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Topic: should I respond to this Cancer man?
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bluegreyeyes
Knowflake Posts: 184
From: New York, NY USA
Registered: Mar 2007
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posted May 17, 2008 09:44 AM
 
I had a 2 month relationship with a Cancer man. He was everything a stereotypical Cancer male would be: mommy issues, foodie, sensitive, very affectionate/emotional over e-mail/text etc, semi-jealous, a real homebody, etc. Being the typical Aqua female, I realize that so many things would never work: 1) I am wayyyyy to social. I love going out and sitting at bars and talking to everyone! *Not flirting* but just talking, and laughing. He was more "come over and watch the history channel". 2) I don't know how to accept affection from someone I don't know *extremely* well. His constant "I miss you" "I like you" "you're beautiful" just plain old freaked me out. And the fact that he wanted me to reciprocate, I just wasn't comfortable. Anyway, I sorta kinda nicely let him down a few weeks ago. He keeps texting me "why do you hate my so much" and "i miss you even though you don't like me anymore". What do I do? I've just been ignoring him, this is so awkward, we share a few of the same friends, we hang out at the same bars. He hasn't been going to them lately, and people are asking me what *i* did, I feel bad... ------------------
*Christina*
Aquarius SUN
Gemini MOON
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praecipua
Knowflake Posts: 707
From: england
Registered: Aug 2007
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posted May 17, 2008 10:21 AM
why you don't try telling him just that. you have nothing to loose because the relationship as it is doesn't fulfill you. may be after letting him know about your insecurities he'll be more adaptable.. if he really loves you he'll understand.just an idea, aqua sun here, cancer rising IP: Logged |
Inner depths
Knowflake Posts: 545
From: The Greatest Outdoor Show on Earth City!
Registered: May 2006
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posted May 17, 2008 10:39 AM
Keep ignoring him and get on with your life! Play civil, yet detached if you do meet up with him while out with mutual friends. I don't think you did any thing wrong - the relationship did not work out - that happens. Plenty of relationships don't work out. I have seen this many times in my own life.Don't keep in touch - I know Some Aquarians like to remain friends afterwards but it can be downright confusing to a Cancerian, who will cling and refuse to let go. ID IP: Logged |
annaf
Knowflake Posts: 322
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Registered: Oct 2006
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posted May 17, 2008 12:43 PM
As one of the others said,you should make it very clear that your relationship is OVER. List the reasons you stated here, do it nicely, but be firm. I'm not sure from your post what 'nicely letting him down' actually meant and whether you spelled it out to him that your relationship has indeed ended. Or whether you just suddenly withdrew more and more, ignoring him and hoping he would get the hint. This is the worst thing you can do to s.o. with strong cancer placements. SO be direct, it'll clear the air and he'll know he hasnt done anything wrong.IP: Logged |
CancerianMoon
Knowflake Posts: 1214
From: Sydney, Australia. Cancer Sun.....Gemini Moon.....Aqua Rising
Registered: Aug 2003
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posted May 18, 2008 05:04 PM
I think you need to be very clear with this guy..'kinda sorta' doesnt work with us Cancerians.. there are too many variables...
Contact him again and be very clear about the fact that you are not interested in anything romantic...use tact of course...but dont use so much tact that your message to him is a little too fluffy...he may be hurt but Cancreians are stronger than people think...i'd prefer to be hurt and know exactly where i stand rather than be mislead by someone not being clear with me..
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cancerrg
Knowflake Posts: 2819
From:
Registered: Dec 2004
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posted May 19, 2008 05:08 AM
do u wanna be friends with this person ?
if yes , sit with him -tell him honestly that you dont have any such feelings for him .
even if you dont wanna be friend , do the same  IP: Logged |
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