posted March 13, 2008 09:14 AM              

I am currently in a 6-month long relationship with a Gemini and it’s been quite confusing to say the least.

For the past 6 months my feelings have ranged from being infatuated and fuzzy to feeling stifled and “hemmed in”.
Our suns are not in a close opposition but I do feel a certain kind of distance from him and a lack in personal chemistry that make me consider him as a passing acquaintance rather than a lasting relationship.

Lately I have been particularly bored with him and did what is a big “No No” in relationships. Instead of working on the problem, I avoided it and slept with an outside party that has been stroking my ego (No. Not once but twice).

I wondered what is it that draws me to this person (another Gemini) until I realised that the conjunction between my ascendant and his moon was strong, add to that the sextile connection between our two moons and the bond is not superficial but one that is filled with much warmth and empathy.

I don’t regret sleeping with him as he did say that it would be on a “no-strings-attached” basis. Problem is…after the sex…it is no longer a “no-strings-attached” basis; he has started to get a little more territorial and jealous of my boyfriend.

I admit I did take advantage of his feelings for me and used him as a cushion to escape the confusion I suffered from the relationship I am currently in.
This is not to say that I don’t care for him, as I really do (or I could be infatuated), but I feel obligated to the Gemini I am in a relationship with much more.

I suspect its my Mars Libra that is making me so reluctant to break it off and having me “do the right thing” by insisting that I look at my relationships positive aspects and work on it until I transform it to what I want it to be.

My Sun and Jupiter in Sag though just want me to roam free and be away from all that “you must do this, you must do that” jazz.
My Sun square his Ascendant
My Moon sextile his moon
My Ascendant trines his Moon

Its tough!!!

posted March 13, 2008 10:24 AM            

I'm not even sure whose synastry aspects those belong to, as there are 3 people in this story. The official boyfriend's?

If you may forgive me giving my 2 cents worth, it doesn't sound to me like you want a boyfriend at all. If you are up for a period of experimentation without an official partner that's fine. Fine by me, that is. I don't know how socially acceptable it is for you to conduct yourself in such a manner where you live. But the maxim 'discretion is the better part of valour' is one I always think is a good one regardless of general circumstances.