posted June 03, 2008 01:53 PM         

I met this man chatting and we seem to have a lot in common. The first day we spent an entire day chatting. It's kind of strange but we both have this feeling about each other like we were meant to meet.

He's flying out to see me next week and I'm scared to death. Has anyone met someone this way and what do you think of this? I was wondering if we may have a past life encounter even.

posted June 03, 2008 01:59 PM         

I have never been so damn wrong in my life. To this day I wonder what I saw in him. I was married to the devil, literally.

We have now been divorced for 3 years and still he is the devil. I have now moved on, had ego death and am grateful for my devil for leading me to myself.

Go slow, listen listen to the first thing your self tells you THE VERY MOMENT YOU SET EYES ON HIM and don't override that first impression.

posted June 03, 2008 02:32 PM         

And what I got out of the above relationship is not to jump into anything based on emotion, right? I will heed your advice and slow go at it.

posted June 03, 2008 02:43 PM         

In other words, when you first shake hands or lay eyes on his eyes - CONSCIOUSLY take a mental note of how you feel about him.

posted June 03, 2008 02:53 PM         

Some years ago I got to know someone on an Astroforum online, who coincidentally even lived near to me.
Not long after meeting him online, we started speaking on the phone. Like you said Lara, for hours and hours and hours.
Ironically, when I first noticed him on this forum, I didn`t like him a bit. But I decided that everyone deserves a chance.

However, we then met (to exchange some books and notes), and never in my life I have had such a bad feeling about someone. I literally heard all the sirens in my head and saw the red warning light in my mind. lol
Well, it was really much too loud to ignore it. So despite our great phone talks I turned around and walked out of his life. PRobably it was an overreaction on my part, since he didn`T do anything to deserve that reaction, but I listened to my instinct, and I`m glad I did.

posted June 03, 2008 03:19 PM         

One thing to consider "never be 'wanting' of a man and then you will never meet a **** "

If you love yourself you actually won't ever NEED a man and that's wen you will find someone whom is on the same team as you as opposed to someone who will only bring you grief... of course, you will meets a few ***** along the way to teach you to love yourself first but always remember "you can't make honey out of dog **** "

posted June 03, 2008 05:46 PM         

Yeah I know what you mean. I get the same way with people in general. When I meet certain people I get different feelings before we ever exchange hello's.
Some people make me want to follow them around and some make me want to get the h*** out of there.. and quick!
I've actually been on a date before and came up with a lousy excuse just to leave.
This guy is flying all the way from Illinois just to meet me. That's so flattering. But I have kids to think about so I can't just think about myself there.

He's a Cancer and haven't met a Cancer man I haven't liked, so we'll see.

Thanks for the wisdom!

posted June 03, 2008 07:02 PM         

i must say of my experience also!

CrimsonChyld

i met my boyfriend exactly like that:

Met randomly on a site,started sending messages before decide to give each other´s messenger adress and then passed onto the phone...hours and hours on the phone.

Im a Virgo so imagine the doubts in my head about meeting someone i didnt knew - and worst:meeting someone i started to have hight expectations and had strange and sudden feelings for...

"Someone i have never viewed face to face".

Dont need to say that it was Love at First Sight for both and started the relationship one month after.

Been together about 2 years now and all i have to say is that if i had my insecurities take the lead,i would not have met my SOulmate My Dear Jonnhy....

But Lara and DD are right:listen to oyour intuition the very 1st moment you out eyes on him - that will dictate the rest

Good Luck - i hope he´s a sweet and nice guy

If he is flying to meet you,that surely telss sth positive right away..

posted June 03, 2008 07:27 PM         

Until August 2007, when I somehow stumbled across his new online business. We started talking again, and I recently just drove out to meet him on May 19th (I'm 21 now, he's 24). It was hands down the best week of my life, I can't even describe it, it was something out of a fairytale.

Long story short, I'm positive he's my soulmate. I'm graduating in one more year, and I'm moving out to live near him right after. Marriage, children, etc. in the works...After 6 years, his and my feelings never changed. The absence only made us grow stronger...

I say follow your heart, it'll never let you down. Be open to anything!

posted June 03, 2008 10:11 PM         

From my experience, you can talk a lot of talk over the phone and emails. But there is something to be said about the chemistry between 2 people when they meet for the first time. It transcends all conversation.

I have had great convos with people, and the minute I met them, lost all hope.

Chemistry is more than just talking. Its about physical attraction, the 3-D image of that someone.

I would say don't get your hopes up. That way you won't be disappointed. And I wish you all the best.

posted June 04, 2008 01:19 PM         

I'm so nervous that I went and bought a couple of new outfits. I heard Cancer men love a well dressed woman lol.
It's not just so much the physical but how we connect with each other when we chat.
He was saying things that I was too afraid to say. Like he said how he just feels in his bones like this is somehow meant to be. Which is exactly how I feel. He said how he can't stop thinking about me, which is mutual. Among other odd things we have in common. Oh and I too am a Virgo. Not sure what the whole Virgo/Cancer connection will work, but I am eager to find out! I'll keep you posted.
Thanks again!

posted June 04, 2008 03:55 PM         

IM A Virgo girl and he´s a Cancer too hihihi

posted June 04, 2008 06:05 PM         

My ASC is Cancer as well, so that's a plus!

hehe I'll keep y'all posted