posted May 21, 2008 05:51 PM         

I'm just wondering if all twin-souls find it a struggle to be together when they meet?

It seems like there are so many mountains to climb yet l must climb them. Is this normal?

Never had this before!!!

posted May 21, 2008 06:12 PM         

My theory on this is:
When Twinsouls meet it`s like an earthquake, or should I say rather a "soulquake"?
There is such a tremendous vibration between them, that there will be a split in time. It`s like from this moment on neither of them can ever turn back to what was before.
It`s a very definiing moment in life, maybe it is THE defining moment of life, and huge transformations are set into motion.

I think there may be a difference between Twinsouls who embrace their bond, and those who deny its very existence.
I think maybe the intensity gets too much for some people, that they are driven into their inner shell (at least for a certain time).
But if you do embrace this bond, you probably will experience "heaven on earth" - at first.
And then all of a sudden the troubles set in, outer circumstances, mostly, but those outer circumstances do their best to keep you apart (outwardly) and even trigger your own insecurities and doubts, so that slowly you may drift apart even inwardly.
And yet, even if you experience these insecurities (about a future together, not about the feelings I think) and are kept apart, there`s no way to r e a l l y be apart, because you`re two sides of the same coin. You cannot be separated, because you carry him inside your soul. And wherever you go, you take him with you.

But if at the same time the obstacles and difficulties get overwhelming, then you will experience a deep pain, because you can`t be together physically and yet there is no way you can ever be apart in your soul.

I don`t know maybe this is total nunsense, but this was what instantly came to my mind.

DD

posted May 21, 2008 06:32 PM         

From the moment we met we knew we had to be together. Then came the intensity.. OMG :P

we embraced the bond even though it scares us sometimes. He pulls back, l pull back. We come together. I tell him l can't go on if he's going to live in his shell when i'm not there. Then he makes a HUGE effort and it's all wonderful again.

Then we freak out cos we live in different countries... l say it won't work and try to break up. He won't have it.. l can't leave him. We cry and l visit. Then we are even more deeply into it.

We hate to be separated and yet can't be together right now. It's emotionally draining, yet there is no other way!!!

I have doubts, all my childhood insecurities come up. He freaks out cos he never felt this with anyone before and it scares him. I feel the same.

It's like he is on one side of Mount Everest and i'm on the other. He's a part of me now... l can't ever imagine life of any kind without him.

The synastry, draco's and all that asteroid stuff we have been doing helps as it confirms what l feel. I know there is a way for us to be together and you, DD said to me we should really try to... and we will

but it's so tough sometimes. I have to leave my 2 1/2 yr old behind when l visit him at moment. That is hard for me. It's like it's so karmic or something. you hurt to be together and hurt when apart.

It's constant hurting yet you don't mind so much cos it has to be.

posted May 21, 2008 07:09 PM         

It feels like a huge failure. I mean: We weren't able to handle these ("karmic"?) obstacles at all. I clearly feel that he has shyed away from that "task", that it was him who din't "embrace the bond" - but who decided to mess up everything with childish controlling-games, manipulation etc... Real Psycho-Terror going in here. And I ... got deeply hurt in the process. I didn't want to be his "therapist"anymore (That's how he called me once!)

"Karmic"? We had DOZENS of the so called karmic connections in our Synastry, to name only a few: My Pluto cj. his Venus, His Vertex cj. my NN, exact 1st-7th-house-Axis-Overlay (His ASC cj. MC, my IC cj his DC), Sun & Mercury square Saturn, Moon square Chiron, My Lilith cj. his Sun, etc...

The break-up occured just 5 weeks ago - and it feels totally different than anything else I have experienced before. I am literally AFRAID that this guy might stuck in my head/heart/soul like none other before. In fact ... I never felt "hatred" for anyone I had a relationship with, no matter how hard the break-up was. But this time ... the feelings I still have are so compelling and SO aggressive. It is abolutely UNCLEAR to me WHY it had to fail. I "analyzed" everything, believe me, as far as I could go (and I am good with "analyzing" ;-) ). But there are some undercurrents ... that I just don't get, can't grab them.

posted May 21, 2008 09:25 PM         

I digress, what I wanted to say was:
Lara.....move...you move or he moves...or you both move to some place new.

posted May 21, 2008 10:36 PM         

Although you may have known each other in past lives, you don't know each other in THIS life!! So, trying to project the feelings of the past into the present relationship may present it's problems.

Take time. Get to know each other slowly.

There are things in this life that are different from the last.

I think going slowly is the best way. That way we can identify the things that need to be addressed and there could be a chance that we could rectify the wrongs that happened in the past.

Believe me, I know the feeling of meeting a soul-mate and wanting to go 100 mph. But, you must remember to think with your head, not just your heart.

Weed out the things that need to be talked about. That way, you both have a chance at creating a future together.

posted May 22, 2008 05:22 AM         

Don't know if you know this Lara? Not sure if you will like it but I thought it was apt.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FDY6IrpF5nM&NR=1

posted May 31, 2008 05:11 PM         

I'm going through something similar, and it started around 6 years ago - I was the one pushing him away then though I would immediately go back to him when I felt the intensity of his pain. He was certain that I was the One, that we were soulmates, but the intensity scared me, and our differences scared me as I knew it would take a great deal of work to make it all work out.. I ran the other way, made a big mistake, and finally crawled out of that mistake nearly a year ago.

I made my way back to him, but he'd been hurt and had closed himself off to love during that time we were apart, and it took so long for him to open back up to me. It took a lot of love and patience on my part, but he did come around. But now, a few months later, he's starting to feel like I did back then, having doubts because he knows it will be hard. And I'm having to be the patient one, hoping he will come back around and let me in again. It can be a long, hard road, and takes so much love and patience and effort...

Love, patience and forgiveness are all needed for relationships such as these.. I don't think most relationships need to be as complicated as I described, and I hope that most folks will be wiser than I was and know when to make that effort, to put aside pride and make a go for it when it is necessary. It takes a lot of heart and patience, but I believe that anything worth having is worth working for.

If you feel he is the one for you, that he's truly worth it, make a go for it, Lara.. give it your all and don't give up just because the road ahead may be hard.

If you need to talk, I'm here...