posted August 14, 2008 04:47 PM            

They were married for over 40 years and had 4 children together(5 if including my mother who was from my grandfather's first marriage which was very short) until my grandfather's suicide,but that had nothing to do with my grandmother. My grandfather had a long history of alcoholism and had Hepatitis C as well as cirrhosis of the liver. There was definitely some co-dependence in the marriage.

my grandfather was my stepgrandmother's first and only love. She met him when she was 13,and he was 19. They got married 3 years later.

interestingly, my grandfather's Moon was in alignment with Markab which is known as the Star of Sorrow. That also means that my stepgrandmother's South Node is in alignment with Markab too. The dispositor of my grandfather's Moon in Pisces, Neptune opposed his Stationary Saturn in Pisces.

I think that there are other factors besides the South Node that can indicate being held back. Many couples have conjunctions of the South Lunar Nodes,and don't feel that way. South Lunar Nodes in synastry can indicate an instant feeling of familiarity which could be from a possible pastlife if you believe in reincarnation.

also conjunctions and other aspects to the geocentric south planetary nodes(especially the nodes of the objects that orbit before Jupiter) can indicate possible pastlife connection.

South Lunar Node is also known as Ketu in Vedic Astrology, and its known as the planet of liberation,detachment but also loss and suffering. Those tended to be connected.

posted August 14, 2008 05:20 PM              

SN and Venus (Virgo/9th house) are also tighly conjunct (orb 1) Prudentia, Deceit, Sensitivity and Atlantis - and I have been wondering whether my perception of love might be "outdated" in this lifetime...? Whether I should compromise my moral/ethic ideas of love for the sake of more ... "easy going" ...?

I also feel a certain tension between my love life and my need to expres myself intellectually/professionally. BUT: My Venus-cj-SN trines beautifully my Juno and Ceres in 5th house.

posted August 14, 2008 05:33 PM            

Also, Lindaland is a great forum for sharing ideas. If someone feels 'something' for 'some reason' based on an astrological aspect, then so be it. Let's add it to our repertoire of knowledge, and use it for further evalutaions.

I don't often say things like this, but I will.... I think it's a bit unfair to say someone is a bit unfair for what they are deducing. Otherwise, everything that everyone is saying here on the Astrology forum is unfair.

I won't even charge 2 cents for that. That's my Leo generosity!

Have a great day, knowflakes

posted August 14, 2008 06:02 PM              

Thanks for your support. I'll check that thread out.

posted August 14, 2008 06:08 PM            

Holding me back, well yes, from the freedom to do exactly what I like. So maybe it is just as well. As for life purpose, my NN and Mars in the 3rd, he is the person most likely to tell me to put that to good use and that I shouldn't sell myself short.

posted August 15, 2008 06:05 AM            

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I've got my own VENUS exactly conjunct my SN in Virgo.

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an interpretation of that could be that until you learn to love yourself that you can't move forward with (or to) omeone else.

i have virgo in south node/pisces north node too. i highly recommend jan spiller's book "astrology for the soul" if you want to learn more about this. it's brilliant.

posted August 16, 2008 04:33 PM            

As for the SN holding one back, I still haven't decided if that's true. I think that it indicates (often intense) past life associations and therefore, until both people agree to work through those previous life issues, it may indeed feel as though we are being held back from moving forward. This might be expecially true if only one person is interested in growth.

Having said that, I also think that you need to consider NN aspects as well. I have my current bf's SN conjuncting my Moon and my SN conjuncting his Jupiter and sometimes I do feel like I am being held back. (Maybe he does too?) We also have NN conjunct NN and so there's also a sense of moving in a very similar direction together through life. My NN is also conjunct his Vertex.

posted August 16, 2008 05:52 PM              

Just a quick note: "astrology for the soul" I also found that the sidereal placement also said a little about myself as well.

posted August 17, 2008 01:17 AM            

ah, brilliant idea. i would never have thought of that. i'm off to astro.com right now. thanks for that.

EDIT: now that gives me aquarius nn, but still in 12th house. aqua is also my moon sign. i always find that when i look at the different types of charts - draco, trop, etc - that they always seem to correspond with each other in some way - say the same thing even through different placements - even numerology and personality type fits perfectly with my astrology. really fascinates me.

back to "astrology of the soul". the nodes are the first things i look at in a chart. i really think they're the most important placements. also, if you find that book valuable - jan spiller has another one which is just amazing and talks about each planet in each sign and house. it's called "spiritual astrology" and it is just brilliant. highly highly highly recommend it to anyone and everyone. if you've seen it you'll know what i mean. it also discusses eclipse signs in brilliant detail.

posted June 12, 2011 09:31 PM            

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I dont like to be on any anyone's south node. I dont want to be in someone's life and "hold them back" on their life purpose. I feel like with these connections, theres a lot of ease/closeness, but would never want to be the reason theyre not growing.

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I hear ya, feel the same way about SN. But if there are any trines or even sextiles to their NN, they probably won't feel so held back.

And I think I've read at cafeastrology that the SN person may eventually outgrow the relationship and move on, but I don't find that to be true. People who touch my SN/Pluto always leave first. It's the NN/Vertex people that sticks around for me. Guess they know I still need some help growing into my NN.