posted March 19, 2008 07:11 PM              

Now, the story is we had a case together 7 years ago and got to know each other superficially then, but then a 7 year gap with no contact, and just recently discovered we were now working across the street from each other. We've had maybe 4 conversations since then.

This "I adore you" comment really threw me. Does a Scorpio sun, Pisces Moon, Venus in Scorpio man say something like that normally, casually? I mean, what does it mean? Is it the same as "you're cool, glad I know 'ya" or does it have some other significance? Men, feel free to answer. I don't usually run into men who throw around that word (adore) so I'm puzzled.

posted March 19, 2008 07:17 PM            

If that helps any...

posted March 20, 2008 12:26 AM            

If it was a man that you didn't have the hots for who said that to you, would you think it was alright within the context of your conversation? Just think about it.

Geocosmic Valentine

posted March 20, 2008 12:57 AM              

He knew what he said, he knows you are flattered; simple as that.

He is likely sincere and has given you a very direct I want to know more of you signal.

*These are my thoughts based on experience and firsthand actions.

Geo, I'd almost lay bets that his mercury is Saggi

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posted March 20, 2008 01:45 AM            

I would just leave it be and forget about it.

posted March 20, 2008 07:32 AM              

His Mercury is in Scorpio, btw.

The big question is why would you offer to bring another attorney into your firm if you had any intention of carrying on with her... it seems to me that would be tantamount to stupidity, and this guy has been very serious about his career since I've met him. Maybe he just said it as a knee-jerk kind of thing, knowing full well I would not accept, and just filling in gaps in conversation. It was a bit of an awkward run-in.

posted March 20, 2008 12:05 PM            

One thing that he did expertly is to use just the right phrase to keep you thinking about him and his intentions way beyond that conversation. His insinuation is still working on you. Hmm....

posted March 20, 2008 08:33 PM              

And yes, I'm going to be thinking about that line for just a wee bit longer :-]

And no, I have no intention of leaving for that firm. As much as mine has its imperfections, they put up with a lot of my stuff (arriving late, leaving early to pick up my toddler) and that's invaluable.

posted March 20, 2008 08:58 PM            

He likes to "get" people to want him and then play dumb when they do. He
s largely celibate in real life, so I think this is how he gets off, or something.

I agree with Geocosmic Valentine. This guy knows you're attracted and said those three words to keep you hooked, to pique your interest. He might be hoping you'll get VERY interested in him so he can boost his sense of allure, and then reject you.

Also, it's complicated, and frustrating, because is he didn't truly adore you, with those placements, he wouldn't bother to manipulate you that way. He probably likes you a lot and thinks you're attractive--but he's STILL being manipulative.

posted March 21, 2008 01:42 PM              

I have a scorpio mercury too.

I would never casually tell someone I adore them. If I said that I would most definately mean it.

The more likely scenario would be that I would think it but not say it due to not being sure if the other would "reject" the feelings or me.

posted March 21, 2008 01:49 PM              

I'm not this guy, but I wouldn't say something like that to manipulate. I tend to think black and white when it comes to "love," meaning that someone either likes me in that way or not. If I have to resort to manipulation or games to get a person to like me in that way then I could never be close to them as I would be questioning the validity of their feelings.