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Topic: brother and boyfriend 12/21/71. too soft...
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taurusvirgoleolady1974
Knowflake Posts: 270
From: where I am
Registered: May 2008
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posted June 08, 2008 10:11 PM
 
does anyone know a person whose dob is 12/21/71. my brother and recently ex boyfriend are exactly alike and now i know why my brother is still single. these men are doormats i tell ya and are attracted to crazy women. and they do not know how to take no for an answer after you break up with them. my ex was scared to talk and was scared i was going to beat him up he would actually flinch. Because his ex wives abused him and also his dad did too. and now he doesnt know how to be with a real woman! THEY ARE REALLY NICE GUYS THO. REALLY SADIP: Logged |
blue moon
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From: U.K
Registered: Dec 2007
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posted June 09, 2008 05:56 AM
I guessed on the town. It gives some of the major aspects about that day.  It's not just this day though. Some men seem to be a magnetic for neurotic/psychotic women. Got a couple of friends like that, I always thought maybe it was a combination of gentle and sensible that did it. IP: Logged |
gert
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From: south africa
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted June 09, 2008 07:30 AM
I think its more psychological than it is chart-based.Most men who have been victims of abuse tend to be attracted to women who end up exhibiting those traits of their abusers. I have noticed that people from broken down families tend to be very inwardly focused and very timid about many things while others can be very agressive and fight with all people they meet. There tends to be a waiver between these two extremes. Often when a man/woman is "too soft" in a relationship, the other party starts to exhibit the more aggressive traits the former partner is suppressing. Most of us are made of both agressive and passive energies and sometimes over-identifying with either one can force other people to identify with the other in any relationship whether it is business,social or a relationship! IP: Logged |
taurusvirgoleolady1974
Knowflake Posts: 270
From: where I am
Registered: May 2008
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posted June 09, 2008 01:28 PM
yes that is very true, but my brother did not grow up in an abusive home, and our mom doesnt act like that, so he was not exposed to that. the more the psycho girls play with his mind the more nice he gets, which just ends up a bigger mess. also with moon in aquarius and mars in pisces does not help. both of them are very non-confrontational. they would rather give you your way than speak their mind. my ex also was very aloof, like i would tell a joke (funny, yes) or we would watch tv and he would just sit there like he was on another planet. he keeps calling and sending me flowers but he needs to learn to love himself before he loves me!IP: Logged |
amowls
Knowflake Posts: 866
From: Richmond, VA USA
Registered: Dec 2007
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posted June 09, 2008 06:09 PM
Is it just me or does it seem like ALL guys are attracted to the crazies (just like how guys say all women are attracted to assholes I guess lol)? It just seems like every guy I like chooses a psycho over me. For instance, this guy I had a crush on was dating me and this other girl, and he started officially going out with her instead and turned out she was abusive and LITERALLY crazy (like slitting wrists during fights, throwing used tampons, etc). And then I was seeing this other guy a month ago and he said that the only girl he would ever marry was his ex girlfriend from high school who used to pull crazy stunts like lying and saying she had to go to the hospital for suicidal thoughts to guilt trip him. And now I'm seeing this guy that says "I really liked this other girl because she was so complicated! You're too easy sometimes."WTF. /rant IP: Logged |
blue moon
Moderator Posts: 4700
From: U.K
Registered: Dec 2007
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posted June 09, 2008 06:13 PM
The novelty does tend to wear off. But if you stick around someone who throws used tampons ... that's just foul. Maybe she's got some medical problems but even so... IP: Logged |
yaosers
Knowflake Posts: 79
From: Bay Area, California / Shenzhen, China
Registered: Jun 2008
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posted June 10, 2008 02:30 AM
Thr... throwing used tampons?! Holy shet, that's hilarious, in a terrible way! ROFL  LMAO ROFLMAO Damn. No, I'm totally not attracted to the crazy wenches. However, I've only been able to have romantic relationships with ones who either aren't that sensitive to my moods, or pee me off the more they try to comfort me, or who do not understand romance. There has been no real (bad) blood between any of my ex-gfs and me; thank goodness. ------------------
Sun: Pisces
Moon: Scorpio
Mercury: Aries
Venus: Aquarius
Mars: Pisces
Jupiter: Cancer
Saturn: Virgo
Uranus: Scorpio
Neptune: Sagittarius
Pluto: Libra
Lilith: Leo
Asc node: Virgo From ]http://cafeastrology.com IP: Logged |
luv and light
Knowflake Posts: 49
From: L.A. CA USA
Registered: Apr 2008
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posted June 10, 2008 03:15 AM
as far as being "soft" ... that day has a Saturn/neptune oppostion in the chart , as well as saturn/neptune contra-parallel. The same pattern appears in the Heliocentric chart, Saturn/Neptune oppposition, Saturn/Neptune contra parallel.. As far as these guys being "really nice".. They would have a triple parallel of Sun/Venus/Jupiter.. which seems to me, would add quite a bit of charm amd likeability to there charts. IP: Logged |
blue moon
Moderator Posts: 4700
From: U.K
Registered: Dec 2007
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posted June 10, 2008 05:08 AM
Saturn Opp Neptune is a generational aspect, and it's a stinker. It's Trine/Sextile Venus in Capricorn here, that makes me think 'stoical'. You have to be because this one is a misery-bringer when it gets personal. As I know well. Mars/Pluto is important in this story, I do feel. People with these aspects are often quite gentle, and somehow seem to open themselves up to abuse. Pluto is hidden, Mars is aggression, so I think there is suppression of aggressive urges. Here they are in a disassociated opposition with Mars in Pisces. Now that is a Mars sign that doesn't excude strident aggression in the first place. My father has Aquarius Moon and Mars in Pisces. He's a very understanding person. He's not a doormat though. IP: Logged |
taurusvirgoleolady1974
Knowflake Posts: 270
From: where I am
Registered: May 2008
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posted June 13, 2008 09:09 AM
yes but nice means different things to different people. Nice to me means respectful, considerate, and well mannered. Your version of nice may be a bit different than mine. This person was all of the above to me but just not the one for me for different reasons. Thanks for the input though!IP: Logged |
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