posted June 20, 2008 11:44 AM         

I have been thinking about this lately because I am pretty sure I am breaking up with my long-term boyfriend this weekend. I know it sounds weird to say it so non-chalantly but it's really that clear to me.

I realized that there are just some people you can communicate with and others who you cannot. There is certainly some effort involved, I will admit. But I guess what I'm trying to say is that there is a blockage of some sort with certain individuals that I never seem to be able to overcome.

It may simply come down to understanding. We all have people who just "get" us. These are the people we need to be surrounded by, and enter into committed relationships with. Instead, we try so hard to make it work with someone we want to be with.

After nearly 2 years I finally realized he will never 'get' me and I will never 'get' him. It's an amazing feeling to know why you have been unhappy.

Anyway, please share your thoughts and experiences with this idea. I'm curious.

posted June 20, 2008 12:09 PM         

Poor communication trashes relationships. Misunderstandings, failing to tell someone how you feel, etc, etc.

My marriage has not been one long honeymoon, as well as anything else we have had many family problems to deal with summed up astrologically with a synastry fixed Grand Cross.

But our Mercurys are in Trine with a 1* orb. Both in Earth signs, his is Capricorn, mine is Taurus. Through everything we have managed to find solutions and talk things over. I don't think we would be together if we didn't have that going.

Two of my closest friends have Mercurys close to my Mars in Aquarius, they are both also Aqua Suns. I feel really comfortable around them as though there is a natural understanding.

posted June 20, 2008 12:30 PM         

Love comes with some strong blinders that keep us from seeing the truth sometimes. And when it blinds communication problems, it can turn out to be a real doozy later on.

I say good luck to you and I hope you find someone whom you can share the rest of your life with who you have great communication with.

posted June 20, 2008 01:05 PM         

i soooo agree with that. and i feel there are few who truly understand you and whom u can communicate with. my best friend and i have exactly opposite asc. mine is 26 deg libra(sidereal) and hers is 26 deg aries(sidereal) which means all our angles are conjunct more or less. i dont know if that has anything to do with it. our mercury's dont aspect one another. i have mercury sextile her moon and square her nep. her mercury opposes my jupiter. even though i think our aspects are not that strong we think on the same wavelength. i can share almost everything with her. and we talk about stuff we wud not be able to talk about with anyone else.

but i guess in a romantic relationship things are a little more complicated. i dont know what kind of synastry is needed but i think every aspect of the relationship has to be in tune....mental, physical, emotional, spiritual. it all goes hand in hand. and if any one of those is not in sync, the balance is lost. anyways back to the point...its very important that ur guy undetrstands you and you understand him coz thats the foundation of a relationship. i also think that everyone is different and some effort must also be made in trying to understand, and some effort should also be made in making yourself communicate more clearly. but of course there is nothing like someone understanding you without you having to make the effort! if only that was THAT easy!! god knows i've had a tough time trying to be clear and make myself understood.some ppl just dont understand and some just dont want to!

hope you are ok?

posted June 21, 2008 08:14 PM         

Yeah, love rarely makes 'logical' choices, or even ones that make sense! Especially here in Lindaland,we like to think like she did, that Love can conquer all obstacles!

I know for myself, I NEED that moon/mercury connection. I always thought before I needed that yummy their Sun conj. my Venus, until I had it with 2 different men, and they had ISSUES!! I had the whole head over heels infatuation, but...meh. Now my new guy and I have double whammy of Venus Square Sun! But we also have the double whammy of moon trine Mercury, and moon trine moon. Wow. I feel so safe with him, and the communcation and the ability to talk about all kinds of things is amazing...and a big attraction to me.