posted August 12, 2008 04:15 PM         

My ex-husband was one, and that was a complete disaster, he was a cheater, a liar, a druggie, and a womanizer. (I sure know how to pick'em don't I?) But I can't help myself. I am so drawn to Sag's.

This guy is 16 yrs older than me, and so far has treated me with such kindness and care. When he asks me out, he does so in a way that is so chivalrous, he says, "When will I have the honor of spending time with you again?" It' so sweet, it makes me giggle like a school girl.

We've been seeing eachother for over a month, and he still has not even tried to kiss me. I think it's sweet, but also maddening. I think he is beautiful, and he makes me happy, but also scares the crap out of me, cause my feelings for him are so strong sometimes.

If it were up to me, I would put him in my pocket and take him with me everywhere. (But in a non-psycho way) haha.

It's been a while since I've liked someone like this, so just wondering if anyone can see anything special, or that seems to stand out about our synastry and composite.

Any comments are welcome!
Thanks so much!

Synastry:

Composite:

posted August 13, 2008 08:43 AM         

Writesomething, the strong Pisces element in our composite worries me a little too. Our composite is very similar to that of my ex-husband and I, and we all know how awful that turned out. I do however feel like my feelings for him are stronger than his feelings for me, or should I say his feelings seem more "sober" than mine. I am totally up in the clouds. It was like this with my ex as well. (Do I see a pattern here?) I still remember the day we decided to get divorced, and my ex told me he thought he had never really been in love with me after all...not even on our wedding day. A knife in my heart! I guess that is the effects of a strong Pisces/Neptune influence in the composite....you think something is really there, but then as time goes by, you realize it was just an illusion.

posted August 14, 2008 10:08 AM         

He says, "Everytime I take you out, drive you home, offer to cook for you, or want to see you, I don't want you to think I'm doing it with the motivation to win you over, or impress you. I do everything with an expectation of friendship only. If in the future, it turns into something more, of course I will be the happiest man alive, but I don't want you to feel pressured, or feel I am doing anything with that kind of motivation."

posted August 14, 2008 11:54 AM         

This is hard to explain. Maybe this will help me make sense. I've always said that I don't ever want to get married, but that I would like to be married. I had an idea in my mind of what marriage is and I wanted to be in a relationship that matched that idea for a long time before "getting" married. I don't like to precede a relationship with a label, but instead label what already exists (if I even use a label, but that's my prominent Uranus talking & a whole other topic ).

So what your Sag with a Cap stellium said reminded me very much of that way of approaching relationships. When doing things for you, his expectation won't be for more than what you two already have. That doesn't mean he doesn't want more, just that he sees what you two have at this moment and his actions are based on sustaining and enjoying that. Once your relationship becomes more, his actions will be done with the expectation of sustaining and enjoying that level of relationship.

So if you're looking for passion and unbridled lust, my hunch is that will come out after your relationship has progressed to a sexual level. In love, Cap gets stronger and freer with time. He'll really let himself start to feel all that once your relationship is already at that stage. I don't think you're dealing with a man lacking in passion--Sag sun, Scorpio moon, and Aries asc. Hoo boy. It's just that his relationship planets are in Cap, and Cap wants something to be real (already exists) before feeling what that planet represents.

So how do you get to that stage? You could wait for him to make a move, or your could go ahead and do it yourself. Probably in his mind, he already made a move by letting you know how happy he would be if your relationship developed into that. You don't have to pounce on him , but maybe a simple, "Kiss me," will be enough to get that Cappy venus and mars started.

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My mom says this is how older people are...more calm and sober about relationships.

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posted August 14, 2008 03:28 PM         

So I played along, and said, "Ok, so I guess I'll have to find some other guy, who does want to sleep with me."

And then he quickly says, "I don't have any plans just to sleep with you, because I believe in making love!" I almost spit out all my food! haha. I have never in my life heard a guy say they wanted to make love!

I agree with you that Cappie's are old souls! My best friend is a Cap, and she is wise beyond her years!