If she's gone away to ponder it then I can only think this is a good thing, regardless of what happens next. Because the last thing you'd want is her to react instantly out of a desire not to hurt your feelings, and then have to retract later.

Be interested to hear what she says now. Good luck. Wish I had your bravery!

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posted February 19, 2008 06:23 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for wheelsofcheese     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Libra rising too. She's done the best thing in going away for a think.

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posted February 19, 2008 12:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CoralBird     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
BLKFox,
You expressed your true feelings and put yourself out there and I think that is commendable.

In my situation there is quite a bit of history and there have been many struggles and issues between us. This is the 2nd time I’ve put myself out there with the same man; the first time I ran away and eventually took off to Iceland and then Africa when I didn’t get a response fast enough. I know it wasn’t very mature of me, but I thought I was moving on. Now, here I am again. Even though it came out of mouth honestly and spontaneously, I could have kicked myself for putting myself in this situation again. I do believe in living my life with no regrets, but patience is a struggle for me and this is a problem between us.

I have also been on the receiving end. And, if I was serious about a person I would take my time to process those words and the relationship. That is something I never gave to this man the first time around. So, even though I know how tempting it would be…don’t run off to Paris because when it comes down to it you do deserve an answer. I’m sorry I really can’t give you an answer astrologically.

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posted February 19, 2008 12:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Geocosmic Valentine     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi BLKFox,

Congratulations on taking that step. You are courageous and it's a good thing that you did that for yourself, relieving the pressure of presenting yourself as a friend when your feelings are really deeper.

I have been in your shoes many times before when I couldn't pretend to just be a friend and before I told the person I made sure that I did it with the intention of just informing him, hoping he felt the same way in return, but also being prepared that he might not return the same feelings.

I have an inkling feeling that you finally chose to do it because you also had a feeling that she might feel the same way. I hope she can.

I just LOOOOVVVE love. Good luck to you.

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BLKFox
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posted February 19, 2008 01:16 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Wheel,
Thanks for your insight. I agree with you, I'd rather not have a "knee jerk" reaction from her. We are friends, & when things "hit the fan" she often seeks me out, although we don't talk everyday. Re. my bravery----it feels kinda reckless, actually...but empowering all the same.

Coral,
I'd lOVE to be able to take off to Iceland OR Africa...but I won't
RE. being spontaneous...I'm thinking it's best to just say whatever it is, because if you don't the energy makes you crazy, & you're not being yourself, you're making externals more important than your feelings. Do you see what I mean?

Geo,
I am prepared that either she might not feel the same way, or if she DOES feel the same way, she just might not want to do anything about it...her life is fairly complicated right now, with plenty of survival issues with herself & loved ones. I simply wanted her to know that I'm there for her For Real, & that I'm in it for the long haul.

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posted February 19, 2008 02:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CoralBird     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Unfortunately after 2 years, I’m still paying for my escapism. But damn, it was good to get away
I do know what you mean about being spontaneous and expressing your feelings. Due to how I reacted to certain events in my life, I did learn to suppress my emotions and realize that it actually caused more damage than good. It’s a journey, but I’m finding the child within me again.

I noticed that you said that your lady’s life is complicated right now. I am in the same position with him dealing with his own personal issues, but I am also in it for the long haul.

Best wishes to you BLKFox

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BLKFox
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posted February 19, 2008 02:27 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you, Coral

I do know what you mean about being spontaneous and expressing your feelings

I meant that it's good to be able to let someone know if you love them, rather than keeping it inside...there isn't nearly enough love expressed in the world. I'd want to know if someone loved me...even if the feeling wasn't mutual.
When you talk about "reacting", that's something else entirely. Usually "reacting" sets confusion in motion, because people are acting based upon what they "feel" is going on...
Coral what are your astrological placements---yours & his?

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CoralBird
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posted February 19, 2008 02:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CoralBird     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
BLKFox,
Ok, I don't know the time of my birth nor his. I am trying to figure it out by placing the planets in certain houses to determine my ascendant, but I'm not sure yet.

Edited to add: What I meant by "reacted" was that because of certain events in my life, my reaction was to protect myself from further hurt, therefore I learned to supress my emotions.

Edit again: Ok, let's see if I can put up an image correctly here. If you're interested, if not then at least I can practice posting an image. Thanks.

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Sarai
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posted February 20, 2008 12:43 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
BLKFox, you are my hero!!!!!

Give her some time. It's always a better thing when she steals away for a while instead of giving you a straight up answer.

And, uh, hello! How romantic are you??? Woweee.

Sarai

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BLKFox
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posted February 20, 2008 01:00 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Coral,
I understand...we all need and deserve love just as we are right now...and I have similar issues around protecting myself..now that I've had my Saturn return, I feel much more empowered.
I didn't get the images...

Sarai,
Thank you for reminding me, I AM romantic, & loving it---also, I'm as frightened as HELL!!!!
Yesterday, I avoided having contact with her...today I may "run in" to her..we work in the same building..I think I need to get the first "sighting" over with..I don't want to continue avoid her...we can say, "hi" to each other...

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HunkOfRope
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posted February 20, 2008 01:32 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm best at it.

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