posted March 01, 2008 04:55 PM              

Anyhoo, I recently got into a fight with my Virgo. It started when he started talking about this car accident that happened in his area which sparked anxiety I have toward dying and driving (separately). I am usually pretty brave, but being in a past serious car accident makes me scared to drive, mind you I wasn't saying i'd never drive again!
So he started yelling at me and saying that my fears are annoying and that I can't go on in life thinking that all of the time. (I know that, I'm an Aries). I felt totally betrayed and discriminated against because I thought he of all people would understand. I told him, "I think my fears are a little more understandable than yours of the ocean and birds, you don't see the birds looking for their new victims like in the Alfred Hitchcock movie!"
He hung up on me and called me disgusting and won't answer my phone calls. I can't believe something like this turned so serious so quickly. How can I make this work again and let him know that it's important that he takes these things into consideration?

posted March 01, 2008 05:14 PM              

that was just a disagreement you had - nothing too ser~ious i think so dont worry too much.

After some days you both will laugh about this and will miss each ohter so that will easily make peace with each other.

Virgos are very hard to deal with ( i know,im a Virgo myself),they are perfecionist,and always trying to be "perfect" in everything..and that just annoys a lot

By what i am seeing,he was just afraid that your own fears will limit you,and that you would feel trapped by it,so he just tried to made his point and say you must overcome your fears.

You on the other side,instead of feeling his worries concerning you,thought that he was attacking with the purpose of hurting you wasnt it?

posted March 01, 2008 05:15 PM              

This has nothing to do with astrology. Everyone does it ALL THE TIME. To make matters worse, you then pointed the finger and turned the situation onto him by saying "I think my fears are a little more understandable than yours..."

I think the best thing you can do is learn how to argue constructively; start searching for tips that may include how to listen to another person, playing fair instead of blaming, calming your emotions, etc. Start reading book on the topic. You commented "... let him know that it's important that he takes these things into consideration?" Keep in mind the only person that you can control is yourself. He must choose to how to behave and respond. You can only set an example through your actions on how you want to be treated.

Give it some time. Wait and see what happens.See how you can learn new skills in relating. Strengthen yourself and you will attract people that reflect your state of consciousness.(Personnally I would not call him back, but I don't know your history with him. So you need to go with your gut. Right now I think your wounded and I'd hate to see you go back to him whining.)

posted March 01, 2008 06:27 PM              

Just give him time to be by himself. Virgos arent good at saying "sorry" or coming around...you'll have to be the one to do that.
Do remember, that Sun is in Pisces and its really effecting Virgos in general this month...especially with Uranus in Pisces..Im a virgo myself, and have been feeling very irritable this month. Dont take offense.

posted March 01, 2008 08:14 PM              

It irks me so much when I feel people are being irrational. My boyfriend is an emotionally intense Scorpio and we've gotten into plenty of fights over me not being sympathetic over something or another.

My mom and one of my very best friends are Aries. I take them in small doses though to avoid disagreements and hurt feelings.

posted March 02, 2008 02:52 AM              

Another "Virgos suck" thread! how original!!

yup~ we are perfectionist picky sharp-tongued bundles of neurosis. Thanks. Like we didn't know that already. We only tell ourselves, every five minutes, that we are unfit for humanity.

And, with Saturn in Virgo for the next two years, we can all look forward to the Virgos in our lives being even MORE uptight than usual.

you know, its not easy.. taking out the garbage for everyone else. Its not easy to always feel obligated to follow the rules, to always be the "fun-killer." We have feelings too. Feelings that we have to suppress to keep the peace, feelings that we don't talk about because every other sign is just way more needy than we are...or just more dramatic than we are.

The word that is always used to describe Virgos is "service." Yeah, that's awesome. Libras are beautiful, Leos are fantastic, Geminis are fun. Imagine being the sign that is condemned to picking up everyone else's messes. It's hard enough to maintain some sense of self worth when even ASTROLOGY tells you that your purpose in life is to shut up and suck it up.

MK

posted March 02, 2008 08:38 PM              

Virgos drive the people they know to do better. However, libra moons can be too logical, moody, and annoying. Having a cancer rising doesn't make it any better- hence that person's reaction.

Tell that virgo that what he did was unfair and wrong...you tell him that you told him his fears were unfounded to show him that what he told you hurts. It'll take a while for the virgo to admit he's wrong, or maybe won't say it at all...but will try to compensate by doing something nice for you.

posted March 02, 2008 10:58 PM              

I too love Virgos, this is the first time he's ever lashed out at me and I feel very broken and confused. He can never see from my point of view.

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posted March 02, 2008 10:59 PM              

I too love Virgos, this is the first time he's ever lashed out at me and I feel very broken and confused. He can never see from my point of view.

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posted March 02, 2008 11:00 PM              

I too love Virgos, this is the first time he's ever lashed out at me and I feel very broken and confused. He can never see from my point of view. Usually we're pretty same-minded, and sometimes I feel more anal, fussy and clean than he'll ever be. I'm incredibly organized in all of the aspects of my life, except emotion. He probably resents me for it and thinks of me as immature.

Then again, at times I get annoyed of his lack-of. It really is falling apart here.

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