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Topic: Growing up without a father figure
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Mercury2008 Knowflake Posts: 59 From: Registered: May 2008
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posted June 05, 2008 11:34 AM
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Mercury2008 Knowflake Posts: 59 From: Registered: May 2008
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posted June 05, 2008 11:39 AM
Oh,, also, I was thinking maybe 10th house cusp ruler afflicting Sun?I heard also that Scorpio rules abandonment. So maybe Pluto aspects too? IP: Logged |
Mama Mia Knowflake Posts: 2828 From: Registered: Jun 2005
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posted June 05, 2008 11:41 AM
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Glaucus Knowflake Posts: 2761 From: Sacramento,California,USA Registered: Jul 2006
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posted June 05, 2008 12:25 PM
This is very personal for meI never knew my father because he had a drug problem. I was raised by my mother and stepfather. My stepfather was the only father figure that I knew. I haven't seen my stepfather since I was 18 years old after he and my mom broke up. Sun in Scorpio in 2nd conjunct retrograde Ixion(kuiper belt,plutino) - '04 conjunct Quaoar (kuiper belt,cubewano) - 2'57 trine Moon in Pisces in 6th quincunx Retrograde in Saturn in Gemini in 9th contraparallel Pluto in Libra in 1st Saturn is also thought to be the father Saturn in 9th conjunct Midheaven in Gemini Saturn oppose Jupiter-Neptune in Sagittarius in 3rd trine Pluto in Libra in 1st 10th house ruler (Mercury) in Scorpio conjunct/parallel Venus in Scorpio in 3rd contraparallel Saturn parallel Neptune as you see, there really aren't any cut and dry answers.
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GemGemGem Knowflake Posts: 341 From: Registered: Dec 2007
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posted June 05, 2008 12:34 PM
I agree with Mama Mia, about Sun in the 8th House. My daughter has this in her natal chart, and her father left us 1 month after her 1st birthday. He moved across country and visits once (for about 2 hours) every few months. I would say that counts as an absent father.IP: Logged |
Mama Mia Knowflake Posts: 2828 From: Registered: Jun 2005
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posted June 05, 2008 12:57 PM
GemGemGem, My son has his moon in the 8th house as well and his dad went away when my son was 6 months..He came back around when he was 12 years old, he is 17 now and they still have a somewhat estranged relationship..IP: Logged |
amowls Knowflake Posts: 866 From: Richmond, VA USA Registered: Dec 2007
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posted June 05, 2008 01:30 PM
Look to the 4th and 10th house cusps/rulers. The fourth can rule the father as well (it does in my chart at least).IP: Logged |
Inner depths Knowflake Posts: 545 From: The Greatest Outdoor Show on Earth City! Registered: May 2006
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posted June 05, 2008 01:31 PM
How about a 12th house Saturn in Taurus and a Tsquare with Sun-Mars-Uranus. My father hates children with a passion and has never been a part of my life since he was married to my mom. To this day he still will not have anything to do with kids. He doesn't even care that I have a 6 year old child....ID IP: Logged |
Astra Knowflake Posts: 553 From: Registered: May 2007
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posted June 05, 2008 07:49 PM
Moon square pluto= upheavels in family life Saturn in Leo Afflicted libra midheaven
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Unmoved Knowflake Posts: 2160 From: Born in S.Africa Registered: Jun 2007
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posted June 05, 2008 08:09 PM
edited: Let's say I am similar to what Glaucus described himself as. My chart ruler is Scorpio and my first house is tenanted by Scorpio Mars, Scorpio Jupiter, Sagittarius Uranus and is loaded by asteroids. My 12th house is also heavy, It is ruled by Virgo. it's tenants are (Saturn, Pluto and Mercuryin Libra). Let me break it down better for you: Asc: Scorpio Sun : Virgo (11th House) Moon: Cancer (10th House) Mercury: Libra (12th House) Venus: Virgo (11th House) Mars: Scorpio (1st House) Jupiter: Scorpio (1st House) Saturn: Libra (12th House) Uranus: Sagittarius (1st House) Neptune: Sagittarius (2nd House) Pluto: Libra (12th House) Chrion: Taurus (7th House) NN: Cancer (9th House) MC: Cancer 1. My 3rd and 4th houses are both ruled by Capricorn/Saturn. 2. Similarly 9th and 10th houses are ruled by Cancer/Moon. 3. 12th house tenants are square MC and Moon. (Moon is on MC exact) 4. Uranus squares my Sun. 5. Neptune squares my Venus 6. Chiron opposes Mars and Uranus. 7. My Scorpio placements are dignified twice or three times, so I am quite Plutonian. So, my Scorpio Mars is stronger than it would be were it in another house, and my Asc is very much how I express myself etc. 8. My Moon is also dignified. I hope this helps. I just briefly described my chart.
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triplecancer Knowflake Posts: 148 From: Registered: Jul 2006
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posted June 05, 2008 08:50 PM
My dad is an absent figure, though not completely. He`s there, but he's not. Does that make sense? He didn't dissapear completely from my life, but he hasn't been a strong figure. I have sun in the 12th. IP: Logged |
Mercury2008 Knowflake Posts: 59 From: Registered: May 2008
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posted June 05, 2008 08:57 PM
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triplepisces Knowflake Posts: 116 From: Registered: May 2008
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posted June 05, 2008 09:43 PM
I dont know how to explain these but some do surprisingly coincide...My dad also separated from mom and me since i was born. i saw him a couple of time. have a really bad childhood and the effects still live on lolz Pluto Scorpio 9°53'50 in house 8 retrograde Sun Pisces 8°50'17 end of house 12 direct
Moon Pisces 8°05'13 in house 12 direct Mercury Pisces 8°20'07 end of house 12 retrograde Imum Coeli Gemini 16°45'17 8th House Libra 18°59'53 Medium Coeli Sagittarius 16°45'17 I think at world-of-wisdom they have some software that interprets the part about childhood...i'm not sure, need to look up again...
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hippichick Knowflake Posts: 2236 From: The Ether Registered: Jan 2006
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posted June 05, 2008 10:48 PM
Sun in the 8th, never ever fails, either gone physically or emotionally, always gone!IP: Logged |
26taurus Knowflake Posts: 14953 From: * Registered: Jun 2004
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posted June 05, 2008 11:08 PM
From what an astrologer told me long ago you can almost always be sure the father wasnt there *in some way or another* when you see Sun Square Saturn.My brother and I both have it and my father disappeared when we were young. My brother's Sun is "moving up" to an exact square with his natal Saturn. Whereas my Sun(26Taurus) is two degrees past an exact square with my Saturn (24Leo). The astrologer could tell that my father not being around for us, affected him more painfully than it did me... IP: Logged |
Lucia23 Knowflake Posts: 560 From: Registered: Feb 2007
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posted June 06, 2008 12:27 AM
YEP, Sun in 8th!! My dad divorced my mom when I was two. He has tried to stay in my life, but...definitely distant.IP: Logged |
plutomaki Knowflake Posts: 73 From: Puruuto Registered: Apr 2008
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posted June 06, 2008 09:33 AM
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NeptunianFire Knowflake Posts: 49 From: Registered: Aug 2007
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posted June 07, 2008 12:42 AM
Sun in the 8th doesn't always mean the father was absent, physically or emotionally. I know people with this placement that this is not true for. Their fathers were just extremely strong or very controlling.Sun in the 12th, if any, is supposed to signify a father who was in the background, not a strong influence, or not there. This even makes more sense because the Sun signifies the father and a Sun in the 12th is the "hidden Sun." Though I think we can say any placement can mean a missing father emotionally or physically. Because unfortunately, it's just the case nowadays that the father is not available like he should be. IP: Logged |
DainBramaged Knowflake Posts: 338 From: miami Registered: Apr 2006
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posted June 07, 2008 01:31 AM
That would be Sun opposite Saturn, my dearIP: Logged |
GemGemGem Knowflake Posts: 341 From: Registered: Dec 2007
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posted June 07, 2008 08:38 PM
Mama Mia, I remember from a previous post that your son also has many planets in the 8th house just like my daughter, and from this post I see he also has a similar sun in 12th. I hope she will be artistic too. It's funny because she's only 19 months old, but everyone says she looks like a little grown up, always serious. Her father writes a one liner email once a month to see how she's doing. IP: Logged |
Arnicka Knowflake Posts: 1146 From: Registered: Jun 2004
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posted June 08, 2008 01:44 AM
Sun opposed Pluto can strongly hint at abuse/abandonment by the fatherIP: Logged |
yourfriendinspirit Knowflake Posts: 2789 From: California, USA Registered: Oct 2006
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posted June 08, 2008 03:30 AM
.Sun in eighth here with a completely different view... My father was not only ALWAYS a part of my life both physically and emotionally, but also spiritually. He has been my strongest supporter and strength in life. Very involved with us kids while growing up, always the first to volunteer time coaching our teams, taking us camping, teaching us to draw, read, write, play games, etc. He taught us each very strong morals, work ethics, life skills, etc. and even today is a very wonderful part of our lives. He and my mother stayed married all through our childhoods and separated only after we were all married and moved off to other states, LOL! Through thick and thin this man has stood beside me offering support, friendship, advice, and comfort. He drove three states away to be at my side when my daughter was born prematurely... He sat beside her incubator and read aloud and talked with her for nearly 2 weeks while doctors assured us she wouldn't live yet another 24 hours... He held faith, he shared love and hope. He held "me" together... So in light of this I'll certainly say an eight house sun is not a clear indicator of an absent father. My husband however has had no contact with his father from the get go. He has also had the loss or absence of a stepfather from a very young age. His Sun and Moon (both Pisces) are in the 12 house conjunct... Perhaps another key to the mystery are those with Sun and Moon close together? IP: Logged |
Maire31 Knowflake Posts: 380 From: SOFLA, USA Registered: Oct 2006
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posted June 08, 2008 02:26 PM
I've read that Saturn Rx in the natal chart signifies an absent father.My son and I each have Sun in our 8th houses. His Saturn is Rx and mine is not. I divorced his father when my son was 3 and his father relocated across country not long after. Their relationship has lain dormant for nearly 12 years and only now is it beginning to evolve. My father was always in my life, however his job was such he was away from home more than he was there. IP: Logged |
Glaucus Knowflake Posts: 2761 From: Sacramento,California,USA Registered: Jul 2006
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posted June 11, 2008 11:31 AM
There could be another indicator for absent father. conjunction,square,opposition of Sun and Black Moon.I have Sun conjunct retrograde True Black Moon(osculating lunar apogee - h13 at astro.com) with 22 minutes of arc. Sun-Black Moon conjunction: Being conjunct to the Sun makes the Black Moon extremely powerful. Especially (but not only) in a female chart, a major aspect of Black Moon to the Sun tends to create a 'Lilith character': strong-willed,stubborn, independent mind and lover of freedom, original,non-conformist, rebellious, passionately disliking routines and enslavement at large. Lilith was the woman who did not need Adam and left him - not a common thing to do in early biblical times - one reason being that she bluntly refused to lie under him during lovemaking. There is a profound need to go beyond limitations of all kinds. This, naturally, leads the native to challenge establishment. At times, it will create difficulties; a Lilith character does not hesitate to tell her/his boss what she/he thinks of him, and can't give a damn about consequences once she/he has made up her mind to do something. The eyes shine, at times defiantly. The personality is sharp, with a marked taste for intensity. This, in Clairvision language, corresponds to violent astrality - venom in large measure! There are strong likes and dislikes, and a tendency to know immediately whether one likes someone or not. This may have to do with the profound insights into the psychological motivations of other people. Being herself/himself so well in touch with her/his shadow, the native has a fine understanding of other people's psyche. A Lilith character is often subtle, with a great sense of nuances, and an EXTREME sensitivity. Problems with the father: With this aspect, it is not rare to find that the native had major problems with the father (especially in the chart of a female). Either the father was absent, or perceived as absent, or was fought against. There is likely to be some deeply rooted wound in the psyche, relating to the father, with profound consequences on the whole organisation of the personality. In symbolical terms this conflict with the father goes far beyond childhood scenarios. It is the father image, in its widest meaning,which is involved here. Think of Lilith, angry at God for making her subjected to Adam's authority (and patriarchal establishment at large), and lamenting, "How could He [God the Father] do that to me?" It is the same wound that you are carrying. It was so deep that it never healed. When experienced on its highest level, a major aspect of Black Moon to the Sun can make the native quite psychic: premonitory dreams,intuition, natural affinity with the hidden mysteries of life, and clairvoyance. All that stuff is true about me....especially absent father(never knew him) and I fought against my stepfather too. I do have a Lilith-type personality. My mother is a Lilith-type person too,and I was dominated by her,growing up. ------------------ Stop The Misdiagnosing Of Neurodivergents http://www.thepetitionsite.com/1/stop-the-misdiagnosing-of-neurodivergents IP: Logged |
plutomaki Knowflake Posts: 73 From: Puruuto Registered: Apr 2008
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posted June 11, 2008 11:35 AM
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