posted June 12, 2008 02:47 PM         

I don`t have a relationship with him, other than working with him, but I guess we basically like each other; at least I think so, since his eyes lighten up everytime we meet in the building.
There`s no attraction, or attempts to make it more than just a professional, harmonious work-relationship, but it`s pleasant to be working with someone, with whom you get along.

So, I thought this could serve as an example for relationships that are just nice and pleasant, and not intense, and not fraught with painful attractions and so on.

Here is what I found:

Rule 1:
My DC trine his Sun
my DC trine his Pluto*
my DC trine his Valentine*

my DC conjunct his dr Karma

Rule 2:
his Sun trine my Pluto*
his Sun trine my SN
his SAturn opposes my Sun
his Pluto conjuncts my MC
His NN conjuncts my Sun
his Amor trine my Sun*
his Valentine conjunct my Pluto
his Valentine conjunct my MC

his dr Sun conjunct my dr Antivertex*
his Venus conjunct my dr Pluto
his dr Pluto conjunct my Venus
his dr Mars opposes my Moon*
his pluto conjunct my dr Karma*
his Amor conjunct my dr Venus*
his dr Amor opposes my dr Pltuo*
his Valentine conjunct my dr Karma
his dr Karma conjunct my dr Moon

other asteroids:

his Chiron conjunct my dr Sun*
his dr Chiron conjunct my Saturn
his dr Chiron conjunct my Vertex
his dr Chiron conjunct my Eros
my Chiron conjunct his Parvati

his Juno conjunct my dr Pluto
his juno conjunct my dr MC
his dr Juno conjunct my dr Isis and dr Osiris

my Juno conjunct his Kaali*
my dr Juno opposes his dr VAlentine
my dr Juno opposes his dr Pluto

his Karma conjunct my dr Siva
his dr Karma opposes my Mars

his dr Valentine conjunct my dr Isis and dr Osirs

my dr Valentine conjunct his Kaali

his Amor trine my Parvati
his Amor conjunct my dr Isis and dr Osiris
my Amor conjunct his dr Siva

his Eros conjunct my dr Pluto and dr MC
his dr Eros conjunct my dr Venus, dr Isis and dr Osiris

my Eros conjunct his Parvati
my dr Eros opposes his dr Sun

his dr Psyche conjunct my dr Sun

his Isis conjunct my dr Saturn

my Isis and Osiris conjunct his dr Pluto and dr Valentine

his Osiris trine my Juno and Eros

his Siva conjunct my Parvati*

my Siva opposes his Mars

his Kaali trine my Saturn

I really didn`t expect such aspects this time.
ROFL

Well, it`s quite noticeable that there are about 6 aspects with his Amor and 5 aspects to his Valentine and Eros, while there are only 2 aspects to my Eros and, 1 aspect to my Valentine and 1 to my Amor.

Hmm, I wonder what that means.

posted June 12, 2008 03:01 PM         

That's just a brilliant back-fire LOL

Congratulations - l wish you all the happiness in the world.

posted June 12, 2008 03:23 PM         

yes, I said it, NO CHEMISTRY; NO ATTRACTION!

A certain liking, yes, but from my side no attraction.

EDIT:

This is so weird. I looked into the composite and there is:

- Sun conjunct Venus EXACTLY
- Pluto conjunct Siva EXACTLY
- Uranus conjunct Valentine (3)
- Isis conjunct Neptune and Neptune conjunct Osiris (strange)

BUT
- Sun / Venus exactly squares Chiron

And there is not much else in the composite, as far as I see it.

We even have a nice aspect in the progressed synastry:

my progressed Sun is EXACTLY conjunct his natal Venus (o°07).
Since his natal Venus is retograde, and just has turned to direct motion, my progressed Sun is ALSO conjunct his progressed Venus with an orb of 2° and approaching.

And again it`s his Venus that is triggered, not mine. Hmm.

posted June 12, 2008 04:28 PM         

However, it seems more understandable if you only take the tropical into consideration with only the important planets and Karma, Valentine, Amor and Eros.

His Sun:
sextile my Neptune
trine my Pluto
sextile my NN
sextile my ASC

My Sun:
conjunct his NN
opposite his Saturn
sextile his Uranus
trine his Amor

my Moon:
probably sextile his Moon
square his Mars
conjunct his Jupiter widely
sextile his Chiron

his Mercury:
widely sextile my Mercury

my Mercury:
opposes his Saturn#
conjuncts his NN
sextile his Uranus

his Venus:
square my Uranus
sextile my Amor

my Venus:
square his Pluto
square his Valentine

his Mars:
square my Moon
sextile my Saturn

my Mars:
sextile his Pluto
square his Karma

his Karma:
trine my Uranus
square my Mars
square my Amor

my Karma:
sextile his Chiron

his Valentine:
square my Venus
conjunct my Pluto
conjunct my MC
sextile my ASC

my Valentine:
sextile his Eros

his Amor:
trine my Sun
trine my Mercury

my Amor:
square his Karma
sextile his Venus

his Eros:
sextile my Valentine

my Eros:
-------

This doesn`t look all too intense, except for the Valentine-Pluto-conjunction, does it?

Also, my DC-ruler (Mercury) only has those aspects with his chart:
- opposes his Satunr
- conjunct his NN
- trine his Amor
- sextile his Uranus

my 5th house ruler would be Venus (Placidus) or Mars (equal):

so for Placidus my 5th ruler would:
- square his Pluto and Valentine

for equal my 5th ruler would:
- sextile his Pluto
- squar ehis Karma

There are no strong aspects to MY Valentine and Amor or Eros (strong aspects being: conjunction, opposition, trine).
And my Venus only has this square to Pluto and Valentine.

Maybe ther eis the secret of the "Non-attraction"?

posted June 13, 2008 10:27 AM         

His Saturn opposes your Sun - this may give him an immediate feeling that you're not his romantic type, and never would be, but he still respects you.

His Mars also opposes your moon - this probably disinclines him from pursuing you romantically.

Affinity has more to do with major natal aspects, signs and houses than aspects. For example, I have Pisces Mars in the 1st house, and I tend to have affinities with men who have strong a Pisces, Neptunian, Aries, or Mars "flavor" about them, regardless to what our actual cross aspects are. Another thing I've noticed is that I'm drawn to people who are very Mercurial - Virgos, Geminis, people with strong Mercury aspects or a prominent 3rd house - because my Mercury conjuncts my Sun. I feel like a identify with this people, that there's a rapport. Another example is if you have 9th house Sun, moon, Venus, or Mars - you may find yourself attracted often to people who have active 9th houses or significant planets or aspects in the 9th that give them a 9th house vibe. I have a friend who has a 9th house Venus, and she always finds herself attracted to men with 9th house Suns, regardless to other indicators of attraction.

posted June 13, 2008 11:38 AM         

you are absolutely right. I`m relieved someone else mentioned the affinities this time. I started feeling like I was a broken record in the other threads.

And I think that is the real reason behind the lack of attraction.

His Venus is on 0° Aquarius, and I NEVER feel attracted to men with Venus in a Yang-sign.
Also, usually I need strong aspects to my Venus to be attracted. Here we only have the square to Pluto. And as much as I like Venus-Pluto, it`s just not enough; there has to be some personal planets involved in this.

Also, I have Venus in Capricorn square Pluto. And I`m really looking for this in a man, I think. An earthy Venus with an aspect to Pluto, or at least Mars / ASC-Pluto-connections.
He has the Sun trine hsi Pluto - but it`s not enough.

My Mars falls into my 12th house and conjuncts Neptune - so Venus/ Neptune or Mars/Neptune would be a requirement, too. As far as I can see it he doesn`t have it.

Also, MErcury is my DSC-ruler and it is in my 1st house (Aries-house); I need strong Mercurial-aspects in synastry; they are really attractive to me.
There`s not much going on in synastry with MErcury except for a sextile of his Mercury to my Mercury, and my Mercury sextile his Uranus and opposing his Saturn (this is not what I look for in MErcury-aspects btw ).
He has a Mercury-Jupiter-conjunction and I have Mercury in Sagittarius natally, so that is a level of compatibility, mental compatibility.

His Venus is in Aquarius and squares his Uranus; my Venus is in Capricorn and squares my Pluto - this alone screams a loud NO; Uranus and Pluto are in some cases just plainly incompatible.

His Sun, Mercury, Jupiter and Venus are in Aquarius, and my Moon is in Aquarius, so there is a basic compatibility with my emotional nature I guess.
Also his Moon is in Aries, which fits to my Fire - Sun, Mercury, Mars and ASC.

His Taurus Mars is probably much to earthy, solid and grounded for my Mars in SAgittarius squaring Jupiter and conjunct Neptune.

And on top of that the synastry (without asteroids) shows a definite lack of Venus-aspects. Not good.

posted June 13, 2008 11:39 AM         

I have another coworker, and the case with him is a bit different; it feels like there is not much compatibility between us, we really don`t have anything in common, and we don`t notice each other for weeks, until we bump into each other again, and there`s some attraction on my part to him (not earthshattering and btw he`s really out of my league); there`s sometimes an almost flirtative athmosphere between us, not strongly, hmm, maybe not really flirtative, but some kind of "spicey smalltalk" - it`s just fun, for we often share the same kind of humour, and our verbal banter (it`s not THAT bad) is very revitalizing I think for both of us. It`s just a bit of fun.

However, as I said this case is a bit different.

His Sun and Moon fall into Scorpio into my 12th house (but almost in Sagittarius - just one day early) - and they don´t have aspects to other planets, but his Sun and Moon both are conjunct my Amor and Valentine.

However, this is what I sense as an absolute lack of basic compatibility. He is coming from a total different world.

His Mars is conjunct his Sun and Moon, but is already in Sagittarius and widely conjuncts my Mars.

His Mercury is in Sagittarius and sits exactly on my ASC and conjuncts my Mars, Neptune and NN - there we have the Mercury-emphasis, I like so much, again.

Of course my Mars in Sagittarius square Jupiter really likes his Mars in Sagittarius, which opposes his Jupiter.
He`s lacking this mystical, dreamy attitude (my Mars conjunct Neptune), that I like, though.

Our Moons are very incompatible, unless he was born in the evening or night, then his Moon would be in SAgittarius, and fit my Sagittarius-Stellium including Sun quite well.
But if he really has a Scorpio-Moon, there`s another clash with my Aquarius-Moon.
There are no good Moon-aspects either; his Saturn opposes my Moon; well, I think SAturn-Moon-aspects can be very binding and lasting, I know, because I have a double whamm of Moon-Saturn square and opposition with my best friend, BUT our Moons are basically compatible (hers in Aries sextiles mine in Aquarius exactly; her Moon is also in her 11th house).
But in this case, the incompatibility of our Moons AND the Saturn opposition to my Moon spells a lot withdrawel, rejection, disinterest I think.

But the interesting part is our Venus-positions.

His Capricorn-Venus is square his Pluto, as my Capricorn-Venus squares my Pluto.
They are actually closely conjunct, and my Pluto squares his Venus.

This is not an easy aspect, but it probably is the only way to explain why there is this slight attraction despite a very obvious incompatibility.

Well, if I look at the asteroids:
his Sun conjuncts my AMor and Valentine
his Mars ocnjuncts my Amor and Valentine
his Karma conjuncts my Valentine

And in the DRaco`s there´s an exact double whammy on Venus-Mars:
his dr Venus opposite my Mars
his dr Mars conjunct my dr Venus

Alont with
his dr Sun conjuncts my dr Venus exactly

his dr Venus conjunct my dr Moon

his dr Karma conjunct my dr Venus

and some more.

But those both synastries tell me, that it`s not enough to just list the synastric aspects; you really have to look at the natals first and see if you fit in each other`s "type" AND if there is basic compatibility.

In the first case there was basic compatibility (especially emotional and mental), but no attraction.
He needs a Venus-uransu-woman, and even though I have a Moon in Aquarius, I am not very Uranian in Venusian matters.

In the second case there seems to be some attraction on the Venusian level, but not much more than that (except for a bit of mental stimulation).

DD