posted May 28, 2008 03:45 PM         

We’ve been working in the same company for less than a year- but in that time become very close. We have a similar temperament, we laugh hysterically together and although we’re very different, I think we understand each other quite well.

We have already travelled together and have been through a few stressful situations and come out feeling all the more confident about the friendship.

She's Scorpio and I'm Aries – We’re both stubborn, competitive and both like to be in control. I’m a little wary and feel like I’m walking on eggshells at times as I can see how incredibly sensitive she is - and I can also see how cold and hard she can turn when hurt...

Can anyone tell from our charts whether or not this is likely to be a good move for us, or will it be a bit explosive and end in a bit of a mess???

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posted May 28, 2008 10:17 PM         

Being mars signs, a fight is dangerous, unless one of you gives way.

posted May 29, 2008 04:00 AM         

after a while she started to feel like i had to be on egg shells with her too. it was very uncomfortable. i think she saw things in me that she wanted to be and felt she wasn't so that was threatening to her. after the jealousy kicked in we were never the same and i felt like she wanted to control me. it was very frustrating.

one day i said something to her that she didn't want to hear - i told her what i believed to be the truth in a situation where she wasn't being honest with herself and she turned nasty. i ended the friendship because she started being manipulative and pulling out the whole don't judge others until you've walked in their shoes routine but it was completely okay for her to be judgemental and rude. i figured i didn't deserve that and it was time to move on.

if you are already walking on egg shells - that kind of tells you something - living together and in a foreign country where you can't escape from each other if you need to - probably not a good idea.

i think you know in yourself the truth - listen to your instincts - they're right. learn what you need to learn but don't let this person try to take who you are or stop you from being all you can. whatever issues she has are her own.

posted May 29, 2008 03:02 PM         

Atlenta – So far one of us always gives way in tense situations. I'm not sure that will always be the case- time will have to tell on that one. Re. the boyfriend thing - I've watched her being extremely flirtatious with a guy I was seeing for a while. Luckily this didn't really bother me as I know he wasn't interested and neither was she. We are both very flirtatious girls – it's part of what I enjoy about her company when we're out on the town. But I don't know if she would ever take it too far…

Amowls – It's funny that you mention the touching thing… I'm very tactile and affectionate with most of my friends and loved ones, but she and I don't touch at all. It doesn't seem natural to do so…

I can definitely be volatile… but my temper burns out pretty quickly and I make a concerted effort to stay away from people I care about (or at least try to keep my mouth shut) when I'm like this to avoid saying something I regret.

PeaceAngel – What you're saying rings pretty bloody true with me too… I think from time to time she feels a bit dissatisfied with herself and sees things in me that she too would like to be. In spite of this she is extremely supportive of me as I am of her.

I'm a pretty secure person and I don't believe she could take anything from me or change me if she tried (and Vice versa- not that I would want to)

As for the egg shells – I think the main issue here is that without meaning to be I can be very blunt and tactless. Most of the people in my life are either well-able for my manner, or they are at least used to it. I'm afraid that I'll go too far and offend her sensitive nature one of these days…

I think you're right about going with my instincts though. It's good that we'll have time to live together for a while to see what things are like in close confines for an extended period of time.

I have lived abroad with a friend in the past and it didn't work out. We went our separate ways, but we're still close. I'm very independent and have no problem picking up and moving on if it's not right.

posted May 29, 2008 09:37 PM         

i'm pretty blunt too. i have sun, merc and venus in aries and aries ascendant so i get straight to the point too. she did find that very hard to deal with. i did offend her sensitive nature without meaning to - quite frequently as it turned out. i'm very playful by nature and sometimes what's play for me isn't for others - just a typical big kid aries tripping over my one foot in mouth and the other one at the same time. the thing is that you just don't quite know when you're offending them - so that's the walking on egg shells - all the time. i think sometimes too because we're blunt people often expect us to walk on egg shells for them but won't do that in return. and i think that's hard - it's kind of a license to be rude and insensitive - willfully - you know? i like blunt people - but not hurtful. sometimes when people see themselves as being more sensitive than others they forget that others are too - to whatever degree. i just think that when someone has to remind you that they are extra sensitive all the time it's because they are afraid of not being in control - it's their way of saying be nice to me and don't give me anything difficult that i don't believe i can deal with - but it's okay to dish it out because - apparently, no-one else is sensitive. it's hard to have equal footing in this type of relationship - well, for me anyway because you're always censoring what you say - and that's not natural - not a natural flow of yourself - takes a lot of energy from you. like you too - i have no problem moving on - aquarius moon in 11th house - so i value my friendships greatly but i can detach.

posted May 31, 2008 11:31 PM         

it really depends on so many things

I have Sun,Mercury,and Venus in Scorpio.....I a am not into controlling people nor do I love to fight. I even fighting to be very stressful.

I believe in respecting people's independence and freedom too and giving them space and distance if they need it even though I could be hurt by it a times.

I feel that my Moon in Pisces square Neptune and Virgo Ascendant modify quite a bit

so does my Mars in Aquarius.....I have Jupiter conjunct IC in Sagittarius

Also with my Moon conjunct Mars and Venus square Mars, Aries women fit with women that I am attracted too. I do love an Aries woman who has Scorpio Moon conjunct Pluto and Pisces Ascendant.