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ellabelle97
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posted May 19, 2008 12:01 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ellabelle97     Edit/Delete Message
I know in astrology nothing is written in stone, ok, I got that. But! I read this in a report GotGemini sent me and its so true!! The caps is the one that I've realized before and am going thru currently.

Venus in 12th House
Unrequited love
Love-relationships have a strong hold on your imagination though there is no guarantee that they become real or concrete. Your feelings seem unrequited in this area - you feel a sense of longing and a desire to transcend the daily commitments and monotonous
work demanded. Love is often unrequited - you can find love in nature, in poetry, in music, but with worldly relationships YOU MAY OFTEN PUT YOURSELF IN THE POSITION OF LOVING SOMEONE WHO IS NOT PHYSICALLY IN A POSITION TO RETURN YOUR LOVE or you get involved with
liaisons which will only makes you feel isolated and unhappy. Love blossoms in remote places."


I seem to attract the guys that are in relationships. What is it about me? When a guy approaches me, a lot of times they are honest about their relationship status and they still want to go out with me. Even after I reject them, they keep asking.
Even if I'm nice, rude, contemptuous, even if I ignore them, they keep asking!! I'm pretty sure I don't project myself as some kind of wanton floozy (actually I know I don't) that wants to take someone else's man or "just wants to have sum fun", so WHAT is it?!? Any opinions no matter how brutally honest are welcome.
On top of that, I fall for the ones that are already committed (and lie to me that they're not in a relationship) or have just broken up "its over!!" . Only, its not really over. And logically I know this, that people need time to heal, get over their ex blah blah blah. So I say ok, I do enjoy this person's company so I'll keep this in mind and just have fun. Well, that doesn't work and I end up getting hurt. Even if they say how much they care for me, it seems like I am or always end up the "other woman". The guys that are single and do want to take me out.. just aren't what I want. There's no connection. Nice guys, funny , but they're friend material. WHAT IS WRONG with me??
Like I said, any opinions no matter how brutally honest are welcome. Sorry about the novel

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Azalaksh
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posted May 19, 2008 12:07 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Azalaksh     Edit/Delete Message
ella ~
quote:
YOU MAY OFTEN PUT YOURSELF IN THE POSITION . . .
Howzabout we lose the "doomed" thing -- the quote says "often" not "always"

I don't know your age, but your Progressed Venus is probably in the 1st house by now -- so don't lose hope!! You don't recount here how important relationships are to you: is being in a relationship your #1 goal right now?? If you are attracting all kinds of fellas, then you're projecting an "open to interaction" vibe.

What do your transits look like??

Zala

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ellabelle97
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posted May 19, 2008 12:12 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ellabelle97     Edit/Delete Message
You're right I am being a bit dramatic. But out of the relationships I've had, I'd say an overwhelming majority fit this criteria.

Is there somewhere I can go to find out about transits? Still new. Very new.

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Vastorode
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posted May 19, 2008 12:13 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Vastorode     Edit/Delete Message
heya, k maybe maybe maybe you have to spend your time with those guys so in order you learn some kind of lessons about yourself? , and undo the things that related to 12th house? because 12 house is about undoing things, its about re"learning" things, its about the self and so on, each planet in 12th house is about relearning certain things thats associated with the planet, and if its Venus in 12th house its probably learning the way you attract and repel the right people ? and the way you understand relationships ?,its just an idea i am not even sure if its true (i am a noob still in astrology) but gl !!

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Azalaksh
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posted May 19, 2008 12:24 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Azalaksh     Edit/Delete Message
quote:
Is there somewhere I can go to find out about transits?
Of course Do your chart at astro.com, and choose Natal and Transits from the Extended Charts section.....

Start your reading here:
http://www.cafeastrology.com/transits.html

and here:
http://www.bobmarksastrologer.com/TOClessons.htm

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ellabelle97
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posted May 19, 2008 12:24 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ellabelle97     Edit/Delete Message
Vastorode, you have given me a lot to think about. Very deep thoughts. Thank you.

And thank you too Zala. I'm researching transits right now.

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ellabelle97
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posted May 19, 2008 12:34 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ellabelle97     Edit/Delete Message
And to answer your question about my #1 goal is it a relationship.. no its not. I'm pretty squirmish about serious relationships. I don't like to be tied down, however if I don't feel pressured and have a lot of demands placed on my, I'm very attentive. As far as the open to interaction thing, I'm pretty reserved and if I don't know you, I don't really talk to you unless its to be polite. Once I open up, its another story. I don't know if that changes your opinion..


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Vastorode
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posted May 19, 2008 12:44 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Vastorode     Edit/Delete Message
um sorry if my words came out as judging or you know, i think its my mercury in Scorpio sometimes gets little intense , i think if you post your chart if you like , and more people look at, and see what planets being involved with your Venus, your sun/mercury and the whole chart you know to scope down on "where is the problem" , but again i am learning astrology, and using it as a way to understand things,i don't let it guide my life, i let my Scorpio instinct and planets guide my life i will try to help as much i can

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ellabelle97
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posted May 19, 2008 12:54 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ellabelle97     Edit/Delete Message

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Vastorode
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posted May 19, 2008 01:15 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Vastorode     Edit/Delete Message
hum i don't want to confuse you with things i am not sure, so DON'T believe those lol, just like see if it makes sense because only you knows the real your "self" , and i use astrology as a way to understand things more, and you should be strong with your self and see if they making sense

you have venues/sun/rising in water sign, especially Pisces in Venus/mars/moon, and since Pisces is associated with 12th house, maybe somehow uncounsiously your not being very firm , or aggressive on repelling the people who keep asking you out over and over ? , and you have to be little more stronger on saying them NO. Or could be you have a very nurturing nature since you have allot of water, and those guys keep coming back to be nurtured by you? since you have cancer rising , and cancer is very nurturing sign? , i don't know if 1 placement of 12th house activates unconsciousness vibes of other planets, i will research that, i hope what i said gave clues about things

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anni17
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posted May 19, 2008 01:45 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for anni17     Edit/Delete Message

sorrry valerie but i too wish to know if im cursed in love!

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libraschoice7
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posted May 19, 2008 01:50 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for libraschoice7     Edit/Delete Message
Thats alot of Libra you have there...

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Sun in Libra
Moon in Cancer
Jupiter in Cancer
Venus in Virgo
Mars in Cancer
Ascendant in Cancer

"I seem to have the blind self-acceptance of the eccentric who can't conceive that his eccentricities are not clearly understood"

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amowls
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posted May 19, 2008 02:05 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for amowls     Edit/Delete Message
Lately I've been having the same problems (taken men approaching me). Right now Pluto is transiting my 7th house AND squaring my Venus. I think that's what's going on.

Edit: I just took a look at your chart and Venus is at 21 Pisces. My Venus is at 29 Pisces, so I am feeling what you have felt in the past with your relationships!

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Taurus90
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posted June 18, 2008 04:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Taurus90     Edit/Delete Message
Aw sorry to hear about your situation. Ive got venus in the twelth house and I know how much it sucks- I seem to attract taken men like magnets xgrrx. Avoid getting involved with attached men and make an effort with the available ones. You will eventually have a fulfilling relationship with an available man as long you keep telling the taken ones where to go!

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blue moon
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posted June 18, 2008 04:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for blue moon     Edit/Delete Message
My brother has Venus in the 12th house. He is happily married with 3 kids.

Venus in the 12th does not mean you are doomed in love.

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ErickaF
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posted June 18, 2008 08:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ErickaF     Edit/Delete Message
I am 27 with venus in 12...and everytime I have been in love (about three times now) it was always unrequited love...always! Its sad...trust me...very heart-breaking and makes me cry a lot. I am fine alone (moon in Aquarius) but pluto transiting my venus at the moment...it is making me feel very lonely and even more sad about my past.

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wild sheep
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posted June 19, 2008 05:35 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for wild sheep     Edit/Delete Message
Whenever I think Venus in the 12th, I think about suppressed feminine instincts, denial of compassion for oneself, clandestine or "secret" relationships, or relationships with people one's parents or role models might deem "inappropriate."

I wouldn't get any more worked up about it than you have to. It can represent an obstacle for you in this life, sure, but most obstacles can be worked around as long as you are willing to do the work. And, of course, there are at least some benefits benefits to 12th house placements. Venus in the 12th can indicate a deeply caring individual (even if that person is more of a "secret softie" about it).

On a personal note, I have Venus in House 6 natally and the description of its challenges posted by the OP has parallels to what I've experienced of my Venus. Strange that I've never noticed that before.

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belgz
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posted June 19, 2008 08:52 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for belgz     Edit/Delete Message
I have venus in leo 12th house. I dont think that im doomed i married 1 guy though that i had a secret relationship with he was my best friends boyfriend.

I had another short term secret relationship with a married man lol

NO more thank god and hoping never again

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