posted April 12, 2008 12:24 PM         

Hold tight...

posted April 12, 2008 06:05 PM         

I know that just because they were born on the same day does means they are the same, but from what you are saying, I think they are very similar.

Welcome to the world of the ADD Sagittarian.
He did like you very much, his actions are proof of it. But unfortunately they have the attention span of a 1 yr old with the tendency to get bored VERY easily, getting distracted by the next new thing that passes their way.

They need constant stimulation. When my ex-husand was first courting me, he came on very, very strong. I had no choice but to fall for him. haha. Then when I did, I could sense a vibe that he was not quite there anymore...mentally.

They live in the moment, and not for the future. I'm sorry for what you are going through now, I know it must be very hard.
But the way I look at any relationship with a Sag, is that however long or short it will be, at least you know it will be amazing!
Sag's really know how to sweep a girl off her feet and take her to soaring heights of fun and adventure. The only downside, is that the higher you fly with them, the bigger the drop.

If you had the choice to do it all again, knowing this would be the outcome.....would you? Me..it's a yes!

posted April 12, 2008 06:54 PM         

Never, ever, ever get clingy or needy. It makes them feel caged and pressured. Don't get all emotional and ask him a thousand questions when you feel like he's maybe staring to check out a bit. Give him lots and lots of SPACE!! Be your own woman, do you own thing, and don't NEED him. Keep yourself busy, and don't make him a priority in your life. Never be a wait by the phone type of girl. Keep evolving and learning new and interesting things. You must engage this man's mind, and stimulate him mentally.

The most important thing is to be true to yourself. If you are a "clingy" person, you shouldn't pretend to be an independent, strong person, just to get this man. Because this is a front you'll have to keep up your whole life if you want to keep him, and you won't be happy. But if you are an adventurous, fun loving, free spirited, independent woman, than it's a perfect match!

posted April 12, 2008 08:34 PM         

He was being honest about missing you and how hard it was going to be for him after you left. I have a feeling that his distance then and on the phone with you is discomfort and not knowing how to connect back up. After all, you are both a distance from each other and cannot just drive over to meet for coffee.

I know it left you feeling confused (I would have been too and I'm a Sag sun/Aqua moon female), but perhaps look at this as an experience. It opened your eyes. You took a chance (good for you!) and had an adventure.

Don't give up on him. Sort through your feelings and see what happens in your next chapter of your life.

Laura

posted April 13, 2008 08:12 AM         

I love him to death but it won't work cos we live 3,500 miles apart
So sad... i'm going to see him soon and l know it will be the last time l go over there cos of cost.

I wish secretly he'd follow me back to my home but he won't.

posted April 13, 2008 10:43 AM         

Okay... first off, looking at your placements it's easy to see why the two of you had such a magical time! As a Sag I can say that this is exactly the kind of experience I live for. I think Sags like any experience that removes them from the ordinary world, and, sadly, we can go all out with it, totally living in the moment without regard to the future or the person we're so busy making merry with.

It's kind of sad really, and I've found myself in the situation where circumstances are just right and there's a touch of magic in the air and you just let go and let be whatever will. Then morning comes, the moment has passed, the carnival is over and life had returned to normal and I'm left with a gorgeous memory that I will revisit for years to come.

Except that's not where the story ends. You know that person that shared such a brilliant time with me? That's a REAL person with REAL feelings and REAL expectations. Sometimes we forget that. It's not that Sag is using people (well, not in the mean-sprited kind of way) it's just that we can live within several different realities that don't necessarily intersect. Sometimes cause and effect can be lost on us and if you check out the "Saggitarius" thread in Lindaland Central (is that what FFA is called now?) you'll see that I wrote that Sag can justify anything.

What it sounds like to me is that he had a beautiful time with you. His intentions were never malicious-- he couldn't have pulled off an act like that for as long as he did (through all the anticipation, planning, etc.) He just got caught up in the moment and in his passions.

Believe me-- you have made yourself a permanent spot in his memory and that counts for more with Sag than what it might for more practical types. This translates into a kind of yearning, unrequited love. The unfortunate thing is that sometimes Sag can be more appreciative of this kind of wistful longing than they are of a real, flesh and blood relationship.

He will think of you. If you push him for answers, etc. he's going to be angry and his entire "illusion" will be shattered whereupon he will become very cynical about you. Let me be the first to say, though, that you aren't responsible for perpetuating his idealized version of the time the two of you spent together. On the other hand, if you leave him alone, there's a chance (50/50) that he will look you up again. Sag can have many loves simultaneously and they're all compeletely real to him. He'll call out of the blue to continue what you started as if nothing happened, then he'll disappear just as fast.

Only when the Sag man is ready can he commit himself to one realtionship. He'll fall in love many times before that. The only thing you can do is decide what you want out of this. Let me know and I'll see if I can tell you how to get there. But I'll be up front with you by saying that if you want a relationship with this man right now it's not likely to happen-- you'll be swimming at your own risk!

posted April 13, 2008 11:16 AM         

Most likely this happened because the impending conclusion of a wonderful time has a depressing effect on us. While some people look at the end of a vacation as time to really live it up, Sag usually spends this time under a black cloud.

I promise... this isn't the light dabbling of a careless Sag... this is a tough situation for him. He's already said he doesn't do ld relationships and he doesn't like labels. But I think he does like you and he may be trying to get over it at the moment.

posted April 13, 2008 12:22 PM         

On the day l leave he gets anxiety and then crawls into his shell, neither touching nor hardly conversing with me.

posted April 13, 2008 03:46 PM         

Saggies are kind of weird when it comes to love. We can be the best buddies in the world, but when it comes to the emotional nuances, it's not unusual to run into some puzzling (and often contrary) behaviors.