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applelonia
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posted April 15, 2008 06:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for applelonia     Edit/Delete Message
Gosh, where do I begin? I'm a Scorpio by the way, born on November 17th 1977. I've been involved with a Libra boy for 10 years now. About 2 years ago I met an Aquarius boy who has literally, and quietly stolen my heart. At first, he seemed to play little kid love games with me: 1)Running out the door of his room to watch my pass by (this happened everytime I passed by). 2)He would linger on in the main office to wait for me to sign out of work, yet he'd wait for me and watch me, but never took the initiative to walk me to my car (which bothered me.) 3) Stare at me during lunch. 4)Watch me pass by/check me out when he thought I wasn't looking.

Arrghh... all these little games really began to annoy me and bother me. I really would've left my boyfriend of 10 years for him, but he didn't seem to make up his mind because one day I felt like his queen and then another it was an icy shoulder that I received. It bothered and angered me, when I probably should've been more patient and waited for him. Needless, to say he married his Leo girlfriend of 3 years, but I still get these staring games from him which make me curl my toes and *sigh* because he's so dreamy. What should I do?

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AcousticGod
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posted April 15, 2008 07:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for AcousticGod     Edit/Delete Message
Forget about him. It probably wouldn't have been as good as you think.

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Geocosmic Valentine
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posted April 15, 2008 07:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Geocosmic Valentine     Edit/Delete Message
Tell him to leave you alone, stop staring at you because it's RUDE and he's leading you on to absolutely NOTHING!! That's what you should do. He needs to stop being provocative with you and understand that if you don't enjoy it as a flirting game anymore, it's time to stop.

If he wanted to be with you he would have asked you out or something. That's the cold hard truth. He knows you're attracted to him and it gives him a buzz. Well, now he doesn't deserve the buzz anymore. Obviously he's a big boy enough to ask HIS GIRLFRIEND to marry him. He now has a wife, it's time to stop dreaming of him.

I'm being so harsh because, this happened to me and it was painful. The man did love me but didn't have the courage to approach me the way I should have been approached. He married another woman who thought that he'd had an affair with me. HA!! In my wildest dreams, but it was proof enough of his love for me that his wife suspected something.

That's my highest wisdom on the subject. Some soulmates come along to be catalysts just to move you to the next level, maybe that's why he was in your life, to show you that you might not be satisfied in your current 10 year relationship.

I'm sure there's more to your story, but I'm just responding to your statements above. I'm sure others will have opinions as well.

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AcousticGod
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posted April 15, 2008 07:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for AcousticGod     Edit/Delete Message
Read mblover's post towards the bottom of this page: http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum1/HTML/017007.html

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applelonia
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posted April 15, 2008 07:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for applelonia     Edit/Delete Message
He's a confusing man (the Aquarius guy)! I've been trying to call him to explain my behavior on the last day that we saw each other. We were in a meeting when he started his staring game and completely turned me on. I was flushed and hot throughout the meeting and all he did was sit back and stare. I feel stupid now for letting him see a reaction from me. I feel like I should've had better control of my actions and should've ignored him, but I'm incredibly attracted to him. I'm sure it was one of his mind games and he was secretly *chuckling* inside. I do feel like talking to him and excusing my behavior as well as asking him not to "play games" with me anymore. Arrrghhh... what should I do? I feel embarrassed by the whole situation.

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LadyNeptune
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posted April 15, 2008 09:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LadyNeptune     Edit/Delete Message
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Forget about him. It probably wouldn't have been as good as you think.

LMAO!

I had a similiar situation, except I was single and he married someone else. (Nothing ever happened between us). I agree with GV that some people are just catalysts. That's what my guy was, for what I'm not sure yet. I just finally got over him.

By the way, my guy was an aries.

I half-heartedly hope he gets divorced and seeks me out, so I can turn him down, said my pluto.

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blue moon
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posted April 16, 2008 03:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for blue moon     Edit/Delete Message
The best bet is to carry on like nothing happened.

I just wonder though, what is up with your relationship with Mr Libra? I'm not saying you can't possibly be happy if you are flirting with this other man, I'm just wondering if this incident is significant of anything else going on in your life. Maybe something that astrology can help provide guidance for?

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applelonia
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posted April 16, 2008 03:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for applelonia     Edit/Delete Message
Mr. Libra has been with me for 10 years. We're not married, but have lived together 4 years. When you're with someone as long as I have been the magic/fire dies a bit. I started working at this new job and have completely lost my mind over Mr. Aquarius. I looked at my astrology chart and it said something about me having many lovers and being "unfaithful."

It also makes me wonder about Mr. Aquarius's relationship as well. If he was smitten with me what does that say about the relationship that he has with his Leo wife?

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Battle of Evermore
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posted April 16, 2008 03:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Battle of Evermore     Edit/Delete Message
Forget about that guy, he sounds like a major ******* . If you aren't happy with your Libra, maybe you should move on if you're not ready for marriage... but I would tell that Aqua guy to shove off if I were you. There is nothing worse than being the "other woman", because the man obviously doesn't respect you. No man is worth losing your self-respect.

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